Tired of storing my ex-Wife's stuff

[MerlinParticipant 136]

My divorce was final over 18 months ago. In the divorce agreement, she requested some of the furniture and some personal property, but unlike most divorces, I was successful in keeping all the major assets and my money. I realized I dodged a huge bullet in hindsight.
She offered an amicable settlement, and we managed to do it all without attorneys.
She left the USA shortly after the divorce was final, and went to live with her mother in South America. She left her furniture behind, asking if she could leave it with me for a few months and then make arrangements to come get it.
It has now been over a year since she left, and I want the stuff out. I realize as long as her stuff is in my space, I am constantly reminded of all the years I wasted supporting her.
Also, since the divorce, I have been making good money, paying off all my debts, and I do not want her to have a reason to come back and get wind of my success. I certainly do not want her keeping one foot in my house any longer, and since getting educated on MGTOW, my viewpoint has totally shifted towards liberty and freedom.
I want her stuff out, so I think I am going to move it all to a storage facility and pay it up for a few months and mail her the key. I don’t want to create hostility and get her into attack mode, but damn I need to move on.
Plus, I am ready to create the ultimate man-cave with a big ass flat screen and Sunday sports package and celebrate my freedom. Life post-divorce really makes you aware of the invisible cage women put you in.
Anyone else had to deal with the ex leaving stuff behind?

[ghostParticipant]

Merlin wrote:

I want her stuff out, so I think I am going to move it all to a storage facility and pay it up for a few months and mail her the key.

Good idea.

[StealthParticipant 5373]

Merlin wrote:

unlike most divorces, I was successful in keeping all the major assets and my money.

Not sure how you managed to do this, but you, Sir, are one lucky duck!

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Sell it all. She abandoned it at your house for over a year you are legally divorced it’s your stuff. Sell it all and be done. If you want to be a nicer guy than me send her the cash.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[AwakenedParticipant 35204]

If she’s living in South America, she sure as hell is NOT going to ship it down to herself.

E-Mail her a quick note and tell her “nicely” that you have to get rid of her s~~~ as it’s in your way and you can no longer store it for her. F~~~ it has been 18 months !!

No need to get into details.

Tell her you will donate it to a local charity if she can’t commit to picking it up in the next 30 days, and you can mail her a coy of the donation receipt.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 42]

List it on Craig’s List in the free items section and it will vanish in a day or two, and you don’t have to do any work or spend any money.

For legal reasons you may want to notify her that grace period is over and she needs to come get it or loose it altogether. Use a lawyer to draft the letter and inform you of your time constraint rights.

She could possibly sue you for triple damages plus.

Use due process in your favor and take no action without the advice of an attorney familiar with the laws in your state.

Receiving a letter from an attorney will take all the wind out of her sails, and clear you from small claims court…

[Anonymous 43]

sell it all, send her the cash, minus your storage fee. can a check be written for 18 cents?

[LonestarParticipant 333]

How much are you charging her to store her stuff at your house. Shouldn’t be for nothing.

When a cop finds an abandoned car on the side of the road, they call a tow truck. Truck picks up the car and takes it to a storage lot. Charges accumulate and if whoever wants their car back they pay. If not eventually the bill becomes more than the car is worth.
I think all her stuff just became…..your stuff.

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Lot’s of good ideas. Now ask yourself, which of those options can you live with? Which one allows you to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning and feel good about who you are?

Then do that. For me, I would send her an email and let her know that the stuff needs to go. I can put it in storage for her, but she needs to pay for it. Or I can sell it and send her the money, or donate it to charity. And leave it up to her. But that’s just me.

She may very well have forgotten about it and won’t care what you do. She also could be leaving it there to keep a foot in the door. Only she knows for sure.

Just be true to your personality and you can’t go wrong.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 42]

TaxGuy wrote:

I can put it in storage for her, but she needs to pay for it. Or I can sell it and send her the money, or donate it to charity. And leave it up to her. But that’s just me.

