Well, this Christmas is off to a great start.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

So after a week in sunny San Antonio Texas I drove back to BC to spend just under two weeks and the remainder of my time off in my old house seeing my family and old friends. I’m staying at my parents’ house as I always do, and since I arrived late and in the middle of the week only my mom was home. So we’re sitting and talking and it’s great until she brings up the “so is there anyone special”. Ultimately we agree to stop talking about it, then she gets all emotional because apparently I don’t tell her I love her enough. This isn’t true because every time she says “I love you” I always respond with “I love you too.” I just rarely blurt it out like she does.

It gets much worse when she claims we “never communicate”. I call her every week, every two at the longest. I know this because I always remind myself to, and I confirm that because half the time I miss my dad before he leaves for work and talk to her. I tell her this straight up isn’t true and pull up my phone records to prove it. Despite it saying OUTGOING CALL to her number she tries to tell me that those are in response to her texts. I prove her wrong AGAIN by pulling up the texts, which only barely go back a month and the calls which go back for longer. After some kind of half assed sob about me deleting or “blocking out” texts, she somehow switches her story to being upset that I didn’t call her from Texas. I responded to a few texts she sent me while I was down there, but she is correct that I didn’t call her from Texas. THAT’S BECAUSE I CALLED NOBODY.

Then I did something I never did before: I reminded her, in no uncertain terms, that I’m here of my own accord because I want to be, and if she keeps treating me like this, I’ll leave. I also said that if this is how I’m going to be talked to I’ll just stop coming back.

Man, SUPER looking forward to the next 12 days. Hope your holidays are going better, guys.

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

Oh s~~~ man, that is why I boycott Christmas. Too much drama and bollocks going around this time of year!
Myself I’m off to work now, can probably finish all today but I think I’ll save some for tomorrow. Christmas eve is a great time to work.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

Honestly I kind of wish the base didn’t shut down at Christmas or if they’d let me take the leave block another time. I’d be more than happy to work Christmas.

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

Now that sucks! Not being allowed to work Christmas is just evil.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I send them cards and presents by mail and leave it at that.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I’ll be going to the same Christmas party at the same house with the same people. But at least it keeps the family together and I’m a big believer that you don’t make a new family with friends, I can only depend on blood relatives when the going gets tough. Needing someone occasionally does not exclude going your own way, IMO.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

So much drama, which I have had plenty off, maybe not in the crazy interrogation style you faced though.

You did it right, though, telling her off, and that if she wants contact to resume and if she wishes for one to come for visits, she has to stop being such an emotional wreck, and stop being an interrogator, about other people’s time.

What I did to escape my mother’s dramatic onslaught was simple, be honest, tell her, if she wants contact, she has to call, if she wants you to come over for dinner, she has to contact and invite, do not demand, nor demand me to be psychic and read minds. Also be blunt with your opinions, even if they are direct opposite of hers, and most likely will make her sob and get emotional, very much, the first few times you confront her bulls~~~.

My mother has a habit of being very dramatic, not as much any more, when I’m around, but she was incredibly mania depressive dramatic before, when no one actually told her off.

It’s been quiet and comfortable on my end, this obviously means she has been bitching about me, to my siblings, when I’m not there for instance, but I always get a report of the horror nagging, and it gets laughed off.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

I highly doubt she’ll be bitching behind my back to my other relatives, but if I find our she has? Done.

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