Video inspired me to tell my story about my experience with a marriage counselor

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

I realize Paul Elam is not very popular here however he does post witty/funny videos even if you don’t agree with him. This one in particular, he absolutely nails. Video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UMUJ2_Zc0UQ&feature=youtu.be

Here was my experience with going to a marriage counselor:

I had just gotten back from a combat deployment (I was in the military for a number of years) and setting back to civilian life. At the same time, I had goals I wanted to accomplish. I was finishing my undergraduate degree and working full time. There was not a lot of free time but I made the best of it that I could.

My ex decided working was too stressful and quit her job without a backup planning all while leaving the financial burden on me. Money became a huge issue because she could not control her childish spending habits. At this point yes it was my money because she showed no initiative to get off her ass and be productive in our supposed partnership. So the inevitable happened…we went to go see a counselor. At first I did not want to do it because it would cost me money and I thought our solution was easy. Bitch needed to get a job and contribute. Well we set up our counseling through the military so it was free. I went to my first and ONLY counseling session and SURPRISE it was a woman.

We arrive there and of course I am ignored. She asks my ex wife what is the problem. Of course it’s me. I am busy with work, busy with school, no time with her, our sex life sucks (she gained some weight and she just didn’t want to get healthy. I was trying to get back in shape). So then she turns to me and I lay down the real issues. She doesn’t contribute financially, she cant control her spending habits, and we were going in debt because of all this. Plain and simple, she needs to get a job and contribute. Her answer to this, “If she doesn’t want to work isn’t that her choice?” I couldn’t believe this question. My retort, “Well what if I don’t want to work, who will pay the bills? Can I get away with that as well?” Her reply, “But you’re the man.” -_-

I don’t remember what I said, but it was pretty much on the lines of this is a waste of time and I am finished with this. I walked out. I left her there. I realized the marriage was not going to last. I told her she had a choice, get a job or I go. She tried to threated with court will award her alimony. Well I immediately contacted a lawyer, saw she voluntarily quit, we had no kids together, so the answer for alimony was NO.

Just be clear, Marriage Counselors, are there to help the wives. Not the husbands.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[experiencedParticipant]

Eff dude! Great post!
What a hairbag and probably still is, unless trying to trap the next guy.

You’re an inspiration.
Take no crap,
“give them nothing”-ZT.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

That was a great video. The guy nailed it. Thanks for sharing.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

Oh I almost forgot to add. People will say it is cheaper to keep her. I will say this, your sanity is priceless. It smarter to barter with a lawyer than it is cheaper to keep her.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

No matter what you think about the messenger – the message is spot on.

[Anonymous 54]

Tried the marrage councelr bulls~~~. What a f~~~ing joke. Bitches looking out for each other. We Men dont matter worth a s~~~.C~~~s.

[Anonymous 54]

Masculine_Man wrote:

Oh I almost forgot to add. People will say it is cheaper to keep her. I will say this, your sanity is priceless. It smarter to barter with a lawyer than it is cheaper to keep her.

I agree with you on this.Ill take freedom over money. I’ll take self respect over money.Ill take telling a c~~~ to f~~~ off over money.Worth every penny It cost me. I am FREE!!!

[xenonParticipant 2007]

Exactly spot on with regard to counselors. A waste of time if ever I have seen one. Another female infested work zone. If there is a high paying job that involves no work, expect a female to be there. Think government. Could we have more useless paper pushers that think they deserve a retirement on top of free health care? Do the “black hole” retirement math for any set of government employees, or better yet talk with an actuary. Scary. And they want me to pay taxes to support that crap. Hubris in action.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

When women want to see marriage counselors it’s so that they can validate and justify their positions. Then afterwards they can say; “See I told you so! It’s you and not me!” They really don’t want to fix the marriage. They want a third party to assign blame to the man so that they can feel better about themselves.
Women know the deck is stacked in their favor and the bulls~~~ attempt of trying to “save” the marriage looks good to the courts when they’re deciding how much they are going to rake the man over the coals.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Masculine_Man wrote:

Just be clear, Marriage Counselors, are there to help the wives. Not the husbands.

