Unexpected use of Tinder

[MrBurnsParticipant 83]

I’m the type of MGHOW who wants to go fully celibate, I know it’s not everyone’s goal, but it is mine. Normally I end up just finding something productive to occupy my time, but sometimes I cave and have casual sex which feels like a battle between my instincts and my intellect.

So I took a new approach the other day – conditioning.

I opened Tinder and started left swiping (aka rejecting) every single chick on there.

This isn’t some absent minded, automatic action either. I look at her pictures, read her profile, allow my natural thoughts and fantasies to manifest for a brief moment… Then I force myself to go through the list of reasons to stay the hell away from her. I imagine how she might look while she takes everything from me, I imagine her poking holes in condoms, I imagine her with a big herpes rash or standing across from me in a courtroom.

Then when I’m absolutely disgusted, I ask myself “if she were here right now, would you f~~~ her?”

F~~~ no. Rejected, rinse, repeat.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

MrBurns wrote:

I’m the type of MGHOW who wants to go fully celibate, I know it’s not everyone’s goal, but it is mine

Someone else mentioned this recently, but there is really no need to “go celibate”. All you have to do is “not show interest”.

As men we do the choosing, the initiating – and women expect us to. A conscious decision to “go celibate” would only be necessary if a woman made 100% of the effort to get naked, spread her legs, and say “give it to me big daddy”…. and then you say “no”.

But how often does that happen?

Maybe twice in my life did non-girlfriend sex ever happen so easily.
…. where I suddenly “found” a horny & naked female in front of me.

MrBurns wrote:

I ask myself “if she were here right now, would you f~~~ her?”

You don’t even have to think about it. The question of “would you f~~~ her” doesn’t even enter the realm of possibility until you start an interaction with her. Women are designed to RESPOND. So if you don’t open, nothing will happen.

As men we don’t have to make a conscious effort to “not f~~~ her”. The same result is achieved by focussing on something else.

“I don’t have time for a wife and an airplane”.
– Wilbur Wright

Rather than thinking of “going celibate”, dedicate your efforts, focus and energy on something really productive. And then you rarely have to think about it. Until you get rich, famous, or powerful.

THEN you’ll have a real problem getting rid of them.
But there are worse problems to have.

🙂

MrBurns wrote:

I end up just finding something productive to occupy my time

Pretending to reject women on an electronic device whom you will never interact with (or meet) – unless you make all the effort – is not a productive use of your time.

If you were actively seeking women (say, on a dating website) and they were filling your mailbox with interest, then you can swipe “no thanks”. But even then, if you’re not even there, it’s just not a variable.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 11]

Awesome!! Personally, I’d approve the ugly ones and then ignore them for extra effect.

Tinder is responsible for many STDs.

Like Key said only devote minimal time. Though trolling is fun, any time spent on women is time wasted.

Chad of POF has spoken.

[Anonymous 42]

MrBurns wrote:

Then when I’m absolutely disgusted, I ask myself “if she were here right now, would you f~~~ her?”

F~~~ no. Rejected, rinse, repeat.

MrBurns, isn’t more fun to go skiing or something?

Standing over a dumpster and stirring it’s contents with a stick is no way to live your life, the smell alone will make you sick!

Standing over a line and planning your path is the only way to live!

[revistaParticipant 232]

I avoid women as much as possible but even though im nearly 47 i still have high sex drive.prostitutes not my thing so during my 3 years of being single(and mgtow)ive had few one nighters,met few on dating sites etc.but its alot of trouble and the juice not worth the squeeze.id suggest a f~~~ buddy but that can get complicated.ive got to stage now where i just dont bother.go gym alot,work,hobbies etc and keep busy.and you make better decisions and dont think with your dick.

[RayBandakuParticipant 888]

I am a filmmaker, I stay focused on making great films. I don’t have time women and filmmaking, I choose to enjoy making great films. Women are useless in my life, they are a complete waste of time and money. Do what you love, enjoy life.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

A lot of work just avoid rubbing one out.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

I haven’t had sex in 16 years. I had so many chances but i refused. I could had sex with at least 12 hot women because I worked with the public. However quite a few women were married or had boyfriends. This really p~~~ed me off so I refuse to even date any woman let alone have sex with them. All I have to do is focus that these women likely have a boyfriend or hubby and they are willing to cheat on their partner.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[SkeptiskParticipant 3679]

Just rub one out and go do something you like. To me it’s gaming. Being here is just to read with interest the stories that has happened to other people, and seeing the post-wall pics in $aver’s thread.

