Unplugged and lost!!!!!!!!!

[FractureParticipant 13]

I have been aware of the MGTOW way of thinking and it’s social observations for almost a year and once shown the bulls~~~ out there I am sure most here will agree that it is pretty hard to ignore the s~~~ty system in which we live.
The attitude of society/media towards the role and existence of men is abhorrent and truly depressing. Having been largely unemployed for the majority of the last three years I have grown more disillusioned with society and to be honest I am lost and I have no direction in life.
The concept of making my own way without having to answer to anyone or societies bull s~~~ is what I want and need. I am just so petrified of being alone and a failure with nobody around me for support.
I am 30 years of age and stuck and I wanted to ask for advice and encouragement by anyone willing to contribute their own thoughts about the direction men must take in the future. I feel the role of men is being re-written as we speak more and more are saying no to traditional male role models and it is up to all of us to define our own purpose in life.
I just need to find mine.

Thanks for listening.

[Swen AugustParticipant 373]

Yes we must each follow our own path. Happiness is a choice and comes from within. Hope things pick up for you.

MGTOW works effectively because that is the only thing it can do.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Well… maybe this will help you.

Fracture wrote:

I just need to find mine.

You’ve heard women say that “I need to find myself”. There are movies out there about that concept – like “eat. pray. love” , and as a man, you want to get away from that mindset immediately.

Let women “find” themselves.
Men CREATE themselves.

Instead of looking for where you belong, or looking to find a home, or looking to find anything at all……. start thinking in terms of “wherever I lay my hat…. that’s my home”. You can’t “find” it. You have to MAKE it. It’s up to you to create it.

I know it’s tough. And I am not just saying that. I KNOW it’s tough. But the only person you can rely on in this world is yourself. REPEAT: The only person you can rely on in this world – is yourself. The sooner a man learns it, the better.

Women expect to “find” things. Women expect love to *come* to them. Even Celine Dion sings “love comes to those who believe it”. It’s complete bulls~~~, because love isn’t what you get, or find, or a lottery win that comes to you. It’s what you GIVE. You don’t need someone else to have plenty of love in your life. It radiates outwards from you. Contrary to the very popular female opinion, you don’t sit back with your arms folded hoping it will “come to you” – just because you believe it. That’s silly. We tend to listen to that crap because it *sounds good*, but it’s CRAP.

GIVE TO YOURSELF — FIRST.
Because nobody else ever will. They only want it FROM you.

I am just so petrified of being alone and a failure with nobody around me for support.

One of the best videos I have ever seen on this topic is:
/video/women-are-parasites/

Don’t let the title distract you. It’s actually more about bashing a man over the head with the baseball bat of reality, and forces him to accept that he IS alone in the world……. and he is the ONLY person who can pull him out of it. It’s not easy to listen to, and big red pill. So have a glass of water handy. It’s a reality that’s tough to swallow. The message being: “There is no mommy coming to save you” ….. “YOU will earn your way out of worthlessness. ONLY YOU can”.

The bright side is… you’re not really “lost”.
You just haven’t created it yet.

So whenever it feels like your standing alone in the middle of a deserted place, plant a seed for yourself, create an opportunity for yourself, or grab a shovel and start building your home – right in that place. Wandering around looking for another place isn’t really the solution. The solution is to dig the hole and pour the foundation yourself.

Think about the concept of a “job”. A “job” is just something that pays you…… so that you can make enough money to do the things you WANT to do when you’re not working.. Pursuing a “job” is like jumping from one position of subservience and slavery to another. The moment you’re released… a man is pretty quick to enslave himself again. So he applies for another “job”.

But while he is doing that, he needs to ALSO be creating other opportunities to free himself from that.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Hi Fracture, If you are not married and have no kids, you are already in a far better position to do the things KeyMaster shared.

Fracture wrote:

direction men must take in the future

You are 30, what I wouldn’t give to be your age and be on this site. 47 next month here.

Going to have to set some goals first in order to have any direction IMHO
I wasted many years of my life being married & not really being able to have “my” own life plan or goals during that time.
I have also wasted time not really being all that ambitious, as well as not having any sense of direction.

It was only after I decided to set goals that I really wanted to achieve, or at least try like hell to.
Seeing that money is a major role in day to day life, I cut my expenses as low as I could stand.

Living in an older model rv in a rv park at the moment. This was one of those goals that was/is needed for my life plan.
Next step is either some land or a better rv, eventually both though. Unless I can get land I like & maybe get a small cottage or whatever on it.

