Thoughts on virgin shaming

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

Evening gents, had a bit of a random thought-provoking notion pop into my head that I would like to share.

For those that read my introduction you will know that I am 25, and have never had sex. In our society today virgins are viewed as losers and are often shamed; while I would say it is worse for the guys, it happens to the ladies as well from what I hear. Personally I was never shamed about my virginity, at least not to my face, but felt ashamed throughout my life regardless.

To the point, I wondered why it is that both women and men will attempt to shame men who have not had sex and can only assume that in both instances they are projecting their own insecurities.

For women, it would seem to me that they are ashamed of their own sexual past and promiscuity, thus when confronted by someone who is on the other end of the spectrum, they feel bad about themselves; and thus their defense mechanism is to belittle that person. Another reason would certainly be that they realize that their only power cannot be used against such a man.

In the case of manginas and pussy-beggars, I would say they too are insecure; having been unable to resist their own urges and succumbing to the shame of believing that sleeping with women will secure their masculinity. For many such men, their lives have revolved around chasing the golden vagina, and they cannot view any other way of life.

Though I believe this goes without saying, I am in no way trying to claim I am better than anyone else here; I understand entirely the desires that we face as men. I have always been an introvert, and throughout high school was one of the quiet kids with a small group of friends. If I had been a bit more outgoing and outspoken, I would have been chasing the pussy as well.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

Personally I was never shamed about my virginity, at least not to my face, but felt ashamed throughout my life regardless.

It is nothing to be ashamed of. The way you go about your own life is entirely up to you It’s no one else’s business.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

virgin shaming, single men shaming, etc……….don’t believe in any of these things……it’s designed to make men slaves to women

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[CaliParticipant 753]

Dude. Virginity is actually quite a nice thing. Being a virgin myself, I can’t speak from experience, but from my understanding of the way things work in the human psyche, once you have a taste of something you really like, be it sex, drugs, candy, or anything that you enjoy, you create a desire for it as soon as you experience it. In that way, your virginity can be considered a blessing, because you have one less harmful desire to drag you down.

In my book, being a virgin is a stamp of self-control and prudence, until known as being otherwise. It might have been easy to stay below the radar of the girls in high school, but once you start making more money, you’ll find it a lot easier to give in to give in, as you WILL be pursued.

I would encourage you not to lose your virginity, unless you’re prepared to blow several hundred thousand dollars on raising a child. If you father it, you should probably at the very least provide for the years when it will be dependent on others.

In conclusion, you are not in the least uncool by being a virgin. You haven’t missed out that much, and as long as you keep the rest of your life in order, you’ll likely lead a better quality of life than someone who is out birds and the beesing it up all the time, as you won’t have that unthinking impulse to overcome. No offense to the members here who have chosen to lead promiscuous lifestyles.

Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Well.. you certainly have your head on right,. Sepuku. And you have it placed in it’s proper perspective.

EVERYONE is born a “virgin”. The only thing that makes you “not a virgin” is having sex.
But forget sex , and you will notice people shame you for EVERYTHING.

• “OMG you’ve never tried Ben and Jerry’s ice cream? Are you insane? Do you live under a rock?”
• “What you mean you’re not going to watch the Oscars?”
• “What you mean you don’t watch television?? You don’t even have a TV?? OMG”

3 days ago, a woman shamed me for stepping into my car without my phone because I left without it.
“OMG I could never do that!!”… like I was wierd for going out in public without my smartphone.

I was 36 when I first ate a Pinks hotdog and 41 when I first ate at IN-AND-OUT burger. I was treated as a social outcast for not doing things. I was shamed at 16 for not smoking weed when my peers did it. I was shamed in grade school for going to piano lessons after school instead of hockey practice. .. and I was shamed for going to German school and practicing piano on Saturdays instead of playing with other kids.

It affected me then, but not for long.

What are people doing shaming me for not doing something?
Will they congratulate and celebrate you for doing something better than that?

That’s how you know it’s bulls~~~.

