To be Fit, or Not to be…Which Is Best as a MGTOW?

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

Hello Brothers! Lately I have been devoting my free time in the gym, doing Cardio and lifting weights. I am an aspiring bodybuilder, just shy of my second month. While there hadn’t been much Female attention since I was a kid, now more and ore are starting to glance at me as if I was a piece of meat. The Weight lifting is a tremendous confidence boost, and is making me more of an extrovert. At 18 I try to control myself and remain true to beliefs, and to avoid female companionship as much as possible. I was wondering if I should continue to train and become a body builder, at the risk of more and more female attention, or to search another hobby, and have to face a slight drop on my confidence and physique. Speak as freely as you want, we are MGTOWs after all.

[DoNotLikeWinterParticipant 3]

Background:  Attractive people get attention, it’s a fact of life.  “Hotness” might be the most powerful s~~~ test out there for men.  After all, let’s face it, a normal (as a mgtow, I use this word loosely) guy will at least notice an attractive woman; and they know it.  The key thing to master is not letting the hottie’s attraction have an impact on you.  She has betas and white knights at her disposal for this who will do things for her without getting anything in return; not you.

First of all, I commend you on taking the red pill at the “ripe” age of 18.  Good on you.  Keep your eyes on the prize.  Bodybuilding is a remarkable discipline filled with focus, dedication, great eating habits and attractive results over time.  And as time passes, this will build your confidence in different areas and will allow you to internalize this confidence so that it’s not coming exclusively from them.  As for now, there’s nothing wrong with the attention.  And if you think you’re getting some now, wait till you start to put on some real mass and then see what happens.  It will take your confidence to a whole new level.   But I digress…

And by real mass, I don’t mean like Arnold Schwarzenegger.  That would be overkill and would get you nothing but attention.  And by relationships, I hope you don’t mean physical ones; because those are good to have.   Toy with them.  Tease them if you know how.  Give them the gift of wanting something they cannot have (at least not yet).  Keep your price point high enough to weed out the cheapskates, that is, don’t just jump on a piece of tail the minute she starts eye-f~~~ing you.  Make her wait a little (though not too long).

I don’t mean to get into technique for handling her in a psychological “game” sense, so let me make my points:

1: Getting attention from women and getting into relationships (non-physical here) are two different things.  Attention is fine.

2: Enjoy the attention a little.  But remember, staying fit (and bigger) should not be an event but a lifestyle you adopt throughout your life as it will keep you alive longer and has measurable benefits that could last a lifetime beyond the physique changes.  Do it for as long as you can.  Your long term focus should be on maintaining healthy habits that keep you fit.  Being ripped and putting on mass is just icing on the cake.

3: Learn how to be confident from internal motivation, not external.  You’re confidence, by your own admission, is based on the attention these women are giving you.  You’re young still so this will take time to develop.  Think of this as a very important long term goal that will in many cases begin to spread to other areas of your life allowing you to internalize the confidence.

Take care,

D

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

There’s one aspect to MGTOW that isn’t emphasized enough. And this is important.

For every MGTOW, you can +1 to the population of childless, unmarried women and single mothers.

You know that member counter on our homepage? Today we just hit 3000.
That’s not just a number.

Back when we had 400, a feminist bitch who thought she was so f~~~ing clever wrote to us and said “ha ha 400. Looks like it’s stuck there. May as well pack it in. Sorry it didn’t take off”. She’s eating her words now. Every +1 MGTOW is another woman who gets passed on the street and NOT given any attention. And these 3000 don’t include many. You know how many new members never HEARD of MGTOW until just before they joined? But they have been living the free life for a long time already.

What I’m getting at is….

That 3000 represents AT LEAST +3000 women who will not get attention. They will not get asked out. They will not be approached. They will not be able to “negotiate” like they pretend. They will be this chick – clutching her f~~~ing mobile praying it will ring on a Friday night.

