turds that won't flush – ex gf

[Anonymous 1]

I’ve recently managed to remove all non-essential interactions with womenz, and i’m definitely enjoying the benefits of this, but i have an ex gf who is intent on causing me hassle.

she’s definitely borderline (undiagnosed) but the hall marks are there, and her crazy levels are off the chart. She is beyond anything i’ve ever dealt with before. I thought the best option was to go no contact but this isn’t deterring her.

here’s a list of things she’s done lately (we broke up over 3 months ago)

– hacked my gmail by getting my security questions correct, but didn’t do any actual damange (this could have been bad – i have business contacts and colleagues in there)

– attempted to hack my whatsapp, but that was stopped in it’s tracks when the verification code was sent to my phone.

– contacted my parents to tell them i’m mentally ill and need professional help. My parents knew about the situation so this wasn’t a huge issue.

– messaged me some of the most vile abuse i’ve ever recieved. i have her number blocked, but she was using a different number

– stalking. 2 weeks ago i saw her car parked in the car park opposite my house. She doesn’t live locally.

– tried to sign me up for some new NHS service called SH:24 (an online sexual health service). This happened last night but again the verification code was sent to my phone. I can only assume this was an attempt to humiliate me in some way?

No Contact isn’t having any impact. I’ve been considering going to the police but i’m reluctant to escalate it to this level, and i’m worried about false charges being brought against me (she really is capable).

what would you guys do?

[Anonymous 54]

Im no expert,but i would unblockyour number and let her text or email you, Do not respond. Let her rant endlessly at you,keep it all for documentation aftereards. Maby letting hers blast it all out at you with no reaction from you will eventually get old to her.

[Anonymous 11]

You’re going to have to handle her very carefully. Like you, I’ve spent some time with a diagnosed borderline.

No contact is very important for handling any Cluster B disordered person. They will attempt to break it so don’t feel any shame over breaking it. It also takes a while to establish, and they don’t like it. It took a little over two years to get mine to finally quit contacting me. Mine never pulled any hacking stunts like that on me though I got some seriously scary vile abuse from her while establishing no contact . She then tried to get me to come over and have sex with her repeatedly. He contacts became fewer with time.

I found that being politely boring worked best for me. Each time she’d contact me, I make up some lame excuse about something. If she knocks on your door, you were just heading out. If she calls, someone is knocking on the door. Be creative.

Whatever you do. Never be alone with her. They are notorious for filing false charges mostly DV and rape. Do not ever contact her for any reason.

Eventually, she will find a new object, and you will be forgotten. Mine is a smoking hot red head so she has a swarm of orbiters at all times so it was very easy for her to replace me. They are known to do exactly what she’s doing to you.

Keep working on no contact and document everything she does to you.

I recently had to go no contact with a male friend who has Anti Social Personality Disorder. During the process, he threatened to burn my house down. He also smashed the rear window glass out of my convertible. No contact worked with him too, eventually.

[Anonymous 1]

Anonymous wrote:

No contact is very important for handling any Cluster B disordered person. They will attempt to break it so don’t feel any shame over breaking it. It also takes a while to establish, and they don’t like it. It took a little over two years to get mine to finally quit contacting me.

She’s constantly testing my bounderies. Emailing me from different address’s and texting from different numbers. Once she realises im ignoring her she escalates. this is when she’ll start contacting family members, attempts to hack s~~~ or generally doing hugely C~~~y things. i normally get a few weeks of peace before the whole thing starts again. It usually kicks off again on a Sunday evening, its so predictable, she’s had her weekend of partying, sleeping around and the attention well is running a little dry.

Anonymous wrote:

Eventually, she will find a new object, and you will be forgotten. Mine is a smoking hot red head so she has a swarm of orbiters at all times so it was very easy for her to replace me. They are known to do exactly what she’s doing to you.

she had dozens or orbiters, which i thought would work in my favour. i assumed she’d move on quickly but she hasn’t. i guess going NC on a bitch like this means your value goes shooting up in their eye.

