The Scoreboard Game

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Just wondering how many guys have had the privilege of playing a little game I like to call the Scoreboard game. A favorite of my ex Special Loving Unicorn Teammate (wow, that’s a lot to type, allow me to just use the initials from here on out).

So, SLUT loved to play the game of who has it tougher. But, it wasn’t really a game. It went like this:

SLUT: I have worked, and I have stayed home with the kids. You haven’t. So I know it’s WAY harder to stay home with the kids.
ME: Ok, I feel bad for you that it’s harder. But you wanted to stay home with the kids. So I HAVE to work. One of us has to keep a roof over our head.
SLUT: You just don’t understand and you never will. Since you haven’t stayed home with the kids, your opinion doesn’t count.
ME: Why is this a me vs. you thing? I thought getting married put us on the same team.
SLUT: You’re such an idiot!!
ME: And why are you keeping score? What is the score anyway? Obviously you are winning and I can never score, so let’s just say you win.
SLUT: ASSHOLE!! I’m not keeping score!
ME: Um, by definition, that is exactly what you are doing.
SLUT: ASSHOLE!

So, after a while, when she would start down this pass, I would just look at her and say “Scoreboard, you win.”

Anyone else ever get the opportunity to play that special game?

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[FermatParticipant 3478]

Nope. And I never will. All long term relationships and marriage turn into a competition. Life is bad enough competing for food and money with other people in the workplace or at school. F*ck trying to convince someone else to be on my side when all they want to do is one up me on the downlow.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Been down the LTR and STR road too many times. No more relations~~~s for me.
Yes, a big factor is how they turned on me, like your example. Same script, different names & actors. It got predictable. The predictable got boring. The squabbling got aggravating with no happy ending as a reward. No more for me.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

Several variations of it. The game isn’t important in so much as the goal of being the winner.

Preeminence within there relationship. My life is harder. You haven’t done what I have done so therefore you don’t have a say.

The architecture is simplistic.

1. Assert that there is some form of competition.
2. Assert that she is winning.
3. Assert that since you lack the same experience in the game that you have no say in judging who has more points.
4. Assert that the other is someone socially repugnant when he refuses to play the game, or passive aggressively points out that she is actually being socially repugnant.

My usual answer is “Yes. What you say is true. However, you don’t come home after a long, hard day of work to a relentlessly nagging harpy. Also that you find no joy in your marriage, and sometimes you sit in your car in the parking lot at work before coming home, or just work late because you are trying to delay the inevitable rancor and reproach that will be served up when you walk through the front door and in to wedded bliss.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

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