True Colors

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

So the ex shows up at a social function that I am attending. She gets drunk over the course of the evening and starts behaving like she used to when we were together. She gives me a great deal of unwanted attention, and acts like the breakup didn’t even take place. At the end of the evening, I start to realize that she has been very nice to me, and it warms my heart in a selective nostalgia kind of way. Just then, she comes out of the bathroom, clearly angry for some reason, probably drunken fighting mode. She demands the keys for my car, which I deny her. She says that she is not drunk, and that she is ok to drive. I tell her, after all of her reasoning, that “the answer is no.” She goes away and comes back after having gathered up her stuff and asks for the keys to my car to “just put her stuff in there, so she can walk home.” I tell her once again that the answer is no, and that I am not stupid.

Here’s where it gets fun: She is overcome with anger, and reaches up and flicks me on the forehead with her fingers in a shocking “you are an idiot” kind of way…knocking off my hat. Clearly I have blown my chance at a reconciliation with her by not giving her my new car to drunk drive with. I’m trying not to laugh while telling you this story… She sees the look on my face, of pure disgust at her disrespectful display. Everyone else at the party sees her disrespectful nature as well. She bolts.

Later, she shows up at my home, and tries to get me to hit her, which I have never and would never do, despite my bad temper. She probably wanted me to hit her to alleviate her guilt, or worse, have me arrested.

The next day, she contacts me again, claiming that it was all a bad joke, a misunderstanding… (so there was no apology needed) I told her that if she thought that I did not see it for what it really was – her true disrespectful colors – then SHE was the bad joke. I told her to leave me alone.

F~~~ing drama creeping back in to mess with my newfound zen.

BVC

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Although you have left the plantation …. your owner (her) …. still controls you.

She still has the papers and promises you made ….. well the ones she needs at any given moment. These papers prove you are still hers.

Control loss is a bitch ….. for a bitch.

Freedom is sweet ?

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

Yes. Obviously she still has the power to suck the wind out of my sails. I’m gonna have to find a way to free myself from that.

BVC

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[Dark KenshiParticipant 2132]

Big Viking Chef BVC wrote:

So the ex shows up at a social function that I am attending. She gets drunk over the course of the evening and starts behaving like she used to when we were together. She gives me a great deal of unwanted attention, and acts like the breakup didn’t even take place. At the end of the evening, I start to realize that she has been very nice to me, and it warms my heart in a selective nostalgia kind of way. Just then, she comes out of the bathroom, clearly angry for some reason, probably drunken fighting mode. She demands the keys for my car, which I deny her. She says that she is not drunk, and that she is ok to drive. I tell her, after all of her reasoning, that “the answer is no.” She goes away and comes back after having gathered up her stuff and asks for the keys to my car to “just put her stuff in there, so she can walk home.” I tell her once again that the answer is no, and that I am not stupid.
Here’s where it gets fun: She is overcome with anger, and reaches up and flicks me on the forehead with her fingers in a shocking “you are an idiot” kind of way…knocking off my hat. Clearly I have blown my chance at a reconciliation with her by not giving her my new car to drunk drive with. I’m trying not to laugh while telling you this story… She sees the look on my face, of pure disgust at her disrespectful display. Everyone else at the party sees her disrespectful nature as well. She bolts.
Later, she shows up at my home, and tries to get me to hit her, which I have never and would never do, despite my bad temper. She probably wanted me to hit her to alleviate her guilt, or worse, have me arrested.
The next day, she contacts me again, claiming that it was all a bad joke, a misunderstanding… (so there was no apology needed) I told her that if she thought that I did not see it for what it really was – her true disrespectful colors – then SHE was the bad joke. I told her to leave me alone.
F~~~ing drama creeping back in to mess with my newfound zen.
BVC

Damn, brother!