Anonymous wrote:

Whatever you do. Never be alone with her. They are notorious for filing false charges mostly DV and rape. Do not ever contact her for any reason.

good advice. i won’t be putting myself in that position.

Anonymous wrote:

I recently had to go no contact with a male friend who has Anti Social Personality Disorder. During the process, he threatened to burn my house down. He also smashed the rear window glass out of my convertible. No contact worked with him too, eventually.

i’m starting to realise how common these personality disorders are. that’s f~~~ing s~~~ though.

[Anonymous 1]

Anonymous wrote:

I found that being politely boring worked best for me. Each time she’d contact me, I make up some lame excuse about something. If she knocks on your door, you were just heading out. If she calls, someone is knocking on the door. Be creative.

I’ll give this a shot. they’re drawn to drama, remove the drama and remove the fun. i dont think i could put up with 2 years of this s~~~ though.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

– hacked my gmail by getting my security questions correct, but didn’t do any actual damange (this could have been bad – i have business contacts and colleagues in there)

Just use two factor authication and crazy answers for security questions.

Change Your Security Question Answers

– messaged me some of the most vile abuse i’ve ever recieved. i have her number blocked, but she was using a different number

Never answer her.

– stalking. 2 weeks ago i saw her car parked in the car park opposite my house. She doesn’t live locally.

Take pictures for proof you might want a restraining order.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Joller984-

Sorry you are going thru this.
My 2 cents:
1. On something like this, you might consider a restraining order which instructs her not to contact you again. Your local police department might be able to assist you. You might need to talk with an attorney.
2. Document everything.

Good luck

[AttonParticipant]

Secure everything and if she continue contact the police. What she is doing certainly cannot be legal.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Anonymous 1]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

Just use two factor authication and crazy answers for security questions.

I will do from now on, i never expected her to pull this s~~~. I also now realise the stupidity of having accurate answers to security questions.

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

Joller984-

Sorry you are going thru this.
My 2 cents:
1. On something like this, you might consider a restraining order which instructs her not to contact you again. Your local police department might be able to assist you. You might need to talk with an attorney.
2. Document everything.

Good luck

yep. i already have more than enough documented to take this further. i am looking at info for getting restraining orders in the UK. I have a feeling they aren’t easy to get over here, and being a man trying to take one out against a woman just makes it more difficult.

Atton wrote:

Secure everything and if she continue contact the police. What she is doing certainly cannot be legal.

it can’t be legal, but getting any charges to stick against a woman in this type of scenario is going to be difficult i’m sure. I really don’t want it to come to this, but there won’t be a choice if it continues.

[narwhalParticipant]

I know little about what is required in order to get a restraining order, but that seems the way to go. It seems like letting the police know of the situation can only help you if things get out of hand and the police are forced to get involved.

Ok. Then do it.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

Anonymous wrote:

I’ve recently managed to remove all non-essential interactions with womenz, and i’m definitely enjoying the benefits of this, but i have an ex gf who is intent on causing me hassle.

she’s definitely borderline (undiagnosed) but the hall marks are there, and her crazy levels are off the chart. She is beyond anything i’ve ever dealt with before. I thought the best option was to go no contact but this isn’t deterring her.

here’s a list of things she’s done lately (we broke up over 3 months ago)

– hacked my gmail by getting my security questions correct, but didn’t do any actual damange (this could have been bad – i have business contacts and colleagues in there)

– attempted to hack my whatsapp, but that was stopped in it’s tracks when the verification code was sent to my phone.

– contacted my parents to tell them i’m mentally ill and need professional help. My parents knew about the situation so this wasn’t a huge issue.

– messaged me some of the most vile abuse i’ve ever recieved. i have her number blocked, but she was using a different number

– stalking. 2 weeks ago i saw her car parked in the car park opposite my house. She doesn’t live locally.

– tried to sign me up for some new NHS service called SH:24 (an online sexual health service). This happened last night but again the verification code was sent to my phone. I can only assume this was an attempt to humiliate me in some way?

No Contact isn’t having any impact. I’ve been considering going to the police but i’m reluctant to escalate it to this level, and i’m worried about false charges being brought against me (she really is capable).

what would you guys do?