… and she is what most would call quite attractive. You would think she had options. But she represents an entire population of women who will not get a text message from you, me, or anyone else. She’s eating peanut butter and cracker crumbs off her own cleavage in bed. Crying into her toilet bowl.

The point being, this will supercharge a guy enough to go to the gym MORE often. He’ll work out HARDER, and he will know with all that attention he his getting, he has more negotiation power (and options!) than SHE does. A worked out MGTOW knows passing women (who check him out) aren’t going to approach him or make a move. because they are waiting for HIM to do it. If he doesn’t stop her or approach, she gets nothing. And that’s how you get women like this:

“Spare a thought for millions of women like me – who will be lonely at the holidays as we live with our 17 cats”.

http://mgtow.link/lizj

Makes you wanna do an extra set doesn’t it?
Hell, Why not throw on an extra 10lbs and dedicate 30 reps just to her.

Enjoy brothers. Enjoy. You are +2.

And then he had the strength 0f TEN grinches…. PLUS 2.

(LOL! That was more brilliant than I thought….)

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[JollyMisanthropeParticipant 3356]

Hello Brothers! Lately I have been devoting my free time in the gym, doing Cardio and lifting weights. I am an aspiring bodybuilder, just shy of my second month.

Going the natural route as far as bodybuilding goes?

The Children of Doom... Doom's Children. They told my lord the way to the Mountain of Power. They told him to throw down his sword and return to the Earth... Ha! Time enough for the Earth in the grave.

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

I Agree in the lifestyle aspect of it, since the reason I began it was because I felt that I needed a 180 degreee change in my lifestyle, from poor eating habits and little (to no) excercise. I am in this “for the long haul”, so I am not focusing on future results, but on the present work, and trying my best each and everyday. Thank You for the advice!

[Eric LauderParticipant 84]

Hello.
I make 8 hours of body building at week.
I make it for me, not for females.
I like when females observe me, but I always try to not observe them: females shouldn’t take the pleasure to be observed by MEN, because females egos are already VERY HUGE, so there’s no need to further inflate their VERY HUGE egos.
Attentions by females are innocent: they silently observe you and no more – they cannot really do more than that, since females are sexually weak, and a little sexuophobes. A MAN deserve some female gazes.
Attentions towards females are NOT good: NEVER do it! Otherwise, 80-90% of females will think you’re a violent “eye-rapist”, and the remaining 10-20% will try instead to exploit you through a relations~~~ !
Females do not deserve attentions by MEN.

[YourProblemNotMineParticipant 2]

I know from my experience, getting in shape is a big “f~~~ you” to the feminists and to my wife.  Those crocodiles like slow moving hippos swimming in their waters, not chiseled tigers roaming the riverbank oblivious to their lurking treachery.  She sits at home and stuffs empty calories in her face while I work with my trainer, and eat clean and put the work in.  Oddly enough, the more I develop endurance and strength and definition, the less sexually aroused she becomes. Anyone care to explain this?

[Total LeeParticipant 1573]

There is a good amount of silent satisfaction being age 40s guy and in good shape, passing all the women in my age group. They look all worn, grey-haired and grand-motherly looking, and they know it wouldn’t take much for me to snag one 20 years her junior.

[MendokusaiParticipant 256]

I agree, the shoe is on the other foot for me as well,growing up I was the skinny nerdy kid who was ignored or abused by womin but since I started working out, got braces ect now the lil c~~~s see me as mating material.Well you know what? I would rather be a c~~~ tease to a thousand of them than stick my nice clean dick into one of their disgusting polluted pussies.Be fit,be your own man,live a long life & f~~~ having a wife!

[YuriParticipant 185]

Be fit.

Be a c~~~ tease.

Pass women on the street and take pride and enjoyment from the fact that they will eyef~~~ you.

Pass women on the street and take enjoyment from not even giving them the time of day.

The right man at the wrong place can make all the difference in the world.

