Welcome by my fire anytime

[lowkeyParticipant 37]

This is the first time I have written anything on a website of any kind.Never felt compelled to join any clubs/online forums before either but after a week of binge reading here I am happy to call myself a member.At 44 yrs of age I find myself staring into the abyss of starting over with nothing but the bitterness of 10 wasted years.Fell for the single mom with 2 daughters bs “just have to get them to 18” now they are both well past 18 completely usless , mentally ill, willfully uneducated and still living at home. Of cource my future ex wife cannot seem to understand my disgust over the ever present violence , distructive behavior, theft and drug use in our home.Anything worth salvaging went overboard when after 10 yrs of this I lost my temper and got arrested for dv . I didnt touch anyone , nothing broken , they were scarred, never seen me that angry, thats all they had to say and I went to jail. No criminal record , still not allowed in my own home.If I had not stumbled across this website I firmly believe I would have suck-started a shotgun by now. Not because of being depressed or suicidal but being so mentally/emotionally exhausted for so long.All the effort , not having any selfworth in my own life, everything being about and for those three females.In the end it was not worth it, and I still failed. Since I have been reading here the mental switch has been unbelievable.The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.Those of you who have been writing/commenting have provided the mental/emotional backstop I didnt realize was so desperately needed.I am profoundly grateful to each and every one of you.Although I am just starting this journey , simply finding I retain enough will to begin is a surprise. My apologies for the rambling nature of this post , and again thank you.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

oh go off brother, you’ve earned it. 10+ years raising someone else’s kids, damn son. It’s gonna take you a hot minute to disengage, but it will be worth it when it’s over.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[davParticipant 422]

Arrested? You should have got awarded a f~~~ing campaign ribbon dude. Yes once you have your first red pill the blinkers start to come off. It does make you giggle a bit doesn’t it? F~~~in A it does! You will be on your way soon, having your life back. Welcome!

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

welcome Lowkey,
Your story is enormously unfortunate, but not new or unique…especially here. You are now in a club with a long list of members, and you have many friends here. You may have been arrested for dv, but it doesn’t sound like you are guilty of any. It’s true that you can be arrested if they say they’re scared. But as messed up as that is, that’s all it is. You are still sane (sounds like the sanest one in the house). You are still healthy, and you still have access to this site, keep all of that. And whatever your ability is to earn money (education, skills, licenses, certifications) hang on to all that too…as tightly as you can.

You may not be able to go into your own house for a while, but sooner or later the electric bill on that house is coming in the mail…along with a lot of other bills that drug habits are going to make it very difficult to pay. Women don’t generally have the ability to take care of themselves financially. It’s true for women in general and especially true for chemically addicted women in particular. They generally lack the emotional maturity and discipline it takes to do this alone. Time is not on their side.

The courts, the wife, the kids all want to make you feel worthless. And they can have some success at this because men sometimes forget that we are the earners, producers and providers. We can survive without them much longer than they can survive without us.

My first rule of mgtow: I DO NOT OWE A RELATIONSHIP TO ANYONE.

However entitled these women may feel to you, and relationship with you, and the resources that are earned and provided by you, the reality is that you do not owe them a relationship with you, or any of the perks that would go with it.

I will only question the accuracy of one thing you said in your post. You said that you were staring into the ‘abyss’ of staring over with nothing after 10 years. I strongly disagree.

The abyss is where you were headed if you had continued on with these people. It’s where they are headed wether you choose to accompany them or not. Mental illness and chemical addiction is an avalanche of insanity that you are not required to accept. You are not required to join them. You do not owe them your company on their journey into that abyss.

Starting over, (alone) you are not facing the abyss. You are facing a life of hobbies, exercise, sports, (whatever else interests you) peace of mind in your own home, security of your rights and you property (which was just demonstrated that you do not have as a result of living with these women), ownership of your own earnings. Most of all, you can look forward to a life where the only use you will have for a shotgun will be duck hunting with you buddies. Once you are isolated from them for a while, you will realize that drug addicts and mentally ill people have a way of turning their mental illness into YOUR mental illness.

You have not failed at anything. You have succeeded in protecting these three women from the consequences of their own bad decisions, and you’ve done it successfully for over a decade. You did it by absorbing those consequences onto yourself. Doesn’t it seem strange to you that they have the (illegal) drug/violent/theft habits, and you are the one in jail??? They have the bad decisions. You got the consequences…

Men do not suck start a shot gun after putting themselves in jail, stealing from themselves, and disrespecting themselves. Women (like these) do that TO men like you. But it doesn’t sound like they’ll be doing it to you for much longer. High fiving you for that.

Welcome to mgtow my new friend. The abyss does not start here. This is where the abyss ends!

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

Welcome lowkey!  And may I say happy MGTOW Day today!  Valentine’s Day is for blue pillers and white knights.

lowkey wrote:

The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.

