I’d like to start off by saying that I’ve posted a small intro about myself in the Intro section of the forum. I’m here to report in some details about dating out here in this city as a 32 year old that’s really just average in just about everything. I’m hoping to compare notes on what other guys’ experiences are because, I’ll tell you what, I just can’t accept that girls here are exactly like the girls in North Dakota.
Just no way. I don’t believe it.
So let me you about it and what I typically do.
I use Tinder. Sure, that’s probably mistake number one but my reasonings for this is: POF sucks, I<3Cupid sucks, and Tinder seems to be the most time and cost effective dating thing out there. It’s free, fast and obviously that kind of combo is known to be super reliable and filled with assured quality.
Everyone has baggage.
The girls I’ve gone out have either gone through some major breakups that they’re still not over (one girl I’ve slept with called me some other guy’s name and saying “I love you” repeatedly; yeah..we had been drinking), divorced, almost-married, or something. It’s always something. Also, I’m guilty of messing around w/a single mom for too long. Yeah…news flash! That was a bad idea but man the sex was just fantastic. But yeah, bad. Very bad.
The tinder pop out here has riddled with hyper feminist girls that outright put like, a warning on their profile:
FEMINIST AF
IF YOU HAVE TO ASK, I’M FEMINIST BABY
SWIPE LEFT IF YOU VOTED TRUMP
These lovely potential singles are rivaled only but the sheer madness that is dog/cat(s) ownership:
DONT CARE ABOUT MY DOG/CATSSSSSSS THEN I DONT CARE ABOUT U
/roll pictures of said girly candidate w/2 pictures of her w/her 3 cats or every other picture of her w/her pit bull.
Is the same demographic you guys get from where you’re from? Is it just Chicago?
The scenes for dates I typically take them to, involve a brewery and then usually either an arcade bar, or even karaoke. Yes, I’ve gone out on dates w/girls and sang or they’ve even sung. It’s usually always a blast. Do you think I should limit the date to just a single place? Girls are usually super responsive to a night out like such. I’ll say hey let’s go get beers at x, then head out for games at y, or sing at this place. But I’m wondering if the lack of follow up date, too much of the time, is because I spend too much time w/them on the first date.
Regarding paying, there are two types of girls out here: girls that right away will pay for their own beer, and if you’ve paid for their beer at some point, will pay for your next drink and such. There’s that, and then there’s the majority that sit right the f~~~ back and wait for you to pay for the drinks. W/these girls, I’m not spending much, maybe like $30 a date total, but obviously, the s~~~ adds up.
I don’t get drunk at these dates. We typically end up tipsy and I’ve switched up approaches depending on the vibes I get from a girl but it’s all just one giant guessing games. Some girls respond to the boldness of your boldness and confidence, others want to feel super comfortable and then they’ll touch you back and more but be careful to not touch them at all prior to that, some will let you kiss them, hold them and seem completely fine with it yet no call back the next day. I am guilty lately of planning the next date while being on the first, so I’m gonna stop doing that in order to build some sense of unpredictableness but again, that was done out of sheer wanting to establish that hey, I was genuinely interested in a girl and that I wasn’t planning on being a dick about things and not call the back.
Anywho, I’ll leave that up for now. Cheers and prost to whoever read it and I look forward to the responses from others in other cities–I mean, is it this ridiculous? Dating just sucks right?
“That is not dead which can eternal lie, And with strange aeons even death may die.” ― H.P Lovecraft
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