As some of you may know, I’ve made a series of posts talking about the custody case for my kid. But I’ll give a brief recap:
C~~~ runs off with kid and moves a distance away in a direct attempt of isolation.
I bide my time while preparing for my only recourse, family court.
I petition for joint custody and to be named the custodial parent.
We make an initial appearance, court orders various things including attempted mediation which stupid c~~~ refuses to consider at mediation meeting.
At this point it might be difficult for me to win in trial as to be named the custodial parent. but this c~~~ has no case to make for not having some type of joint custody arrangement and she’s going to look like an asshole if she won’t agree to some kind of settlement.
In retribution for me trying to secure a real life with my kid, wonderc~~~ took me to support court. I asked for an adjournment in consideration of the pending custody case but wonderc~~~ was still awarded a temporary order of support. and of course she’s going to cling on to the bitter end before either making a settlement with me or forcing it through a trial even though she has no case. so i’m stuck making the temporary payment for now and hoping to pay an equal amount or less in consideration of the additional financial orders being made along with a reduction after being awarded more time.
I had the distinct pleasure of writing and sending out my first support check last friday but i’m not going to let it or this c~~~ steal my happiness. there are a few things to consider here that harden my resolve:
I have enough things going on off the books that my “legitimate” income won’t really be affected that much and i will be able to conceal this extra income.
if I was still with wonderc~~~, not only would I be paying more monetarily to support her but she’d be stealing my life away too.
a lot of my side work is working to create a sustainable business model doing things that i’m passionate about. even though it’s in its infancy, i’m working towards “living the dream” so to speak. i’m the unspoken partner in a small business that is in my friends name. so in the future I will hopefully be able to “work as an employee” on the books and be able to more effectively conceal a larger portion of my income to keep away from this gold digging c~~~.
honestly i’ve thought about it a lot. although i don’t want to be a willing host to a parasite, i feel fortunate enough to have been born with the drive and energy that i can produce an excess of value in my life. it’s just a series of poor choices that i’ve made which have allowed this blood sucker to latch on.
what is really sad is not this situation that i’ve placed myself in. what is sad is this c~~~ and all the other leaches like her that can’t make good for themselves and feel entitled to be additional mouths to feed in everything they do. i would rather be in my position because even if i’m being bled, i’m still strong enough to go on creating my own prosperity.
This body holding me is a reminder of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember, we are eternal and all this pain is an illusion.
