What goes around comes around

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Several weeks ago I walked out on a marriage that has shaken my life such that I’m left with nothing but my skills, focus, and ability to get on with my life to do better things. I can only describe my last four years as a ‘win-lose’ situation. Her, and her family (read, tribe), just kept on winning and winning – and I continued to compromise, appease, give up my wants/needs in some misguided hope of getting my power back. Well, I only got my power back after her final ultimatum, when I decided to grow some b~~~~, pack my bags and walk out.

So, my question to the forum – do you believe what goes around comes around, and have you seen it happen to those that got the advantage over you?

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

I believe in karma all the HB7/8 back in the day I run into now and then totally miserable, good you got out before the trap was set. New chapter in your life a lot to look forward. Anyways welcome to the forums. Did she hit you with alimony or like take any of your s~~~?

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

@akhilleus – she has the family I wanted and our daughter. As for alimony or anything else, that remains for a future chapter as I’m currently consulting with a lawyer and accountant. There’s not much for her left to take anyway.

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Hope it works out bro.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Akhilleus wrote:

HB7/8

Excuse me, what does this mean?

[HitmanParticipant]

listen to my brother redpillbible.
time is needed to see what happens.
.
when my ex left with the kid i was devastated.
now i am with the kid more than she is,
and my life went from borderline suicidal,
to AMAZING.
i personally give the glory to God,
call it the universe or karma..
time will help when it seems like the darkest hour.
.
stand fast and weather the storm.
you won’t be sorry you did.

[Anonymous 18]

Your investment in making sure she gets what she deserves is natural. At this stage of your separation.

The best revenge is to live well.

I held on to some vague thoughts of karma dealing with the woman I had in my life.

What goes around, goes around.

The person that were you is dead. That man who let her and others take advantage of you had to learn. He did and in doing so whatever you are now is the future.

She will always be a part of your life because of your daughter. But avoid investing in revenge or jealousy.

The strange thing is you will be drinking the poison of hatred and expecting her to die for it. Life doesn’t work that way.

You are born again and thus starts your journey. Avoid investing emotionally in a woman ever again.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Anonymous wrote:

You investment in making sure she gets what she deserves is natural. At this stage of your separation.

The best revenge is to live well.

I held on to some vague thoughts of karma dealing with the woman I had in my life.

What goes around, goes around.

The person that were you is dead. That man who let her and others take advantage of you had to learn. He did and in doing so whatever you are now is the future.

She will always be a part of your life because of your daughter. But avoid investing in revenge or jealousy.

The strange thing is you will be drinking the poison of hatred and expecting her to die for it. Life doesn’t work that way.

You are born again and thus starts your journey. Avoid investing emotionally in a woman ever again.

It’s not that I want revenge or the sky to fall on her head – after all, she is the mother of the daughter that I adore, and still want a relationship with. However, upon leaving she has since said how happy she is. I would prefer the pressure of life to make her realise what she lost through her misguided preferences.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

And, thank you very much for your comments.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Hitman wrote:

listen to my brother redpillbible.
time is needed to see what happens.
.
when my ex left with the kid i was devastated.
now i am with the kid more than she is,
and my life went from borderline suicidal,
to AMAZING.
i personally give the glory to God,
call it the universe or karma..
time will help when it seems like the darkest hour.
.
stand fast and weather the storm.
you won’t be sorry you did.

Thanks, man.

My wife had already left me twice before, so I KNOW that devastation feeling. Later when we got back together again and the games continued, I just KNEW I had to pack my bags, and calmly left.

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Honestly I think your almost at the red pill rage part just f~~~ing let it out. You ll feel better just say you hope she gets tackled by a nfl football team a few times at full speed lol everyone on here been thru it.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[HitmanParticipant]

been there man.
alone and unsure of the future.
actually still the case,
but if i knew THEN what i know NOW,
i could have put my feet up and RELAXED instead of worrying.
.
hope that helps.
give it time.
it will work out,
how YOU want it to.
we dictate our reality to a great extent.
.
think what you want,
make it good,
give it time to manifest.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Hitman wrote:

when my ex left with the kid i was devastated.
now i am with the kid more than she is,
and my life went from borderline suicidal,
to AMAZING.

Care to share what caused the turnaround?

