Faust For Science, I am sorry that I am making a scene but I have read some of your posts the past month or so. I know that you are in a situation where certain family members in your life in general are giving you a hard time. You also said that you lost faith in the decency in humanity because of what you were put through. I am going to tell you some of the most effective advice that you will ever get because this advice worked well for me. First of all, it is obvious that if members of your family want you there, they would treat you much better. I am sure that there is a reason why they do not want you there that you are not telling us, but that is okay since I am sure it is personal.
There will be some people in your life that are going to make you mentally sick, and the best way to deal with them is to maybe only see them like once or twice a year for your own sanity, but do it in a polite way, and you do not even have to explain yourself. Whatever you do, NEVER explain the reason why you are doing things, because once they get you to explain why you are doing them, they are just gonna give you irrational reasons on why you should not do it which is just a big waste of time and it will only screw up your focus in standing your ground.
Now here is the real gem of an advice that I got from dr.phil’s book, “life Code”. Everything you get or want in life is based on negotiations. If you are really smart, you can get people in your family to treat you better based on certain negotiations you make with them which can benefit you both. Let’s say you do not do any chores in the home and you do not work in your early 30s, obviously you are going to pose a problem with them since you are not going to even lift a finger to doing things that will benefit you and them as a whole. That is where the negotiations come on. I am not saying that you are in this situation, but if you are, try to negotiate with them so that they actually do want you to have a good time with them after all, because they are actually gonna benefit from you and it actually does not hurt just to have you there after all.
Maybe that relative that is a hard worker that is giving you problems does not even want you in his presence for some reason and he is trying to get you to reject him. But in the end, if he doesn’t want you there, you shouldn’t even want to be in his presence if you are not wanted there at all.
I think that there are people in your family that are trying to make you think irrational on a lot of things by feeding you bs. It is up to you to negotiate things with them of some sort though, where you would maybe not be such a burden to them if you are a burden to them.
And one more thing, whatever you do, do not ever go to a mental hospital if you can’t take it anymore, they are just gonna drug you up if you are not careful. If you are unproductive now, you are really gonna be an unproductive zombie with the drugs they will force you to take. You are at the mercy of the doctors since it is also not safe to stop taking anti-psychotic drugs altogether without lowering the drug dosages slowly first since you will get withdraw symptoms if you don’t do it safely. Also, the doctors are even motivated to keep you their patient forever because they are gonna make commission off you with the drugs they prescribed with the help of the pharmaceutical industry. You have no idea how corrupt it is, but the people who take the anti-psychotic drugs don’t care because they can live life on welfare because they are considered disabled.
p.s.I am not on welfare
"Question everything" - Albert Einstein
Faust For Science 3 years, 11 months ago.
