Three months to long! Time to go my own way

[LexParticipant 117]

Greetings brothers

I recently had my moment of what am I doing with my life, why does my wife not respect me. That is a terrible place to start: Lets start here: Pre-marriage I own my own house, luxury car and sports car, and no debt. I thought I found that one woman who was not like the rest and found myself married… Since being married my wife has identified that she suddenly has over 200k in debt. In a few short months I have listened to others (societies presser to “man up” and look after the woman) I sold my luxury car (put towards the debt) and started a plan to pay down the debt so “we” could have a happier life down the road. All my income goes towards the debt. My wife has no respect as there is nothing left for her to gain and nothing she has to offer in return now that she has what she wants. The time together is typically filled with her pointing out how she could do something better and how I am wrong… (Three months since the wedding night my wife has no physical contact with me : I was angry the first few weeks though now I am indifferent to her desires or lack there of)

While I found myself isolated from my friends, my father reached out and provided me with his favourite movie (American Beauty) and a note (stating: Steel sharpens steel) Growing up my father would only say this phrase around other men I never understood what it meant as a child but now I see the importance of keeping our brothers close and keeping each other sharp.

Today I took the first step of separating myself from this financial succubus by going to my lawyer. (I encourage any brother that finds themselves in a martial contract to seek legal advice before making your first visible move) Canadian law varies from province to province, though I now know what the worse case scenario is and it doesn’t seem that bad anymore compared to the alternative of slowing loosing myself as each day goes by.

Married three months to long

Lex

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

WELCOME TO THE FOLD BROTHER, SORRY YOU GOT HERE A LITTLE LATE BEING BIT ONCE, TWICE SHY, YOU MADE IT HERE !!!

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome home brother!

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Glad to have you here, Lex. A warm welcome.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome sir, i’m glad you found the path to freedom. enjoy the website and the forums

Never make the mistake of signing the marriage contract again.

thanks for sharing your story

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome Brother
Get out while the getting is good.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[High RollerParticipant 157]

Welcome Lex!

It is too bad what has happened. Stay away from the woman, the damage is horrendous. Excellent that you’ve gone your own way! We all welcome you to MGTOW!

[Psl47Participant 678]

Better now than never, there is no unicorns ..
I had fell in love with that “one and only special girl”
Fooled my self , had this full scale of random emotions going through me .. mostly pain, since she left me 2 years ago..
Shes now married and so on .. beautiful woman .. but i try to take those red pills daily…
Because it takes time to cure that “standar happy family future” programing since childhood
And its hard to believe it … that there is no “that one and special who i can trust” … hard.

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[Anonymous 54]

Welcome Lex!
Better to figure it out now, rather than 10 years down the road. The fact that you sold the luxury car and kept the sports car shows that you’re not to far gone!haha.

Women do not respect men.

Enjoy your life anyways!

[TuneoutParticipant]

Greetings brother and how the hell does some one rack up 200K in debt?
Funny how she waits till after the wedding to tell you
but at least it wasn’t till after you had kids with her.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Lex wrote:

Since being married my wife has identified that she suddenly has over 200k in debt.

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Welcome sir. Although I do wish it were under better circumstances.

Tuneout wrote:

but at least it wasn’t till after you had kids with her.

Share that sentiment.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Lex, I sure wish that in my young adult days I’d been as decisive as you are now. It sounds like you’re going to be just fine.

Welcome!

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

Get the f~~~ out now while you still can before she gets pregnant and f~~~s you over even more since on a general basis even if she cuckolds you the system will believe that it is your kid.

Even thou you will take a good loss now it still will not be as bad as what would happen if you had kids as this c~~~ pulled a old bait and switch on your ass since she is using you as a wallet to try to get a higher man.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome Lex. “Steel sharpens steel.” Thanks, it has been a while since I have seen that phrase. This is why we are gathering. Thanks for the honesty.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Tuneout wrote:

how the hell does some one rack up 200K in debt?

Answer: woman

Welcome home brother.

I’d like to point out that paying on her debt for her is radically different than subsuming her debt. I pray you were doing the former and not the latter.

[bladeParticipant]

Welcome to the brother hood

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Lex
Never Trust Woman

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings Lex,

Lex wrote:

……..why does my wife not respect me………

A perpetrator can never respect those who allow themselves to be deceived and manipulated.

Also, see poster below:

Tuneout wrote:

……how the hell does someone rack up 200K in debt?

Did she accumulate numerous college/ business loans?

Was it the medical bills scam?

Perhaps it was the credit card debt swindle?

How about a family member in need who required rescue?

Is she a foreign bride seeking citizenship?

Lex wrote:

……societies presser to “man up” and look after the woman…….

No MGTOW will ever say that to you.

Lex wrote:

Today I took the first step of separating myself from this financial succubus by going to my lawyer……..

Bravo Lex!!!

Without revealing your secret identity, what is your situation?

How old are you?

How long have you been with your wifey (dating & married)?

Did you purchase anything and/or make investments while married?

Bait and switch.

They all do it.
……………
Yes, this happened to many of us…or she went land whale……..

Well said Stealthy.

Thanks for providing the following poster in another Introduction.

It is interesting how a woman’s weight gain and enormous debts occur after marriage.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[FermatParticipant 3478]

All they do is lie. Glad to have you here brother.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[LexParticipant 117]

First thanks for the support. As I am doing my best to live separately as it seems to be the best choice in the moment the lack of contact with her leaves me with time to think about life… (I re-wrote that sentence a few times… as I would like to rage and express anger….Though I want my posts to be clear so that any future brothers in similar situations can see my thoughts and not be distracted by my rage)

Some questions were ask: I am in my early thirties and married three months 4 days. Under Canadian Law cohabitation (2 years and a month) also plays a role if the matter goes before a Judge.

An Annulment is not an option as (I am not under age, freely entered into a contract [foolishly of course; especially after she did not want a prenup – which would of shown me her financial situation causing me to not marry in the first place])
Her debt is from student loans (to become a doctor). Another unfortunate part of Canadian Law is that debt brought into a marriage becomes marital or joint debt potentially. So if she wants to split it, I will have to fight. [One benefit I have is that no bills or bank accounts are jointly owned so she does not have unfettered access to my money)

My update today is that I made arrangements to look at apartments on Friday so that I can be out of the house hold so that there won’t be contact and no allegation to be made. The soonest I will be out of this house will be January 1st but I clearly already started my new resolutions.

My final decision I need to make which I find a struggle is do I tell her now or do I wait till the new year and tell her as I am leaving or after. Anyone with any experience or advice is as always appreciated.

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