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    ForeverDone
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    https://finance.yahoo.com/news/starting-financially-divorce-debt-180727072.html

    #NEVERAGAIN

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    Starting over financially after divorce and debt

    Yahoo FinanceAlyssa Pry
    Personal Finance Reporter
    Yahoo FinanceJune 7, 2018
    Janice Schacter Lintz was living what she described as a “comfortable and very extravagant lifestyle” before her 10-year-long divorce plunged her into six-figures worth of debt.

    Previously, Lintz, now a hearing loss consultant and advocate, lived in a townhouse on the Upper East Side, had a home in the Hamptons, and travelled often with her family.

    “I never really thought much about money during that time,” she admits.

    But that lifestyle was like living in a bubble, she says. “It was not healthy, [and] I needed to make a change.”

    Unfortunately, the costs for lawyers and court fees during her divorce “decimated me,” Lintz says. While she thought she was wealthy, her money was considered part of the marital estate, and couldn’t be used to pay for legal fees, she says.

    “So if one spouse has money and the other spouse doesn’t have money, the non-money spouse has to go to court and ask [to be compensated] for legal fees,” Lintz says. “I had no income stream coming in. He had new money coming in that wasn’t attached to the marital estate,” as he was working as an attorney.

    Her legal costs quickly added up.

    “My first attorney charged $25,000 and went through this in three weeks,” she says. “Think about over the course of 10 years how much he would spend. It’s a runaway train.”

    Lintz says there was no solution to stop the debt from piling up.

    “You can’t stop it. You can go through $150,000 per year in no time,” she says. “I have to say there really is no solution. It is the person with the most money wins, period.” In the divorce settlement, Lintz was given a payout of $855,440, or 17% of the $5 million worth of her ex-husband’s partnership in his legal practice.

    After the divorce was finalized, Lintz had to make some major changes to her financial life to start attacking that looming mountain of debt. While she says she was previously unaware of her bills and expenses while she was married, Lintz now had to become much more financially savvy.

    “I started with a fine-tooth comb going through every single bill looking for money, looking for waste,” she says.

    Aside from moving out of her Upper East Side townhouse, she also sold her car, got rid of her landline, and cut her cable, expenses that added up to huge savings.

    She also took advantage of credit card points, and paid her attorney fees with credit cards to get sign-up bonuses.

    “I treated it like a game,” she says. “I was like, this is kind of fun, let’s see what we can save money on,” she says.

    Lintz says the experience made her healthier financially, and she encourages women to educate themselves to avoid being blindsided like she was.

    “I think it’s really important for women to become educated on their finances and not to get in the position I was of not being aware what your finances are,” she says.

    Now, Lintz says, her new life is much more fulfilling.

    “I feel like I’m at least moving forward and I’d rather have significantly less and be happy,” she says. “There is a light at the end of the tunnel.”

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    Nags4Cash
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    Poor me, I was only given 850k, nowhere near as much as I wanted for my desired “change”.

    I’m gonna call my company later and tell them I need a change, and they should give me about a million dollars to make sure I’m set for that. Sounds fair right?

    Murph ~ There is nothing brave or manly about entering into a contract with somebody which allows them to take your money, assets, children, and decades of your future income on a mere whim.

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    Aposematic
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    Is that the scent of rabbit cooking?
    Lawyer husband eh?

    Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.

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    Xanthine
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    Love the comments section. Mostly guys talking about how their ex wives cleaned them out in the divorce, or talking about what a huge financial mistake it is for a man to get married. Word is getting out there. And not a single person felt sorry for this entitled c~~~.

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    Grumpy
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    Starting over with a payout of 850k USD.
    I, and millions of other men wish we had that to “start over” with.

    There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

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    “I never really thought much about money during that time,” she admits.

    What the f~~~ing double standard?! We as men need to learn money stuff at very young ages, from childhood to 20-something, and keep leaning and keeping it in order… And this cupcake can just say that as an excuse?

    “My first attorney charged $25,000 and went through this in three weeks

    You can go through $150,000 per year in no time,”

    If it costs that much, with no chance to win , why doesn’t she just settle with what she can get without an expensive lawyer, and get a job? (the big money was not their common wealth, but the men’s own… of course courts tend to ignore prenups and such things, and gave her $850k in the end from the men’s own money… Yes, more than other people make in a lifetime…)

    “I started with a fine-tooth comb going through every single bill looking for money, looking for waste,”

    F~~~ing moron cupcake should have learned and done this by 20-something of age…

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    Hmskl'd
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    And my entertainment budget last month wasn’t much over twenty bucks. Sheesh.

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    Anonymous
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    Welcome to equality you post wall c~~~.
    You weren’t haaaaaaaapy and walked away from a good life and probably a good man.

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    GregB0
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    While she says she was previously unaware of her bills and expenses while she was married, Lintz now had to become much more financially savvy.

    Guess we know who grew up with the silver spoon if she was not tracking expenses.

    If you treat your financial resources like dust, it will definitely blow away in the wind. Treat them like a rock and you’ll be protected forever.

    ​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

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    While she says she was previously unaware of her bills and expenses while she was married, Lintz now had to become much more financially savvy.

    Guess we know who grew up with the silver spoon if she was not tracking expenses.

    If you treat your financial resources like dust, it will definitely blow away in the wind. Treat them like a rock and you’ll be protected forever.

    How many women do you know track expenses? Out of the dozens of women I’ve dated over my years, only ONE actually tracked her expenses in a composition notebook. I am sure now she tracks it in her cellphone.

    Same with my mom. Before my dad died, didn’t track s~~~. After my dad died, I took over the financials (as a promise to my dad on his dying death bed). Mom gets stipend each month. Aside from medical or house repairs, that’s all she gets. All I have to say, fine. I will give you all the money to manage yourself. When you are done with all the money, do not come to me as I will not help you. She falls back in line pretty fast. It’s sad sometimes. I feel like a parent to my mom and my younger sister.

    Ironic part is I sense they both are a bit resentful of me due to this. Yet, I’ve offered multiple times to give up the financials, as I hate doing it. I have enough s~~~ in my life to deal with. FML.

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