After all that she did, she still thinks that the only thing required for you to go back to the plantation was to give you the faintest HINT of a come back, or sex? She indeed is sure that her only value is as a sexual asset, didn’t she? Talk about bitching…

You was right on the f~~~ing money, brother. After all those years of nagging, of drama and s~~~ like that, she thought that you would be some kind of a “mental slave” that when she called the shots, or just said the “trigger word” you would be back running and smiling like a f~~~ing moron?

She expected you to still say YES for her? That woman is delusional, brother…

Freedom is ten times better than your c~~~s, ladies.

Thank you for the (gold) remembering, BVC!

"Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Big Viking Chef BVC wrote:

Yes. Obviously she still has the power to suck the wind out of my sails. I’m gonna have to find a way to free myself from that.

Man, I feel that. I have been thinking about this thread for a while now. My 2ndXW was the same way. Even after it being yrs now, I still think about all the times I went through that with her. Trying to shake her off my tail. I swear she tried every trick in the book. I used to get so p~~~ed off inside. I swear she would feed off of. I know she could see it in my eyes & hear it in my voice, no matter how much I tried to contain it & keep it under wraps.

Nothing I tried worked for me. Sometimes, she would wait a week, other times, it would be months. I remember thinking to myself, finally!! She left me alone and gave up, and finally moved on. Then, I would have her crawl out of the f~~~ing wood work, and come at me again. It drove me crazy. I thought I was gonna lose my mind (hell, I think for a long time I did).

I know everyone has their own story for victory & success…usually it’s along the lines of cut all ties & communications. It was not an option for me, unfortunately. The only thing that finally worked for me, was just reaching the point of I don’t even care if I have to spend the rest of my life having her come out of the blue whenever she damn well pleases.

I never thought it would allow me to achieve the desired results I had been wanting for years. I went numb inside to her, and I guess she finally figured it out. She had basically sucked my emotions and feelings for her bone dry. I was so disengaged from her I couldn’t believe it. It was an amazing experience for me.

Since she pulled all that s~~~ on you at a social function, perhaps she will not try that tactic on you again.

Big Viking Chef BVC wrote:

Here’s where it gets fun: She is overcome with anger, and reaches up and flicks me on the forehead with her fingers in a shocking “you are an idiot” kind of way…knocking off my hat. Clearly I have blown my chance at a reconciliation with her by not giving her my new car to drunk drive with. I’m trying not to laugh while telling you this story… She sees the look on my face, of pure disgust at her disrespectful display. Everyone else at the party sees her disrespectful nature as well. She bolts.

F~~~ing love it! She wants you to let her do something insane & possibly life threatening & calls you an “idiot” for not letting her. Just rich
Freakin’ women’s logic (or lack thereof) , just damn

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

Phantom wrote:

The only thing that finally worked for me, was just reaching the point of I don’t even care if I have to spend the rest of my life having her come out of the blue whenever she damn well pleases.

I would welcome that. At the moment I see that it still gets under my skin – and she sees it too. Clearly you guys understand and have been here.
Thank you. All of you.

BVC

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

BVC:

Thanks for sharing that story. For many of us, we have to deal with the ex whether we want to or not. After following this website for a few months, I am SO MUCH better at hitting the BS button immediately and sidestepping a ton of drama. And it is stories like yours that really help.

Being able to see a moment for what it is and not giving the emotional response she was expecting has her in a panic. There’s nothing quite like the look on their face when you say no to sex. What she is about to realize is that she is just now seeing the wall and she is heading at the wall at warp speed. The best part is that she didn’t even know the wall existed…..

Order the good wine

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Big Viking Chef BVC wrote:

I would welcome that. At the moment I see that it still gets under my skin – and she sees it too. Clearly you guys understand and have been here.
Thank you. All of you.

Hoping it works for you like it has for me 🙂

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

At least it didn’t end with you getting arrested.

A drunk woman like that could have easily went home, angry that you did not give her the keys to your new car and then in the morning, woke up and turned it into. . . . . .

He raped me !!!!!

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

What I notice about c~~~s, is when they apologize, it’s basically means their clever idea didn’t work.

You kept your cool, good man. If I had to deal with that I would have a temper too.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

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