[Anonymous 0]

Hehe, I love to behave likes this…IT MAKES MY DAY.

CHEERS!!!

[Anonymous 0]

Hi Total Lee,

you speak my mind.

They look all worn, grey-haired and grand-motherly looking….

When I sometimes look in their faces, I see all the wrinkles, the uncovered and the covered. Grumpy faces in the morning when they have to go to work, excessively dressed to hide all their bodily degenerations.

It reminds me always to the song…I’d rather be a Man, from the EVE album by Alan Parsons Project. (Lead vocals David Paton)

…and they know it wouldn’t take much for me to snag one 20 years her Junior

I make them feel so. I try to stay fit.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

And I thought I was the only one to get a raging schaden-boner from this.

I don’t even think you need to bust your ass too much. If you’re a man , 36+ and not a blob, you’ve got it made. Why doesn’t anyone tell us this when we are 18?

There should be a service for young guys (like a drop-in clinic) where younger guys can take a pill and forget women until they are 31 or older. But perhaps it’s better it happens this way. Then when the single moms coming looking for you, you remember how she treated you in grade school, and tell her to hit the road. Without that memory you would probably ask her move in with you after the first blowjob.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I got into weight lifting in my teens. I am so very glad I did. Weight lifting is efficient and pays big dividends.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[ConradParticipant 41]

There is nothing, nothing more empowering than ignoring women who are trying to hit on you.

And the more fit and attractive you are, the more fun it is.

Infuriates them!

 

 

[DualityParticipant 9]

Hey Bud, great to see new bodybuilders joining the gym, remember that bodybuilding is a lifestyle and it will take time to develop your body no matter what path you take.. bodybuilding or powerlifting etc…
Listen to a word of advice from me because it seems that you are a very young guy still with not much experience, I am 23 I have been bodybuilding since I was 18 almost 5+ years now.

Its normal for women to look at you in this way now that your body and your mentality is changing, you may be becoming sharper and more confident and look better, its normal. Just keep doing what your doing but remember the reason why you are going to the gym, to be a better you from S~~~ TO FIT, to be better mentally, physically and more! This builds confidence greatly, do not think you have to get strong to get women and do not chase women that are now starting to notice you because you are “different”.

If you want companionship the gym may not be the best place to find it, maybe one night stands but never much else. If you want to find a woman that truly admires you for you and not your pecs try being in a different place where you are more clothed etc.

Most women that attend the gym are superficial as well as men cant deny that and mostly after aesthetics.

[JollyMisanthropeParticipant 3356]

Just think of fitness in the long term. Less health issues as you get older, which means less money spent on treating health issues, etc.

Even if you don’t care about attracting the opposite sex, there really isn’t much you can say against general physical fitness being a part of your daily life.

The Children of Doom... Doom's Children. They told my lord the way to the Mountain of Power. They told him to throw down his sword and return to the Earth... Ha! Time enough for the Earth in the grave.

[rainydaykidParticipant 42]

I walk and work out, and stay in shape, but I do it for me, not for women.

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

I exercise for myself, rather than for women. The main reason why I do it for the feeling of pushing myself over my limits, whether it be through weights or through cardiovascular conditioning. Since I know that I am not yet disciplined enough to control my “urges” for women, I still for their f~~~ing tricks every time, I tend to limit my “attractiveness”, wearing baggy clothing, wearing headphones and sunglasses all the time to avoid conversations and to limit interactions, as well as draining my energy daily (I wake up everyday at 4am to do cardio, then weightlifting, then I go to uni until about 4pm). I am building my body as well as my mentality, in particular discipline, through my diet and training. One day, I’ll have enough self-control to f~~~ them, and feel no remorse, and I feel that I am getting close to that goal.

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

I would say do it for you and just block out females. Yes you’ll probably get female attention. I know I did when I started years ago. The thing is I didn’t know about mgtow 23 years ago. If I did, I would of ignored the attention but that’s just me.

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