What do you value most about going your own way?

[MerkParticipant 50]

Pretty simple question.

For me: Doing my own thing is about control. For most of my life I feel that I was not able to make my own decisions what so ever. If I wasn’t a kid, going to collage for my mother, the pressure of being “normal”, the control that woman placed on me in either trying to get with them or being with them, having no choice in jobs I had to take because of lack of finances, etc. The list can go on. To some degree we need guidance and advice in decisions but essentially being a mindless drone didn’t make me happy at all.

So I ask anyone willing to answer: ” What do you value most about going your own way?”

[ScarringsParticipant 7]

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[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

I can do whatever I like within the limits of the legal rules and regulations.  Any money I make is mine.  All the beer in my place belongs to me.  I can go to bed with whoever I like.  I don’t have to fight with anyone about what TV channel I want to watch.

 

I think you get the picture.

 

[The DudeParticipant 7]

The ability to make radical life decisions without having to consult another person. By having a girlfriend/wife/children you are giving up your autonomy. You no longer make your own decisions about where you go, what you eat, where you sleep, and how you act. If you think that you have control of these aspects of your life while in a relationship you are deluding yourself.

As I have told my young nephews, “I can have ice cream for dinner if I want to, nobody can tell me otherwise.”

[RennieParticipant]

Being able to up and go on an adventure without having to drag anyone else along or having to explain myself. I’d never be able to cover the distances I do if I had to drag a woman along.

[John DoeParticipant 743]

Going my own way.

[ChevDogParticipant 30]

I don’t have to answer to anyone. Except my boss occasionally.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I’ve been blessed and I’ve worked very hard and have a nice place to live. I wasn’t born to a rich family, but I got into medial school and became anesthesiologist. In my blue pill days, I’ve been called names by women whose food and housing I was providing. I’ve been threatened, in my own house, by someone I invited to live there (rent free). I used to think I was selfish if I didn’t at least try to share some. It seemed like I had so much and they had so little.

I’m recovered from that line of thinking now. The reason they have so little is because their equations are missing that magical hard work ingredient. I had an ex who I offered to pay to go to law school. I offered to pay all her bills, pay for all of law school if she would go. She was easily smart enough, but wouldn’t do it. I made same offer to pay for any other degree she wanted to get… no dice. Her plan for financial security was to have a kid with me and then use it as a hostage for 18 years of ransom money. I tried to explain to her that education is the only financial security there is, and depending on anyone else for it (including me) would basically put her one heart attack away from being homeless in the street. In our last argument over it, she threatened to burn my medical degree.

Enough. Today, she is gone. There is a line to replace her, but the air in my house is only for me to breathe!

Best thing about mgtow: Realization that the all the worst things a woman can do to me… require my cooperation to occur. And I no longer choose to cooperate. That’s the peace of mind that comes from mgtow.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[MENGINEERParticipant 583]

My happiness. Freedom. Absence of BS.

Not having to listen to stupid conversations about what so and so said about me. not having to Put up with childish tantrums or mood swings.

the possibilities..

[Anonymous 42]

Freedom to fail and learn!

I am responsible for myself and have been most my life… It’s not funny when your losses cripple your ability to maneuver, compounded with endless bitching from the always insecure “woman”, and leading you to personal failure. My gains were only visible to me, only I could see my future…The efforts were unhindered, and the rewards undiluted. I could give 2 s~~~s about money, it was always the sport of business that kept me going, I liked doing whatever I felt was necessary, and without the emotional swagger accompanied with spouse, or other controlling interests. No way in hell could I have made something worth while, or enjoy my life as I most certainly do!

Misery enjoys company, I do not tolerate the company of misery! Happily GMOW is the only way I know!

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

I am willing to answer, but you guys covered it good, especially tower about misery. I can’t stand to be around someone who’s only goal is to ruin my good mood.

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[casqueteroParticipant 85]

The FREEDOM!

 

[GoneGaltParticipant 361]

Emotional stability, i.e, rationality, happiness. The biggest mistake of my life was believing I could make anyone else happy except myself – you can’t – they are responsible, but because of the bats~~~ crazy gene found in most females it is their goal in life to fault you for their unhappiness regardless of how you try, and you try because you think she has to be sane and that it must be your fault. It isn’t, it never was, so with them now out of my life I greet each day the same, with hope and purpose and not dread, with no emotional IEDs hidden in wait for me to step on.

[WandersmannParticipant 27]

Freedom, true understanding and peace of mind.

By the way, I think constant nagging is indicative of a narrow mind and puts you in the tiresome situation of not being able to make the person see how petty it is.

[Eric LauderParticipant 84]

All the things you all said, and especially freedom.
Another thing, very important: I had MUCH more sex now, and of BETTER quality, than when I was married. 🙂

[Ronin XParticipant 81]

I value my FREEDOM above all things.

1.Free to pursue my purpose, explore and expand my options and enjoy life.
2.Free from the manipulation and control of women. Free to do whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want, with whoever I want, where ever I want.
3.Free from the drama, stress and stupid s~~~ that comes from a relationship. Free to have peace of mind.
4.Free from sexual and emotional dependence on women.
5.Free from needing the approval and permission of women.
6.Free to love myself instead of trying to get others to love me.
7.Free to make myself happy instead of trying to make someone else happy.
8.Free to choose how I want to be treated.
9.Free to live with my b~~~~ intact.
10.Free to be the kind of father I want to be with my children.

[TyroneLannisterParticipant 3]

Absolute freedom and the ability to get up and change my life at a moments notice.  The biggest reason men get in the rat race is to make enough to attract a woman and settle down.  Why subject myself to a bunch of bulls~~~ when I could just work when I need to support my more spartan needs.

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

Everything! 

[AlbertParticipant 646]

Off the top of my head the things I value most about going my own way are:

1. Not needing to work hard but still having enough money.
2. No debts, no mortgage, no nagging wife.
3. Being able to spend an entire undisturbed afternoon reading a classic novel, sipping beer and smoking a good cigar.
4. Not owning a television, not being on Facebook, not listening to the mainstream media.
5. Going out when I want, where I want and with whom I want.
6. Laughing in the face of any woman who disapproves of my relaxed lifestyle and thinks I need to ‘man up’.
7. Eating curry for breakfast.

E=MC² Bitch

[HimeoParticipant 471]

Freedom from shame.

All of my life I’ve had parasitic people around me that controlled me with shame. Swallowing the Red Pill and finding MGTOW has given me a new pair of eyes to see the world with. As a result, I’ve cut most of the parasites out of my life and become immune to shame tactics. I do what I want, selfishly, and my life has become so much happier because of it.

Criticism has plucked the imaginary flowers on the chain not in order that man shall continue to bear that chain without fantasy or consolation, but so that he shall throw off the chain and cull the living flower. – Karl Marx

Thank you, brothers.

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