"Expecting to find a decent woman on a dating site is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal." Won'tGetFooledAgain

[Anonymous 3]

MrBurns wrote:

I’m the type of MGHOW who wants to go fully celibate, I know it’s not everyone’s goal, but it is mine. Normally I end up just finding something productive to occupy my time, but sometimes I cave and have casual sex which feels like a battle between my instincts and my intellect.

So I took a new approach the other day – conditioning.

I opened Tinder and started left swiping (aka rejecting) every single chick on there.

This isn’t some absent minded, automatic action either. I look at her pictures, read her profile, allow my natural thoughts and fantasies to manifest for a brief moment… Then I force myself to go through the list of reasons to stay the hell away from her. I imagine how she might look while she takes everything from me, I imagine her poking holes in condoms, I imagine her with a big herpes rash or standing across from me in a courtroom.

Then when I’m absolutely disgusted, I ask myself “if she were here right now, would you f~~~ her?”

F~~~ no. Rejected, rinse, repeat.

Yeah, that’s a very effective way to refocus. I remember I would look at pictures of women and realize, “All this is designed specifically to manipulate me. My body is reacting, you see. But you are in complete control. F~~~ that body reaction. F~~~ you nature and your seduction, it ain’t got s~~~ on me!”

Anytime I think about that, I’m fully grounded.

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

Tinder is an STD septic tank.
Syphilis and gonorrhea are on the rise and the trollops literally have more STDs than men.

[Anonymous 3]

If you want to chase women you’re going to chase women. Sex never “just happens” for a man. It doesn’t actually “just happen” for a woman either, but that’s another matter entirely, and just them refusing accountability and agency conveniently. Take away the cash prizes for getting knocked up and suddenly women stop having sex, where previously it “just happened”.

If you really need to, rub one out. Just don’t go talking about it afterwards, why bother? Actually, for my personal experience, sex is a drug and since you likely won’t get regular access with any woman, especially while you’re young, the more sex you have the more you need to masturbate. That’s the really funny thing about it. It’s like your body gets conditioned either to need it or to not need it. I guess we’re biologically designed that way. That’s why if you stop, the urges stop, although it seems to take some time for the body to understand it’s not going to get anything. Withdrawal symptoms you can consider it, if you get past the withdrawal though you’re good.

[NewgroundsParticipant 558]

Apply what you’re doing on Tinder to everyday life and the physical world, resisting the urges is always a challenge I’m confident my urges will fade as I get into my 30s. Knowing the risks is a good deterrent.I give you kudos for wanting to pursue celibacy, at this age for me though it’s too hard for me to be celibate, my crutch for now is having sex with my neighbor I tell her I’m busy all the time and text her 3 times tops every 2 days when she gets tired of me not committing and moves on it’ll probably take me 10 days to realize she’s gone and I’ll look forward to the awkward stares and s~~~ faces she gives me when we see each other here and then . I haven’t had a girlfriend in almost a year and it’s great and now there’s a lot of time in the day, I’m not sitting with them on a couch watching netflix while they stare at their phone asking me “what’s going on babe?” every 5 minutes. My conclusion is that it’s okay to have casual sex as long as you don’t let the pussy control you, remain your own man and cut them off after you had your fill.

|Right Wing Death Squad| Swallowed both Red Pills /pol/MGTOW

[RennieParticipant]

Zuberi Tau wrote:

Tinder is an STD septic tank.
Syphilis and gonorrhea are on the rise and the trollops literally have more STDs than men.

But hey, that’s gender equality for you.

[narwhalParticipant]

MrBurns, you said you want to be celibate, but you never really said why. Why? You hinted at the negative consequences you see, and yes, focusing on that is a good thing, although I don’t see why you need to go to tinder to do that.

It’s similar to an alcoholic going to a bar every night and telling the bartender he only wants water. Why not just stay away from the bars?

For me personally, sex isn’t the negative temptation, relationships are. I need positive reinforcement, reasons, not to get involved with a woman. At the very least, make sure I have good boundaries. Sex actually helps me keep those boundaries. Once I’ve had sex with her, I see her and what a relationship with her would mean a lot more clearly. I think women know this on some level, part of the reason they may hold out when they want it. If your locked in due to time/money invested or some sense of loyalty or whatever, you will hand around even after you realize you don’t want to. After I’ve had the milk, not only do I want to buy the cow, I want the cow out of my life for good.

Ok. Then do it.

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