I have a couple of friends that I have hung out with for 30 years. Both of them are have been married 15-20 of those years. Both have several kids. And their wives are sisters. We have a rather close knot group. I am single, never married and no kids. When I see how they are compared to the stories I hear on here and they way I see so many other guys live, I am reminded that I must not just solipsistically rely on my personal experience to determine how the world is.
We have ongoing text conversations every day on just about any topic you can imagine. We hang out and go fishing or do other stuff about once or twice a month. And of course, theirs fantasy football season. (Yes we are jock nerd losers)
Anyway, I kinda find them rather facinating, and I find myself observing them more and more as the years have gone by.
They are married and have kids, yes. And their lives are pretty much geared toward the guidance, provision and protection of that family. They are also pretty good at it, and I guess you could say they are “Good Family Men”. But other than that, they seem very very different than just about every single married guy I have ever encountered. This is where it gets a little weird.
They are the undisputed leaders of their households. Their wives have input of course, but the final decisions are theirs. They are dominant, but not domineering. Their wives have genuine affection and respect for them. Their children are well behaved and are awesome to be around. When I call them to go do something, they don’t have to “check with the boss”. They don’t give me s~~~ about being single and enjoy the occasion tit pic of some slut I bang. When I talk about my dating exploits, their wives laugh and shake their heads. They have never given them s~~~ for hanging out with me and have even hooked me up with a friend a couple of times.
They lack the beaten down slump shouldered, dead-eyed look of Ray Barone that so many married guys get.
Their marriages aren’t perfect of course and have endured their rough patches and growing pains, but the worst emotional turmoil I have seen in the last 5-7 years was:
“What’s wrong?”
“Oh, Christy is mad because I bought a new fishing rod and didn’t say anything.”
“Oh. What are ya gonna do about it?”
“I think I’m gonna go with the buzzbait”.
They know why I never married, and they are aware of the “gun in the room” that she could use at any time. They have even acknowledged it. But they say the aren’t worried because they would be fine regardless.
To me this illustrates the importance of red pill knowledge. If I didn’t know better, I would be inclined to think, “Statistics be damned! If they can do it, I can do it!”
They seem genuinely happy in the lives they have carved for themselves, and they don’t envy or pity me the life I have carved for myself. I am just glad that I know better than to try to live like they do because we all here know the odds of me getting that are slim to nil, and the chance that this could blow up in their faces still exist. I think that is one of the reasons our friendship has lasted so long. I am instant dread fame to their wives. They see that their husbands have an example of how being single isn’t a depressing miserable existence for a man, and they keep their s~~~ together and please their men. They see in me that even if the s~~~ blew up, they would have me and be A-Ok. With them, I have a living Exception That Proves The Rule that keeps me in line.
I know it’s a rather long post, but I just wanted to throw this out there. While there’s plenty of AWALT to certain degrees and they certainly aren’t MGTOW or anything like what I would call purr red pill, I just think it’s funny how even with though they have a lot of similarities to your typical blue pill beta married shlub, they are nothing like that at all.
(Yes, I know it’s All A Fantasy And Will Blow Up In Divorce Rape, but I would like to hear some thoughts on why these guys aren’t miserable)
Yojimbo Rockford 2 years, 6 months ago.
