Trying To Get My Head Around This Concept

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Just a quick questions guys, since I have never been married or had kids, I have had many male friends, especially lately, do this and I seriously for the life of me cannot get my head around it. Every time I’ve told them that they are making a really bad choice I get the “You’ve never been married or had kids so you don’t understand.” Now I am quite a resilient man but even that quote makes me feel indignant.

The Question: “What would prompt a divorced single dad with a couple of kids & little money to date and move in with a divorced single mum?”

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

IDK. Misery loves company?

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 42]

They are the lonely type, neither has been away from the opposite sex long enough to rid themselves of the addiction of sex, nor the mythical feelings of loneliness. Or as PусскийКГБ put it, “misery loves company”.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Societal programming from youth.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

Samuel Johnson described second marriages as the triumph of hope over experience.

 

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DeepInThought wrote:

“You’ve never been married or had kids so you don’t understand.”

Oh please.  I’m betting you’ve never stuck your dick in a bear trap, either, but you understand enough to know that’s a bad idea as well.

A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.  A fool denies his mistakes encourages others in the same mistakes to justify his foolishness.

The Question: “What would prompt a divorced single dad with a couple of kids & little money to date and move in with a divorced single mum?”

Something more than mere foolishness.  Probably idiocy.

[SurlymonocleParticipant 38]

Amen, Sidecar!

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Nothing made my narc sociopathic ex from 2 years ago turn quicker on me than insisting on a financial agreement to live together. Man, she went off like a powder keg! I love my money more…

These couple of mates of mine as mentioned above, to me are deadwood now. They just don’t get it, yet they come to me after they get their nuts handed to them and sulk in their beer again and again.

But I have another mate, who’s current girlfriend just dropped $35,000 to buy him a new truck. WTF? I smell desperation, control and something not good coming on her part. But on a positive he’s had a vasectomy.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DeepInThought wrote:

But I have another mate, who’s current girlfriend just dropped $35,000 to buy him a new truck. WTF? I smell desperation, control and something not good coming on her part.

Yeah, you’re probably correct, something is just not right there.  And I’m not just talking about spending $35k on a truck.  Somehow I think he’ll end up paying for it, one way or another.

DeepInThought wrote:

But on a positive he’s had a vasectomy.

Does she know that?  Because the best vasectomies are secret vasectomies.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

@sidecar – Yes she knows he has had the snip, she was a land whale who lost a tremendous amount of weight and she cannot have kids. He has a son from previous marriage where she cheated. He’s a solid guy but when it comes to women, he’s a naive fool!

[meshugganatorParticipant 2]

there is absolutely nothing a single mother can offer to you at all. men who date them are gluttons for financial ruin, and a slightly more insidious grade of manipulation,since they have done it all before. narcissism is as barbarossa put it, a pesticide on the male soul. coupled with federally sanctioned slavery( 9-5 ers and marriage) it’s a recipe to chloroform your life and creativity.

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