File a police report

[VarunParticipant 2981]

Anonymous wrote:

and being a man trying to take one out against a woman just makes it more difficult.

That is an undeniable truth. Remember, the world is more friendly to a woman than it can ever be to you. Even families bail out on their own when a girl makes a claim, no matter its authenticity.

Whatever you do, always keep that in mind.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[Anonymous 1]

Varun wrote:

Even families bail out on their own

that story is tragic. unforgivable betrayal.
a daughter believed over a son by default. Same applies in family situations it seems.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Yep … time to put this on record.

REPORT IT NOW.

Before she does.

YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

Report it. What harm will it do?

[Anonymous 11]

ILA and the others are right report now before she does. I found the police officer gave me some excellent advice to handle my ASPD situation too. You’re being stalked and harassed.

I reported my ASPD friend to the police for threatening arson against my property. Arson is crime where one can be convicted by circumstantial evidence in the US so filing that report was very important. He’s committed arson twice to my knowledge. So, I was scared to say the least mainly for my pets and a few valuables. I’ve erased him.

They say borderlines cannot stand to be alone so she is probably trying to fill a void by contacting you. They also are notorious for reengaging. I promise you would utterly freak if you knew what she is really doing whenever you’re not around.

Her contacts with me gradually decreased over a two year period. She went 15 months from the last one to the one before that. It’s now been 2.5 years since last contact. Establishing no contact is a pain in the ass. They are also known exhibit stalking behaviors too.

Mine got married to my replacement. She then divorced him and ensnared her first husband again. I recently heard through some mutual friends that she recently reengaged husband number 2 after he inherited his mother’s home in a very nice neighborhood and is living with him.

Mine even tried to reengage an ex 18 years post relationship.

[Anonymous 54]

Reading this should scare young dudes to go there own way!These guys are right. Who ever contacts the police first is believed more often than not. Narcissist do not take rejection well do they!!

[SMADParticipant 651]

Had a similar situation two years ago. Vile verbal abuse etc. Although it’s not for everyone and can give any guarantees but, for me, I “feigned beta”.

I basically did lots of wussy things that lowered my SMV to her and quite quickly she “realised” I wasn’t as awesome as she thought and moved on rapidly.

Of course, inside I was laughing because as a younger man, I did things to try and be non-beta. Now, as a 30 something MGTOW for many years, pretending to be a weak willed beta makes you realise how much it wards away women.

I still have Tinder, etc as I like to have the occasional female to talk to – purely for narcissistic reasons and to stroke my own ego, but eventually I get bored of talking and start replying a bit strangely or I turn into a dull, unexciting chump.

My latest reply was “So, you got your new house coming up? What room are you starting with – the dungeon or the bed under the stairs?”

I laughed as I typed and sent it. I laugh at how I haven’t heard from her in a few days (usually its every day).

I even say things like “I can’t answer that just yet! My secret plan is to make sure you invest emotionally into me and then I will crush your hopes with disappointing answers!”

Strangely, that always gets a laugh and seems to ramp up my SMV. Game playing yes, but its my game on my terms for my own amusement.

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

I don’t know about british law.

In the USA. I’d file a police report.

If she goes to the cops first. The story is already written. Prove to the police that your didn’t hit her 3 weeks ago.

Better yet prove to me, a brother, that is on your side, that you didn’t hit her three weeks ago.

Think about it.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[boisdevieParticipant 257]

Go to the cops. Stop being a nice guy and go to the cops. She’s do the same to you wouldn’t she?

[Anonymous 11]

SMAD wrote:

Although it’s not for everyone and can give any guarantees but, for me, I “feigned beta”.

Never underestimate the power of “feigning beta”. Mine tried to make me into a cuckold. She hit on a bartender in front of me and announced we were in an “open relationship”. Being C-Pig, I went John Wayne on her ass. She was knocking on my window the next morning as if nothing happened and clinging. It was over for me though.

I faked like I still cared, and she dumped me the following weekend after thinking she had regained control. I had to struggle to even maintain an erection with her after that episode.

Whenever she contacts you, it’s not about you. Keep that in mind too.

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