Yeah, I know the feeling.  I have been lovin’ every day since my divorce approx. 7 years ago.   I have freedom and haven’t looked back.  You will find (or perhaps HAVE found, excuse me) the same sweet liberty.

Guns are for the rifle range lowkey, I would certainly hope that you never do something you would regret.  A friend once said ‘Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem’.

I know it is easier said than done, but please don’t allow the women in your life to get the better of you.  Take some time to cool down if you feel angry.  Again…easier said than done.   Believe me – I know (and HAVE known) folks that find ALL the right buttons to push on me.   I have lost my cool too so I am not perfect.

I look forward to reading your posts.

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thank you for stepping in and welcoming @lowkey everyone! And on this day of all.

lowkey wrote:

Since I have been reading here the mental switch has been unbelievable.The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.

Isn’t it amazing that’s often ALL that’s required. A simple adjustment that can be brought upon at will. I remember the random Tuesday it hit me too. I was walking on my way to work and I had a great big smile on my face all the way there. I couldn’t contain it. It was “boss”.

lowkey wrote:

If I had not stumbled across this website I firmly believe I would have suck-started a shotgun by now. Not because of being depressed or suicidal but being so mentally/emotionally exhausted for so long.All the effort , not having any selfworth in my own life, everything being about and for those three females.In the end it was not worth it, and I still failed.

You did not fail. It’s not YOUR fault! How awesome is that! Drop the baggage and relieve yourself of all the accepting personal responsibility for s~~~ you DID NOT DO WRONG. Making an effort to make things work is not a fault. It’s a glorious positive quality and one you should never lose…. but redirect it — to make sure YOU are the recipient of that effort first and foremost.

The rewards are unimaginable.

So glad you found your way here and you’re giddy looking forward to the days ahead.

Loved your intro. Kick your shoes off and enjoy your stay. It’s International MGTOW Day.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

LowKey   welcome to the forum.  Lost time of life, ouch. Everything I went through myself from lies, cheating and every other humiliation the one thing made me most bitter was the time of life invested. Your not alone. I believe you will recover faster than I did because you wrote this: “The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.”   Keep on laughing and giggling my friend  it only gets better. I was still bitter about that when writing my introduction, but not now. It don’t take long to get over anything in the right crowd.  I giggle everyday now. Today I wrote a song called  Insane Vagabond  was a bit drunk when I recorded it, but that was fun. Hell i’m still  drunk. That was yesterday as it’s 5 mins into sunday.

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome! (Ditto all the previous posts — they’ve said it better than I could)! Going Your Own Way is the best thing any man can do.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[lowkeyParticipant 37]

Holly mother of christ . I cannoot adequately express how much these replies mean to me . I am an old out of date navy corpsman learning my default behavior should be reserved for brother marines. Thank you , not possible to express my gratitude clearly enough.

[Anonymous 42]

lowkey wrote:

******I lost my temper and got arrested for dv ******* still not allowed in my own home.If I had not stumbled across this website I firmly believe I would have suck-started a shotgun by now. My apologies for the rambling nature of this post , and again thank you.

Hey Brain, where were you when I was pull starting a pistol?

Hey Lowkey, I was arrested also, thanks to a trigger happy women, more than 20 years ago. I freed myself, long before MGTOW became a word. All I can say is RUN, if not FLY!`

You owe us “NO apology”! You owe yourself, “NO apology”! Therefore “apology” out the window! We’re more than thrilled the see another brother pulled from the SEA OF INSANITY, and given a new platform in life, YOUR PLATFORM, look around, It has a great view, and it’s stable, not shaking and rocking to and fro, you’ll enjoy life for a change, s~~~ I’ve been giggling the whole while from my “STABLE PLATFORM”! Drugs and any kind of chemical addiction is the DRUG ADDICTS PROBLEM, not your! Drop that bag of s~~~, and WELCOME to MGTOW!

[RoyDalParticipant]

I’ve known a corpsman or two. Thank you for your service. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

RoyDal wrote:

Thank you for your service. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you.

Yeah!  Respect.  I didn’t have the pleasure to serve this great country (chose instead to be a full-time college boy learning electronics).

Thank you ALL on this post who have served, or maybe still serving.

I can only hope the govm’t settles up properly with you (I realize that is a pretty naive thing to say but I am hopeful still).

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Anonymous 23]

welcome home, lowkey. All the best to you for the rest of your life. 🙂

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

Welcome lowkey.  You are among Brothers here.  I can’t tell you the happiness that has entered my life since I have come to eat the red pill and meet the Brothers.  You will be back to your old self in no time at all, and THAT is what matters.  I can’t imagine actually going to prison for false dv after service to my country.  A real fine “thank you” slap in the face that was.

Here’s to you!

BVC

 

 

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

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