There I Was, And This Old Guys Says…..

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

Two days ago my ten year old son was in class. We were all boys once so we can remember that the grab ass on and off the playground can have undesired consequences. Well, one of the other boys in his class managed to get his finger in his eye, and I had to pick him with a corneal abrasion. No point in finding fault with it. By the time that I was his age, I already had about 25 stitches and managed to peel the skin off the bottom of one of my big toes.

Corneal abrasions aren’t usually that big of a deal. They just can be very, very painful. So I pick him up, take him to the doctor, get prescriptions for antibiotic and pain drops and head to the pharmacy. Again. No big deal. It could have been worse, and I have seen much, much worse.

There we are at the pharmacy, my son is in pain and he is putting his head on my shoulder for comfort. I’ve got one arm wrapped around him and rubbing his head with the opposite hand. While we were there, an older gentleman that was about 65, related that you don’t normally see that kind of bond/relationship these days between fathers and their sons.

I was a little taken aback by this. This guy is old enough to be my dad so he has seen a lot of life. I find it difficult to believe that the bond of trust and affection between fathers and their sons isn’t what it used to be. Sure, there will always be s~~~-headed dads out there, and moms are playing their control games after a divorce. I have the relationship with my kids because I have put the time in.

So I would like to hear what you guys have to say.

Are dads not getting in their and putting in the quality time anymore?

Has the bulls~~~ that women can legally pull so widespread that men have been legally ostracized from being daddies?

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Soldier-Medic wrote:

Has the bulls~~~ that women can legally pull so widespread that men have been legally ostracized from being daddies?

Sadly, in my case anyway….yes
I have a 4 yr old son I have never seen, and I doubt I ever will, at least not til he comes of age…and by then, old age may have already taken me by then.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

I have a similar bond with my 2 boys. They’re daddy’s boys. sadly for them and myself i don’t get to see them that often. We Skype a lot but I’d much rather be playing with them and teaching them sports and other boy things.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

I put in as much time with my kids as I can, and it shows. I am lucky in a way that I’m still married, but who the f~~~ knows for how long that will be. Until then I try to be as much of a MALE role model for my boys as I can. And the bond is strong. Whoever keeps pushing the idea that men cannot offer emotional comfort to kids is simply wrong. I would even venture to say that from what I see in my interactions with other parents, dads seem much more affectionate with their kids than the mothers.
And, in my case, I am the one who also disciplines them, so it’s not like I buy affection by being soft on them and just giving them stuff, on the contrary.

And, as a side note, you would be amazed of how perceptive these pre-school boys are about the entitlement and bitchy behaviour of their girl colleagues. I always discuss these observations with them and try to explain to them in their understanding how they are supposed to behave in order to avoid all that crap and drama that they will inevitably be exposed to. Now, can you imagine what a mother is saying to her young boys when they have these observations? Can you imagine a divorced bitter single mom? That is how f~~~ing manginas and White Knights are created.

F~~~, I feel so sorry for some of you fathers out there who got f~~~ed by sluts that took your money and now are turning your kids against you.

Yes, I have to tolerate all kinds of s~~~ from the wife, but I’ll gladly do it so that I can see my boys become MEN and make sure they get all the love and nurture and guidance they need from me.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[MotivParticipant 441]

Fair play to you brother stick with them, my x wife up and moved with my son and she really messed hes head up, hes 23 now and still pains after a woman to fill the gap mummy left. real sad to see him this way.

Cool story babe now go make me a sandwich

[Edd CampbellParticipant 76]

I am full time Dad to a disabled child who needs 24/7 care. Being a retired firefighter/paramedic gives me a huge leg up on his medical needs. Last few years he has had a series of strokes that have caused extended hospital stays..from 2 weeks to 3 months at a time. I live in with him during these stays and all the docs and nurses are constantly going on “is so rare to see a father take that close of care of their kids” “it’s so rare to see a Dad even just here with a child except to visit”. It drives me nuts, because while they are p~~~ing and moaning I am looking around the wing and see lots of Dads worrying and fretting trying to be there for their sick children. I have snapped a few times and told them “most Dads are busting their asses to pay for all these kids need, and would love to be able to be here with their kids but someone has to put food on the table and roof over their heads so they do what they have to so show some respect”

[JasonParticipant 282]

My dad and I had that kind of bond in my early childhood, but as the years went by he became more and more distant, chiefly because of my mother’s constant screaming and yelling and temper tantrums. Today my dad and I get along great, but we don’t have that emotional bond we once had.
As for the people I see around me in society, I don’t think I’ve seen more than a handful with any kind of real emotional bond with their children. I see mothers ignoring their children while texting on their phones or chatting with friends and I see fathers too afraid to display their emotions lest they either become ridiculed or accused of perversions. I don’t know about other countries, but here in Sweden that last bit has become so serious that P.E. teachers and sports instructors won’t even touch their students anymore for fear of ending up accused of pedophilia, even when doing exercises that normally require an adult to have hands-on participation. This has started to become a thing even in martial arts clubs, though thankfully not quite to the same extent.
In short, while that kind of bond does still exist here and there, it doesn’t have nearly the prevalence it once did, for various reasons.

There lies serenity in Chaos. Seek ye the eye of the hurricane.

[RoyDalParticipant]

This week’s Terrence Popp video blog is about what happens to boys raised by single mothers. It is not the kind of thing a father who is forced out of his son’s life wants to see, but it is a powerful incentive for fathers to stay in their sons’ lives if at all possible.

Full disclosure: I never had children and never will if I have anything to say about. I am in sympathy only; not in the same boat by any means.

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