Forget sex and virginity. That topic should be out of every public discussion . It is off the table. It’s totally inappropriate and the moment you make it policy, and behave like anyone who mentions it it a public setting is vulgar and disgusting, they begin to realize just how SICK it is. questions like “are you sure you’re not gay?”…… “he’s cute! is he gay?”…….. “is he single?”….. “is he seeing anyone?”…… “I heard they are having sex”…. “are they having sex?”….. ” I heard he was a virgin”…….

“”WHATTTTTT??? WTF kind of questions that??” And reflect the mental sickness back to them. Because that’s what it is. You have been born in a hyper-sexualized society where people make it each other’s business to discuss who someone else is f~~~ing – or not f~~~ing. It’s truly mentally sick. Women sitting around in restaurants talking about periods and anal sex. It’s totally f~~~ed up!

Why would someone care to know about who you’re f~~~ing before what kind of a person you are. How many sibs you have. Where you were born, when your birthday is, where you;’ve traveled, if you play musical instruments, if you’re kind, honest, have values, who your friends are, how you like to spend your spare time………

Because they are mentally sick – and have empty heads.
So you look at them like they smell bad.

Adopt the attitude that the only people you discuss sex with are the people you are sexual with. Everyone else is not permitted. They are TRASH. They don’t even realize they are doing it. And you can really take it overboard too: “What kind of sick person are you that you would discuss “getting laid” (or not) with someone who’s last name you don’t even know – and you’re not even having sex with?? Can’t you talk about anything else?? Music? Literature? Art? Quantum Mechanics? Automobiles? Technology? ….. so all you’re left with is f~~~ing? I’m sorry, I don’t associate with people like you. That is the tackiest s~~~ I ever heard. “

SHAME. THEM. BACK.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

You have to hand it to the feminists. They teach women to not want men and then they blame men for not being wanted.

A couple of weeks ago World Health Organization released that two thirds of humanity have some form of the HPV. That is like playing russian roulette with four bullets out of six in the chamber. That is insane.

And that is not counting other sexually transmitted diseases.

By the way, a condom does not protect from the crabs and herpes/genital warts/HPV.

Presently, most women have ridden the c~~~ carousel to the point that not even they know what they have. And unlike men, whose genital is on the outside, the only test a man can do on the fly for a woman is the smell test, and that don’t work if the woman has recently washed her body.

Before a slept with a woman, I would make sure I got to know her real well. A difficulty by itself. And she had been tested for all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases. Fortunately, donating blood runs a number of tests on such diseases.

It should also be noted a number of sexually transmitted diseases can cause insanity if left untreated.

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

RoyDal wrote:

It is nothing to be ashamed of. The way you go about your own life is entirely up to you It’s no one else’s business.

Throughout my younger years I was ashamed of my virginity; upon discovering the red pill I see it as a blessing. I now feel pride for what I once considered a fault.

Blue Skies wrote:

virgin shaming, single men shaming, etc……….don’t believe in any of these things……it’s designed to make men slaves to women

Very true, and it certainly seems to work in our society.

Cali wrote:

In conclusion, you are not in the least uncool by being a virgin. You haven’t missed out that much

One of the reasons I see my virginity as a blessing, since I have never experiences it, I have less interest in pursuing it. I never developed a “taste” for it, or perhaps “thirst” would be the better term.

Keymaster wrote:

But forget sex , and you will notice people shame you for EVERYTHING.

This is absolutely true in all facets of life. It must simply be people’s desire for validation from others. They need to feel like every decision and hobby they indulge in is viewed by others as appealing. I would rather do what makes ME happy, sod everyone else.

Keymaster wrote:

You have been born in a hyper-sexualized society where people make it each other’s business to discuss who someone else is f~~~ing – or not f~~~ing. It’s truly mentally sick.

Once again you make an excellent point KM; when I hear people (particularly women) discuss sexual topics, it causes me to cringe on the inside.