If it has “marriage” anywhere in it, it’s there for the wives, not the husbands.

Marriage-anything is a raw deal for men.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

Marriage counselling is a gynocentrically rigged endeavour. The gender figures for college psychology major enrollments speak for themselves –

With so many women becoming psychologists and counselors, blokes are immediately up against an estrogen imbalance –

On the upside, congratulations on being a free man and not having to come home from a hard-day’s work to see this leeching off your pay-packet and eroding your sanity –

#ManOut

[aeragoanParticipant 1186]

Most of the marriage counsellors and divorce lawyers are women these days…They are not worth a effort…

[WarratahParticipant 895]

My ex’s friends gave her a checklist of things to do before pulling the plug on our marriage.
One of the things on the list was Marriage Counselling.
So she set up the sessions.
Turns out, our counsellor was a man. He saw us seperately first, then together.
It was a huge relief to me, being able to talk to somebody about the nightmare I’d been living for so long.
When he saw us together, he was completely impartial and gave us both various exercises to try in order to improve communication, maybe save our relationship.
Wife refused to go back to him.
I asked why.
‘Because he’s a man,’ she said ‘he doesn’t understand’

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[JuehueParticipant 1316]

It would be fun to see 2 marriage counselors (opposite sex) argue with each other over your issue.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

Warratah wrote:

When women want to see marriage counselors it’s so that they can validate and justify their positions. Then afterwards they can say; “See I told you so! It’s you and not me!” They really don’t want to fix the marriage. They want a third party to assign blame to the man so that they can feel better about themselves.
Women know the deck is stacked in their favor and the bulls~~~ attempt of trying to “save” the marriage looks good to the courts when they’re deciding how much they are going to rake the man over the coals.

Exactly! Because us men do the numbers and present facts and logic. Women are all about the “feels”. F~~~ anything that makes them feel like they are as worthless as the numbers say they are.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

The only marriage counselor I ever saw was a male, and what an aging hippie douche socialist beta blue pill he was. He was straight but bordering on effeminate, and he always took The Sow’s side on everything. He was a pussy and I wanted to slap him.

Sovereignty above all else.

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

Thankfully I’ve never been married, so I’ve never needed to go to a marriage counselor. But I’ve known couples who have, and God help the husband if the counselor is a woman. Sounds like everything that I’m picturing it as, is exactly what it is. If any ex-girlfriend of mine had suggested that we try “couples counseling” together, I would’ve called her a c~~~ and walked away.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Her answer to this, “If she doesn’t want to work isn’t that her choice?” I couldn’t believe this question. My retort, “Well what if I don’t want to work, who will pay the bills? Can I get away with that as well?” Her reply, “But you’re the man.” -_-

How does a woman with that kind of attitude get to be a head doctor? I thought that counselors were supposed to be constructive! GE-AWWD. Was the military paying for that abuse aswell, or was it a perk?

Masculine_Man wrote:

So the inevitable happened…we went to go see a counselor. At first I did not want to do it because it would cost me money and I thought our solution was easy. Bitch needed to get a job and contribute. Well we set up our counseling through the military so it was free. I went to my first and ONLY counseling session and SURPRISE it was a woman.

Should’ve said that since you pay for everything else which isn’t free, you should at least get to pick which counselor you go to. Since you’ve implied that it was her idea to go, she probably actively sought out a woman. If your local counseling office had been all men, would she have been as keen – or even suggested it to start with?

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Women-can’t live with them, can’t shoot em.

[experiencedParticipant]

Constantine wrote:

Thankfully I’ve never been married, so I’ve never needed to go to a marriage counselor. But I’ve known couples who have, and God help the husband if the counselor is a woman. Sounds like everything that I’m picturing it as, is exactly what it is. If any ex-girlfriend of mine had suggested that we try “couples counseling” together, I would’ve called her a c~~~ and walked away.

Sounds like a great question to ask while dating to see things in perspective, “What are your thoughts on couple’s counseling? What gender preferred?

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

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