In short, it helped give me direction. A purpose, a dream if you will.

Fracture wrote:

I am just so petrified of being alone and a failure with nobody around me for support.

This can be a real show stopper. Fear can freeze us in our tracks. It is paramount that you sort this out in your mind. You are not alone in the thoughts concerning being alone. I wont lie, but even if the rest of my life is as such. I can never again fall for the failure part nor the support issue.

Why?

I am my own man now, no longer enslaved & free. As for support, are you kidding me? Nothing can hold a candle to being here on this site. Sure, I may not be able to sit and chill with the men here and have a beer with them, or go fishing, or whatnot, but I would rather have this forum, instead of people around me that are just gonna f~~~ me over. Yes, I have been robbed, and all kinds of s~~~, by people I thought were my friends.

So, if you can manage to set some goals, and at least take some comfort in knowing you have support here, that is rivaled by nothing that I know of on the planet, and overcome your fear of failing, I would say you have a great foundation to start building upon.

I don’t know if you have read Esther Vilar’s book “Manipulated Man, but I just finished listening to it today. I will listen to it over & over again, of this I am sure. It really is a must in my opinion. eye opening to say the very absolute f~~~ing least about it. Here’s the link, I can’t recommend it enough, really.

Hope what I shared is of some use to you.
Cheers

[RebalancedParticipant 346]

Can relate to what you are dealing with. Being unemployed can at times be a blessing in disguise though.for e.g:

1. All that spare time on your hands to work on the projects/things you want out of life.

2. Realising that you dont need and can survive without a lot of the material things that most people in society are chasing after. http://Www.theminimalists.com is a good site with more detail on that.

3. Getting rid of the snakes in the grass who only want to know you when you have money and or who think you are a failure if you are unemployed (true friends will be around through thick and thin).

I don't need pussy

[OldscoundrellParticipant 412]

All the advice above is on point. I just want to add that getting started is sometimes the hardest part due to fear of failure.

Once your goal is set.

Fake it till you make it.

Because who you are when starting a big venture is not who you are going to be when coming out the other side. As men, grow and evolve with experience.

[FractureParticipant 13]

I have read through your advice thus far and have taken on board the advice given to me. I kindly thank you for your input and time. I agree that fear is a huge obstacle to any progress and keeps us stuck in the all to familiar loop of discontent for most of the time. Breaking away and grasping my own self-determination firmly will be the only way to happiness.

Thanks once again.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Fracture wrote:

I have been aware of the MGTOW way of thinking and it’s social observations for almost a year and once shown the bulls~~~ out there I am sure most here will agree that it is pretty hard to ignore the s~~~ty system in which we live.The attitude of society/media towards the role and existence of men is abhorrent and truly depressing. Having been largely unemployed for the majority of the last three years I have grown more disillusioned with society and to be honest I am lost and I have no direction in life.The concept of making my own way without having to answer to anyone or societies bull s~~~ is what I want and need. I am just so petrified of being alone and a failure with nobody around me for support.I am 30 years of age and stuck and I wanted to ask for advice and encouragement by anyone willing to contribute their own thoughts about the direction men must take in the future. I feel the role of men is being re-written as we speak more and more are saying no to traditional male role models and it is up to all of us to define our own purpose in life.I just need to find mine.
Thanks for listening.

I am in a similar boat as you, but older. Seeing how much the system is broken, and the job situation, had me go MGTOW in my own form. I would say you are going to have to fight like hell for your own way, and don’t expect to find templates anywhere. Only way you may get some progress is having a way that others want, you can bargain with to get resources for. In my bad state I was in, I got creative and did some stuff.

I believe the way of MGTOW is NOT to find the way ALL men should go, just each man finding his own way on his own.

As a bit of a plug, and to get you context of where I come from, check out my Sling of David YouTube channel. It is different than other MGTOW channel, but I do try to speak to issues that may matter to you:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOs7g4oEoPwJT_Es-c_inhQ

I talk about topics relevant to LIVING MGTOW, more than on the nature of women, or the state of the world.

Another channel I would recommend checking out is Edmond Dantes’ channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoRWCDFyYwqxNXkFR37Q80A

I believe it is beneficial you find material on finding life purpose and ways to be of value and to manage your emotional state. You need to take care of you, as others aren’t going to. You easily can fall into a trap of getting caught up in collectivist campaigns to fill a void, but will leave you nothing in return. You need to take care of you as much as you can.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

KM needs to get a book done, and do a lecture tour, to clean up after the mess RooshV left with what he is doing :-).

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

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