Faust For Science wrote:

It should also be noted a number of sexually transmitted diseases can cause insanity if left untreated.

That explains a lot actually.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Pussy worshipping PUA’s need to shame you to make themselves feel better about chasing c~~~s.
And women, just need a reason to shame you if they don’t shame you with your virginity then it’s,”you can’t get laid,” etc. The shaming never ends………it just gets old, and when things get old, you stop caring.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

Keymaster wrote:

It’s totally inappropriate and the moment you make it policy, and behave like anyone who mentions it it a public setting is vulgar and disgusting, they begin to realize just how SICK it is.

Here here! It’s nobody’s business.
As to being a virgin, I don’t see it as a big deal. Having shot your wad in one particular kind of hole is not all that important one way or another, and it is certainly less complicated.
Anyway, you can always lie if you want. It’s so rude for someone to ask you about it that there’s really nothing you can in response that is too rude.Tell them you only like women between 18 and 21 who have really good careers in the financial sector, preferably in derivatives. I’m sure the woman will understand the need for a good career in a soul mate.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[Anonymous 1]

Well, I think it is like you said:

Women shame virgin men since they realize pussy power is the only thing they have.

Men shame other virgin men because of their own insecurities.

I am not a virgin anymore, but only because cutiosity took the best of me. I waited until I was 32 and then I hire a “pro” a few times. And I have to tell you: you are not missing on anything.

I actually hired a “professional” more than once more because of the disapointment than because of the pleasure. Everytime I went, once the deed was done, I would think “Is that it? Is that the “reward” men get for wasting their entire lives? WHAT?”

So at this point, I am more than happy with porn and my own imagination.

So yeah, maybe I was doing something wrong, but the few times I did have sex the feeling of “it is not worth the trouble” came afterwards. Maybe it is better to some other men, but so far, and at least to me, it seemed more like a gigantic waste of time.

Anyway, best of luck my friend.

Cheers.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Anonymous wrote:

“Is that it? Is that the “reward” men get for wasting their entire lives? WHAT?”

Sounds pretty spot on.

Anonymous wrote:

the few times I did have sex the feeling of “it is not worth the trouble” came afterwards.

Okay, that’s a little too spot on. Stop it.

After orgasm, you think super clearly and levelly about everything. The first time you have sex, you fall back amazed, baffled: “Is this really what society is so obsessed about? Out of all things?”

Faust For Science wrote:

A couple of weeks ago World Health Organization released that two thirds of humanity have some form of the HPV.

I got the vaccine when I was fourteen or fifteen. I remember my sister got it, and then I got upset (“it’s not fair she got a vaccine and I didn’t!”)

Men can totally get the vaccine and there are actual benefits to doing so.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[HitmanParticipant]

key master said it best , of course because he has this down to a SCIENCE and he is the EINSTEIN ! ..it’s no one else’s business . period . unless you are being intimate with them , it’s really not a topic to be discussed .remember , you are your own publicity agent ! shaming is the weapon of cowards, so consider ANYONE who is trying to shame you into ANYTHING to be a coward ..

[AscendedParticipant 698]

Wow…
After reading all the replies, I am left without any untold advice from my side.
Very enlightening.
I agree with what everyone has said.

The virgin men shaming is a psychic weapon: They trick you into becoming their slaves so you spend your money, time, energy and all just to get the squirting pleasure, that lasts no longer than 6 seconds at most. The woman has already drained you together with your drinks, money, time and gifts.

Overpriced pussy anyone?

Free porn does fulfill my desire already good and it’s – like I said – free.

Such thing as virginity is not real. It’s something non-existent, that is kept being abused on men. Insecurity much hahaha.

And finally, you can always choose to NOT respond to this specific private question if you do not feel like it.

"We are free to follow our own path. There are those who will take that freedom from us, and too many of you gladly give it. But it is our ability to choose – whatever you think is true – that makes us human. There is no book or teacher to give you the answers, to show you the path. Choose your own way! Do not follow me, or anyone else."

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