I’ll pile it up and burn it! But that’s just me.

[LonestarParticipant 333]

Anonymous wrote:

I’ll pile it up and burn it! But that’s just me.

+1

Bonfire and a case of beer!

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles

[RumpoleParticipant 994]

Maybe her possessions will end up in the local version of “Storage Wars.”

[MonkParticipant 17038]

As TaxGuy says, she may be leaving it there for a reason. Either a foot in the door, or as a setup. Get rid, but do it right.

Follow the advice given by MGTower.

[MerlinParticipant 136]

LOL! I feel the passion of burning the stuff guys I really do! However, in the end I think I will take the route that doesn’t get me into potential legal trouble or involves the fire dept.

[MerlinParticipant 136]

Monk, I think you are right that she wants to keep a foot in the door. I bet I could sell the stuff though and get a new flat screen… hmmm…

[MerlinParticipant 136]

Merlin wrote:

I was successful in keeping all the major assets and my money.

I guess I should share how I did this, in case it helps others.

I took the advantage. She was back and forth between in South America with her mother, and she wanted me to handle the filing of the divorce. She said she only wanted a some material items and a little money, as she was going to live with her mother. I suspect she may have had a sugar daddy, but I had no real evidence.

I used an online legal service for the forms, and when she was out of town I had an attorney side check it for me. I filed the paperwork so that she was filing against me (a dangerous hand for me to play, but it worked). She came back in town and I showed her the docs, and she approved it. I had put in the docs zero alimony, and she read them through and agreed. Because the docs were set up so that she was divorcing me, the judge did not bring up the suggestion for alimony as she was technically filing the paperwork and asking for the divorce, and she was not asking for it, so he just approved it. (Had I filed it the other way around, he would have probably awarded it to her even if she did not want it, I was told.)

I have been told since it was a shrewd move. I know I felt like Indiana Jones escaping from that Boulder. I took the risk because I felt confident I could handle my opponent, and I knew she hated legal paperwork. So I kept it friendly, and professional and was able to fast track it through the courts within about 4 months. She left for South America within a week when it was final, and has never mentioned it again. She came back once in Sept 2016 to get some things, and here I am today. MGTOW

[LonestarParticipant 333]

Merlin wrote:

She left for South America within a week

Would you consider this woman “Americanized”?
I spent some time in Mexico and Panama last year. I was getting some female attention but didn’t pursue it. In Mexico the little enclave I want to visit next is heavily populated by gringos. I was seeing comments from the gringas that were p~~~ed when they were passed over for a Latina. The gringas seemed to think it was because of their age, they couldn’t fathom it was probably their bad attitudes too.

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles

[MerlinParticipant 136]

Very Americanized. She was born in Colombia, but her father was a pilot for a Latin American Airline and he got stationed on Long Island NY, so she grew up speaking English and Spanish fluently. If you met her, you probably would not immediately know she was bilingual. She also was fluent in Dutch, Italian and some Portuguese.

The Latina women have their own unique form of complications, I can assure you. I dealt with her family for almost two decades. There is a lot of vanity that rides sidecar with it.

[LonestarParticipant 333]

Merlin wrote:

The Latina women have their own unique form of complications,

Yes, I had a GF from Honduras when I was 20, prettiest girl I’d ever been with, but she had babyrabies. I was lucky to escape. I liked talking to the Mexicanas last year, they seemed fun, I just didn’t want to be bothered with chasing any. Hanging out gave me a chance to work on my Spanish, I may spend some time there so I can be fluent.

Congrats on getting out unscathed.

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles

[bstoffParticipant 4876]

I recommend sending her a text message letting her know that you have been keeping her stuff for her for x months already and now it’s got to go.

If a text doesn’t work, make it the quickest and surest way possible.

Don’t accept any solution that takes more than 2 weeks.

If she doesn’t respond right away, assume she doesn’t give a s~~~ about her stuff and sell it off.

If she doesn’t deal with it herself, at her own expense, you should sell all of it and pocket the profit for yourself.

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