The New Norm

[Northern SoulParticipant 186]

Gent’s

It’s been a while and good to be back on the forums. Following my divorce/court battle, I focused on getting back on my feet.

I now have a good steady career, a small country house (off grid), fairly regular contact with my son (every other weekend), staying healthy and absolutely NO women (no dates, no one night stands, no romantic interest – nothing – 100% avoidance)

Life is good however I still have to communicate with my unstable ex over my son. Things have improved with her but she is still unpredictable from time to time.

For example the contact arrangement is that we meet in a public place to do the handover as it is neutral territory. A couple of days ago, 10 mins before handover I receive a text asking if I could pick up my son from her house (the one that 3 years ago I was prevented from entering on the basis of false DV allegations). I replied to her text saying I would prefer to stick to the current arrangement. I didn’t think much more of it. The handover seemed to be going ok at the usual place and then out of the blue came the verbal attack – it caught me totally off guard and my son (still a toddler) was a bit shocked. I didn’t manage to get a word in and then she walked off with raised voices etc. I distracted my little lad and ushered him into the car so he was ok but shouldn’t have had to witness that.

I won’t e-mail her about it as it will just set off a chain of events with her going even more crazy. I have found that the dust tends to settle by just doing nothing when her flare ups occur. The less contact with her the better. That said, I am not sure whether now to log an incident with the police tomorrow – just so they have a record of it?

Also I have a spy camera but as things were going ok I didn’t really feel the need to use it – should I start using it from now on ? Or am I over reacting to the new norm and should just carry on as before ?

[Old BuckParticipant 3596]

Welcome back! I am a newer member from the US. Nice to meet you.

I would record every contact with her. Use the camera AND a voice recorder. If one fails the other will be useable.

Not sure about logging with the local police, that may stir up more s~~~ than you want to deal with. Unless she completely flies off the broomstick and endangers your child I would say not yet.

Don't chase tail. Turn yours around, walk away, and live free!

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22564]

Northern Soul wrote:

Gent’s

It’s been a while and good to be back on the forums. Following my divorce/court battle, I focused on getting back on my feet.

I now have a good steady career, a small country house (off grid), fairly regular contact with my son (every other weekend), staying healthy and absolutely NO women (no dates, no one night stands, no romantic interest – nothing – 100% avoidance)

Life is good however I still have to communicate with my unstable ex over my son. Things have improved with her but she is still unpredictable from time to time.

For example the contact arrangement is that we meet in a public place to do the handover as it is neutral territory. A couple of days ago, 10 mins before handover I receive a text asking if I could pick up my son from her house (the one that 3 years ago I was prevented from entering on the basis of false DV allegations). I replied to her text saying I would prefer to stick to the current arrangement. I didn’t think much more of it. The handover seemed to be going ok at the usual place and then out of the blue came the verbal attack – it caught me totally off guard and my son (still a toddler) was a bit shocked. I didn’t manage to get a word in and then she walked off with raised voices etc. I distracted my little lad and ushered him into the car so he was ok but shouldn’t have had to witness that.

I won’t e-mail her about it as it will just set off a chain of events with her going even more crazy. I have found that the dust tends to settle by just doing nothing when her flare ups occur. The less contact with her the better. That said, I am not sure whether now to log an incident with the police tomorrow – just so they have a record of it?

Also I have a spy camera but as things were going ok I didn’t really feel the need to use it – should I start using it from now on ? Or am I over reacting to the new norm and should just carry on as before ?

Record all contact with her, phone audio and video meetings. And log the incident with cops, that she wanted you to break the agrement and come to the house. Get it on record. And that she wanted it and flew off the handle at you when you didnt do what she wanted.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 7]

Northern Soul wrote:

Also I have a spy camera but as things were going ok I didn’t really feel the need to use it – should I start using it from now on ?

Gee I really couldn’t say….
Correct your cranial, rectal inversion and turn the f~~~ing thing on. Meh, or go to jail, your choice.

[Anonymous 54]

She wanted to f~~~ you.
Thats why she wanted you to come to the house.

You refused.

Thats why the verbal tirade.

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