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Akhilleus wrote:

Honestly I think your almost at the red pill rage part just f~~~ing let it out. You ll feel better just say you hope she gets tackled by a nfl football team a few times at full speed lol everyone on here been thru it.

I hope her family get tackled by the NFL football team a few times.

I feel better now.

[Anonymous 18]

Thanasi wrote:

However, upon leaving she has since said how happy she is. I would prefer the pressure of life to make her realise what she lost through her misguided preferences.

Women will say things with the purpose of hurting the male ego. It’s somehow built into a woman to not say anything for years but when she wants to inflict emotional pain, she is capable of bringing subtle nuances to life. All the while feigning memory lapses of her past gaffes.

How you will long and miss her is 180 degrees different than how she will miss you. Men are romantics, pretending to be realists. Women realists pretending to be romantics.

She for a good proportion saw you as a utility. All women see men that way to certain extent. When she sees your role being fulfilled she discards you. It is the ugly reality of nature our gynocentric society shield young men from realizing. They learn but sadly too late.

She will only pretend to miss you or regret letting the real love of her life (i.e. you) go ONLY if her future planning doesn’t go accordingly.

[Anonymous 1]

Thanasi wrote:

iLearn wrote:

..
The best revenge is to live well.
..

… I would prefer the pressure of life to make her realise what she lost through her misguided preferences.

Don’t let yourself be caught up in what is happening to her now, or in the future. You’ll just get worked up over it.

iLearn has it right — live well, live for yourself and your daughter only.

Move on. Make it a clean break.

Don’t get caught in conversations with the ex. that involve anything more than discussions about your daughter.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Thank you, Gents.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

“Karma”, as it’s called, is an Eastern Mysticism concept that incorrectly describes what actually happens.

When we operate out of harmony with Design Law [Laws of Love, Liberty, Worship, Health, Physics, Giving, Work/Exertion, etc], the dysfunction is created within ourselves. There’s no magical universal force to see that we are punished or “what goes around, comes around.” It would be no different than putting a plastic bag over your head and duct taping it shut [you would be violating the Law of Respiration]. No one has to “punish” you for this. It provides its own problems. What is needed is a restoration to normal breathing.

Your ex-wife has damaged her own character by her behavior. She will reap the consequences, herself.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Anonymous wrote:

Thanasi wrote:

However, upon leaving she has since said how happy she is. I would prefer the pressure of life to make her realise what she lost through her misguided preferences.

Women will say things with the purpose of hurting the male ego. It’s somehow built into a woman to not say anything for years but when she wants to inflict emotional pain, she is capable of bringing subtle nuances to life. All the while feigning memory lapses of her past gaffes.

How you will long and miss her is 180 degrees different than how she will miss you. Men are romantics, pretending to be realists. Women realists pretending to be romantics.

She for a good proportion saw you as a utility. All women see men that way to certain extent. When she sees your role being fulfilled she discards you. It is the ugly reality of nature our gynocentric society shield young men from realizing. They learn but sadly too late.

She will only pretend to miss you or regret letting the real love of her life (i.e. you) go ONLY if her future planning doesn’t go accordingly.

I appreciate your comments. And I concede a certain type of woman behaves in this way, and I have carefully avoided them until now. However, not all women are like that.

[Anonymous 1]

Thanasi wrote:

iLearn wrote:

Thanasi wrote:

However, upon leaving she has since said how happy she is. I would prefer the pressure of life to make her realise what she lost through her misguided preferences.

Women will say things with the purpose of hurting the male ego. It’s somehow built into a woman to not say anything for years but when she wants to inflict emotional pain, she is capable of bringing subtle nuances to life. All the while feigning memory lapses of her past gaffes.

How you will long and miss her is 180 degrees different than how she will miss you. Men are romantics, pretending to be realists. Women realists pretending to be romantics.

She for a good proportion saw you as a utility. All women see men that way to certain extent. When she sees your role being fulfilled she discards you. It is the ugly reality of nature our gynocentric society shield young men from realizing. They learn but sadly too late.

She will only pretend to miss you or regret letting the real love of her life (i.e. you) go ONLY if her future planning doesn’t go accordingly.

I appreciate your comments. And I concede a certain type of woman behaves in this way, and I have carefully avoided them until now. However, not all women are like that.

Oh dear.

I’m afraid AWALT. Really.

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