Too old for conflict

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

I don’t know if any of you experience this on occasion in the real world, but I sometimes notice that there are people out there that just want to pick a fight or initiate a conflict over some of the most stupidest things. I don’t know if it is a result of unresolved issues or maladjusted upbringing or watching too much TV on the part of the individual wanting to initiate the conflict.

All I know from my perspective is that high school has been over for almost 20 years and I see individuals–I don’t know if they should be classified as “blue pill alpha males” who appear to be in their 30s or early 40s who feel the need to mouth off in a “badass” sounding voice with a few colorful metaphors about something as miniscule as a hi beam light or God knows what. Personally, I find it a waste of time and energy that could be used for something more constructive and meaningful.

In the event of any type of provocation, my best way of dealing with it is to somehow remove myself from the situation. Not out of fear, but out of no desire to participate in something so petty and childish or place myself in harm’s way.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

I seek out peace – I’ll stand strong for my beliefs but avoid needless bullls~~~

[RoyDalParticipant]

rebelandboltman wrote:

there are people out there that just want to pick a fight or initiate a conflict over some of the most stupidest things.

The Godfather told Michael, “some men want to die.” He used men like these as his examples.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 18]

rebelandboltman wrote:

unresolved issues or maladjusted upbringing

I see it how you do. Either they didn’t have healthy coping skills to begin with or as Stealthy/bunker mode pointed out (I still prefer to call you Stealthy if that’s okay- that’s how we met lol) over time inaction and TV-itis has misaligned their ability to function in reality while being pleasant to others around them.

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

My take on it is similar – all conflict comes about from an inner need that is not being met.

Anger – you get angry when things do not happen as you want them to happen, the inner need is that you need things to happen your way to feel safe.
Conflict – you want someone to see things your way, because somewhere along the line, someone else overrode your opinion. You need them to agree with you for you to feel heard/safe.

These are not the only reasons, but they go to show that men of the age bracket 40 and under (and I would guess many over that age as well) have grown up in a feminised system which did not cater to their needs, did not validate their experiences, and did not treat them the way they either should have been treated, or needed to be treated – i.e. as men. The result? Unhappy individuals with no real sense of contentment within themselves, and an overriding need to be heard/agreed with/listened to/etc.etc. So they lash out at every opportunity to try to regain that lost sense of inner congruency.

[HitmanParticipant]

Conflict is to be avoided, however. .if someone is trying to get physical, it’s on . All the way. .disable them and remove yourself from the scene. Quickly.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

I do the same, but I’m pretty young. They say, at a certain point, especially when you get older, that you just want to be left alone. People have been shouting and arguing to no avail for too long and eventually you have no vested interest in any of it because in the end, that shouting idiot doesn’t f~~~ing matter in my life. I will say though, sometimes I can be a loudmouth dickhead, but it’s usually rare, when someone tries to insult me or humiliate me in public. But then again, I’ve made efforts to get away from that and seek comfort in knowing that I can go home to a peaceful place, and be away from all these douche bags.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[Anonymous 6]

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[narwhalParticipant]

I used to have a friend that told me one night that really wanted to go to a bar and get in a fight. He did MMA on the side, and actually really enjoyed fighting, not just for the competition, but it was just a part of who he was. To me, it seemed ridiculous. He was a nice guy, a paramedic even, he just had that ‘aggression in him’ that needed and outlet.

Also, I would say that when someone blows up about something minor, it’s usually because there is something big (like spouse or girlfriend) that they can’t blow up about. So all that anger gets thrown at the only outlet available. I also think that’s why kids often get it rougher then they deserver. You can’t yell at your boss, you can’t yell at mama, so you yell at the kids. It’s best to get good at identifying what’s p~~~ing off, and either throw your anger there, or find a good outlet for it.

Ok. Then do it.

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