this reply is to “hello, been married three years.”
“This one’s too easy, which can lead to complacency.
Mange: “I saw this action mentioned….had no idea..” You got the accuracy of Cheney’s buckshot**. “I had no idea”……. really?.
In marriage, at three years, not a lot of these things have happened to anyone. You paid for his ring, eloped and had a cheap honeymoon, so what? You knew that was your future money being spent. You paid for your ring, no laydee he paid for it, he just doesn’t know it yet. 01%, 10%, 100% those decimal places are significant. You bought a ring-plus one point. He bought you housing – plus one point?
50 vs 35, 55 vs 40 no, you found him. You discovered ‘men get old, but women rot.’ There’s no terminal velocity here, you keep accelerating toward dust. While he is making more and more of the greenstuff.
As a boy I knew that when I grew up I’d meet a girl who………………………………………………..didn’t treat me like dirt?
Why take half a century if NAWALTS are truly out there. OK each of us will search for fifty years, but probably not TOO intensively. “She understand my stresses”….rots of ruck, seventeen years from now. She understand my stressors and doesn’t hesitate to use them. You don’t ask for a new car…BFD. You don’t have to ask, the food is free, the heat a/c is free, the rent is free. Depending on his death divorce plan ie life insurance and his retirement, you’re probably pretty frickin well off compared to without them. THIS IS CLASSIC FEMALE CHOSEN BLINDNESS…the house, all the huge stuff: food clothing shelter is taken for granted, they arrived in Rudolph’s sleigh. With your nose so bright, wont you give me a free ride in life?” “No.”
You want to brag that you are frugal. Take care of all the housework? Clothing size and housework and what, oh my….clothing size and housework and what oh my! Does handy work? saves money by doing it without lube too I’ll bet.
“I knew when I met her I trusted her” great f~~~ing advice, if you meet a girl and you just “know.” What is this, the disappearing brain act? You can tell if you are looking at high maintenance or not” BS why do guys here wear old sneakers #1 we like ’em, #2 to throw off the gold diggers.
Heard of a guy that had this frugal perfect wife. One day, returning from a long business trip, he arrived home to find 6 – 8 members of her family now living there because she flew them in with that money saved.
No one’s complaining, we are learning, knowledge is power, we will not be swayed.
“After a couple of marriages….precisely! we’ve learned…Their game is rigged/the stakes are high/the results are viscious – – – all to the husband.
Newsflash: you don’t have to be married/common lawed/pregnancy forced to have a best friend. not all NAWATWYD………….BS.
“So forgive me for raining on your parade”?? statement disguised as question. It’s neither a parade nor a funeral. It’s a source of truth and clarity like nothing else on this planet.
Nobody here is giving into anything, much less your crap.
**either way you look at it. intentionally or accidentally aren’t you looking at it when it hits you in the face.
"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."
experienced 4 years, 9 months ago.
