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[Happyending159Participant 28]

Hi all

A little about me…I’m 27, have a good career, am fit and healthy and have no reason to believe I have anything less than average looks.

I have however been ‘a nice guy’ all my days. I discovered TRP about a month and a half ago and my thought process and outlook has changed forever. I notice it in conversations I have, in the way I see people I used to both like and dislike and most of all in the way I see the different aspects of my life developing around me. my lack of success with women has led me here but it is not my I am still here, I don’t think I’ve ever cared less about it hence I think I’ll be more suited here than TRP.

anyway, how I got here…..
For the entire 2nd half of last year I was a complete mental and emotional mess. coming out of a short but exciting relationship that had no future, she could see this… myself in my romantic fairy tale that I had longed for so much with the ‘perfect’ women did not accept the obstacles of distance and time and completely uncertain futures.

I never really had an anger phase, she gave me no reason too, the struggle I had afterwards was what I put my delusional self though. Before I met her I was generally passive to the direction of my life, I mean I wasn’t doing badly but I wasn’t happy and was spunking away a lot of potential. Gaining and then losing her forced me to wake up and I now after ‘unplugging’ feel happier, more content and yet more motivated than ever before.

No more video games, porn, wasting days in bed or uncontrollable drinking. Now I keep busy and struggle to ‘do nothing’. I enjoy work, I can socialize with alcohol without destroying myself and I have improved a lot in a very short space of time in my lifelong pursuit of climbing and mountaineering.

While being more successful with women would be a great bi product, as i’ve said it’s not why i’m here. I want happiness. I learned last year the hard way that you can only make it for yourself, no one will give it to you. what I have learned will stop be doing what I have always done, pedestalize and over invest in any women who gave me the chance.

I think the most BS thing i’ve ever heard that sums up the crap that we are spoonfed throughout our lives is:

‘Good things come to those who wait’

Well I’m done waiting. I don’t know where I’ll ultimately end up but I know that if I start living today rather than procrastinate waiting on some entitled tomorrow it will only improve the potential of all the tomorrows I have.

thanks

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome home brother!

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome pal!
i’m glad you’ve found the path to freedom
enjoy the website, and the forums..
Cheers —

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Happyending159 wrote:

my lifelong pursuit of climbing and mountaineering.

Fascinating passtime! Would love to know what peaks you conquered!

Happyending159 wrote:

‘Good things come to those who wait’

That is a piece of BS, but patience for men is also required because self-improvement takes a while. As men, we can’t just pick up a piece of chalk and draw the finish line wherever God dropped us.

Face every day like it matters, but have the patience to believe that what you put into today, may not pay today, but in the long run.

A big welcome to MGTOW and the Forums.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Happy159
Jump in. The fun has just begun.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Welcome! Sounds like you found the right place

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome brother-man !
glad you found MGTOW..
enjoy !

[Happyending159Participant 28]

Thanks all for the welcome!

Keymaster wrote:

Fascinating passtime! Would love to know what peaks you conquered!

Thanks! I’ve climbed some peaks in the Alps like Mont Blanc, The Weisshorn and the Dom. done a lot of harder more technical climbing in Scotland where I live. have also climbed in the great mountains of Pakistan but didn’t summit anything, learning to accept and even enjoy failure is very important in the mountains, especially in the interests of survival!

Keymaster wrote:

That is a piece of BS, but patience for men is also required because self-improvement takes a while. As men, we can’t just pick up a piece of chalk and draw the finish line wherever God dropped us.

Face every day like it matters, but have the patience to believe that what you put into today, may not pay today, but in the long run.

A big welcome to MGTOW and the Forums.

cheers for the welcome and your thoughts

I think the key is being constant. having goals and ambitions is important but they should not be treated as though they are the end of the road in any way. I also find that a lack of patience breeds discontentment and stops me focusing on enjoying the day i’m in.

I have a long way to go but it doesn’t bother me, as I don’t ever plan to stop.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Happyending159 wrote:

the Dom

The Dom, really. (that’s the only one i really know)
Impressive.

Happyending159 wrote:

I also find that a lack of patience breeds discontentment and stops me focusing on enjoying the day i’m in.

My fuse can be short and I operate at an accelerated pace as well. I approach things with more “urgency” compared to others – even mundane s~~~ like grocery shopping. I haven’t quite decided if I am unreasonably hasty or if everyone else is slow…. but that answer will come with patience.

Still a work in progress.

Hope to read more from you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Mister Man SmithParticipant 285]

Happyending159 wrote:

being more successful with women would be a great bi product

There’s nothing wrong with casual dating after you took the red pill, you have to be careful for to get any blue pills on you over any woman, other than that go ahead and have fun with women.

Now the reason for your lack of success is…

Happyending159 wrote:

I have (…) been ‘a nice guy’ all my days

Let me ask you something, how many women do you see throwing themselves at math teachers? And how many throw themselves at thugs?
Women like assholes, be one.
I can tell personal experience, I used to be the nicest guy on the planet, got nothing out of it, besides being played around by women…
As soon as I started being an asshole I actually started turning women down, I can tell you that today I don’t know how many women I’ve slept with, someone times I remember some I had forgot for years.

But again, stay on the red pill and be triple careful with women when you start to sleep around.

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[KeymasterKeymaster]

Mister Man Smith wrote:

And how many throw themselves at thugs?
Women like assholes, be one.

I really liked that… but I’ll only push back long enough to say I wouldn’t bend my character to please an appease a female.

Otherwise you’re bang-on, b~~~~-accurate and it may even be sensible.

Last week this ASSHOLE who worked at a grocery store was really barking and short with me for no reason . So I upped the politeness even more and it p~~~ed him off. Then he snapped.

So I spoke…. “Oh you have a problem with my MANNERS now? Because if you treat me like an asshole EVEN WHEN I’M POLITE to you – then I’m just gonna go ahead and BE AN ASSHOLE TOO. Choose. “.

… right in front of his other staff.

That’s when you can turn into an asshole to please someone, including a woman. When they treat you like an asshole no matter what you do.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

Last week this ASSHOLE who worked at a grocery store was really barking and short with me for no reason .

I’m 6’2″ and built. If I just look at people intensely and they back away. The world is full of disgruntled assholes Key , show them no quarter.

[David199Participant 47]

Welcome, enjoy the environment!

[505vikingoParticipant 521]

Welcome Brother! You have arrived at the oasis. Enjoy the ride, listen to the wisdom of others here, and never make the same mistake twice. Life only gets better.

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