"What do you mean you don't need to be Happy!?"

[WeakManParticipant 91]

First off, I am just coming back to MGTOW after a hiatus and I want to say, thanks for being an awesome home of enlightenment.

OK. So I am a believer of God. The current girl I have been on a few dates with seriously has her mind BLOWN when I said “I don’t need to be happy”. It went against her entire foundation on life. She thinks life is about maximizing your own happiness, so me saying I don’t need happiness completely screws with her head.

Of course I like happiness, of course I WANT to be happy, I just don’t NEED to be happy. It is in the periphery of my view. Other things are much more important like duty, loyalty and the greater good. If God sends me on a mission to grow crops in this life, then come flood, disease, drought or pests, I will endure because it was what I was called to do.

Why is the concept of either the greater good, duty and loyalty mean so little compared to the concept of Self-happiness to her? It seems so shallow.

Side note: This woman also believes the word compromise is a curse word and that no one should change who they are to be with another. WHAT!? Of course you do!!! Otherwise you’d be single!! Am I crazy or is she?

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Disney promised your little princess a “Happily Ever After”. The problem is, you can’t be “happy” every minute of every day. What you are describing is being content. It’s a much more long term view of being satisfied with where you are in your life.

As far as compromise goes, I guess it depends. Going to dinner where the other person REALLY wants to go but it may not be your first choice is a compromise. Doing things against your own nature, like lying and stealing, are also a compromise. Something tells me your talking about dinner and she’s talking about stealing. But no you don’t compromise who you are, you compromise on what one meal one of three is going to be today.

Order the good wine

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

WeakMan wrote:

She thinks life is about maximising your own happiness, so me saying I don’t need happiness completely screws with her head.

Completely understand brother. Happiness and sadness are “extreme” emotions that fluctuate away from the norm. i.e. tranquillity. Happiness and sadness are very temporary emotions. When our mid is in a tranquil state, we make efficient decisions.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome back.

Women have NO understanding of “happiness”. They think it’s a destination. They think it’s something they “deserve”, because — Vagina.

Happiness is a byproduct of health.

1. Physical Health.
2. Relational Health.
3. Spiritual Health.

Note that of the 3 above, you are only directly in control of your Spiritual Health. Physical and Relational Health can be damaged or undermined by someone else.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[narwhalParticipant]

WeakMan wrote:

Side note: This woman also believes the word compromise is a curse word and that no one should change who they are to be with another. WHAT!? Of course you do!!! Otherwise you’d be single!! Am I crazy or is she?

Compromise is bad when it leads to resentment. If a man compromises and spends a day shopping with his wife when he detests shopping, then he will resent her for it. She will likely not enjoy either. So not good.

However, if she likes any kind of shopping and he likes boats, then perhaps going shopping for boats can mean you both have a fun day. It may be that the best solution is to go do something neither has done before or absolutely loves doing, but is a positive experience for both.

The idea is to find an answer where you both are going to happy, or do nothing at all. An answer where one is happy and the other is not a good choice.

Ok. Then do it.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Weak man… RUNNNNN
RUNNNN And KEEP RUNNING.
Bitch is bad s~~~ crazy and is gonna drag you down a s~~~ hole.
Im not a believer, but “happiness ” is just a mind state.
A man with no arms can be happy, no legs, no dick, a man in severe pain and in doors of death can be “happy”.
Happiness can’t be reached, you can’t find it, it can’t be given to you, you just need your brain to be happy.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

WeakMan wrote:

This woman also believes the word compromise is a curse word and that no one should change who they are to be with another.

Over the course of my life I have learned to live without many things. Women being my crowning achievement. AWALT when they say they want compromise, they are saying they want YOU to compromise.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[SkinnySweatyManInAGreenSuitParticipant 94]

I don’t like to write “weak” and “man” next to each other. Sorry, I just can’t get past that! lol.
Have a happy weekend!

Beer & BBQ

[Anonymous 18]

Weakman,

So long you believe in God you believe in some righteous code of conduct.

You need that to feel better than a Godless version of you.

There is your weakness.

Your self-pleasure of being moral will be used against you. Some woman will make sure your God isn’t happy without she controlling your life.

Time for another hiatus.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Your purpose shouldn’t be what God tells you to do. Your purpose should be what you find passion in yourself to do. What are your passions, what are your talents? That’s what you should be following in life. That’s what will give you the most fulfillment. Women don’t truly understand duty and loyalty because they’re inherently neither of those things. That’s part of what makes them shallow.

If you’ve told a woman “I don’t NEED to be happy” and her “mind was blown”, you should probably stop seeing her right now. It’s not going to end well. The switch inside her has already been flipped. She’s going to remember you said that.

My dad’s 2nd oldest brother got divorced right before my dad. They were married a long time. As was my dad. They had 3 kids and raised them all to at least high school level before they split up. My dad shared a story with me about how when my uncle was getting married, my dad asked him if he loved her. He said “I would, in time”. That right there is why he shouldn’t have married her. Bad reason. You tell a woman “I don’t need to be happy”, not only will she find ways to make you miserable (in general, without you even having told her this), but now she’ll take that going forward that you even said that at all.

Cut ties, get out of there. You need some more red pills young man.

Also “after a hiatus”… with 58 posts? You’ve hardly been here. Unless you’ve been ghosting, then you haven’t spent enough time on here digesting red pills. Seems like you came, had a cup of coffee, and went back to the plantation.

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