The wake up call…

[drkoppParticipant 0]

I got my wake up call about relationships a few years back, about 2 years after we moved from my first job.  We moved to a somewhat small rural town that seemed not to offer much opportunities.  The wife hated the move, and resented me.  She told me “two years and we are out of here” when we moved as she was not haaaaapppy.  At two years in, she started her fits of rage with saying like “I hate you, I hate this house, I hate your work, etc, etc, etc…”  She threatened divorce more than once.  I had come to a crossroads in my relationship with her.  I thought I did all the right things by providing for her, little did I know just what lay under the minds of women.  It got to the point where I gave up trying all together and started to search out if this hatred was because of her or me.  I cautiously placed ads on dating sites and it took several months before I got a hit.  Wow, what a difference it makes when someone actually wants to be with you.  I figured out that it was not all my fault, but that something else was going on behind the scenes.  That’s when I stumbled upon the manosphere and some of the blogs that were out there.  They nailed her actions (and mine) down to a tee.  Everything I believed and was taught as a young man who was supposed to be nice and caring was a damn lie.  The side action I was getting helped to take the edge off the brutality I was getting at home and it made me look at things differently, very differently.  Long story short, here I am today.  A little older, hopefully wiser, but a whole lot better.  The wife has let up on her rants if not given up on them.  I’m still keeping the side pieces to keep the indifference in play.  In my younger days when threatened with divorce I would have begged her to stay, but not now, I’d help her pack her bags and see her to the door.  It feels great to let go of stuff that only seems to bring you down.  You can’t swim carrying a stone that doesn’t want to be carried in the first place…so let it go.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

welcome to reality…

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Welcome Drkopp

There are a couple of people I know that don’t want to get divorced but would like to no longer be married. They are in a limbo where they just decide to put up with it. The cheaper to keep her scenario.

I have a friend that rents a room from me because he lives in a town about an hour away with his wife but has a job in the city. Since living with me he’s stated that he’s envious of my freedom.

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