The MGTOW effect…. are you feeling it too?

[VarunParticipant 2981]

This is gonna be a long one so if you’re not an avid reader, you might want to skip it.

Let me start off by saying that for a long time I have had many insecurities about myself; I was different in many aspects of life.

I didn’t ‘know’ most things that guys my age do. I remember I was always one step lower than the other guys. Be it a thing as simple as knowing that when the bell rings six times, recess is over and you got to get back to class in Kindergarten. I always needed to be escorted back to class by the teacher or the class monitor pulling me by the ear.

I didn’t know that to get something, you need to constantly pressurize your parents for it; my brothers did just that and got many a gifts… while I was always the silent one…. who would be pleased with whatever was given to him. I missed out on getting after-school treats, rides to amusement parks and the likes….or even my own playstation/x-box… just because I never asked my mother for them.

Fast forward to middle school…. social pressures kicking in…. I didn’t know how to ‘act’ because I never learned what boys were supposed to ‘do’ or ‘act like’. My father passed away when I was 1, so couldn’t earn anything ‘manly’. I shared but a few interests; the other guys would talk about latest X-Box games and I would never make heads or tails of it (I spent most of my time in confinement). I was constantly ‘served’ by other people…. and whenever I had had just enough and stared to burst out, my mother would step in and police me….program me “You’re not supposed to act ike this. You are supposed to be a good boy. You are not supposed to do what others don’t like.”

Now that I think about it…. f~~~ that! Who ever gave a damn about what I liked or did not like?

Middle school was the most horrible time of my life till date. I didn’t get bullied, (Thank god!) but got outperformed, bashed by teachers and peers alike… got depressed…missed school a lot…. got pushed by my mother to finish middle school and I did….with mediocre grades.

Oh! And the stupid fool I am, I got charmed by the class diva and asked her out on facebook. Next thing I know, I became the joke of the school. Infuriated, I made snide comments about her and her friend on facebook that ended pretty badly; involving teachers, principals, my mom, their moms, etc. which I do not want to recall.

High school was in another city; and the same story repeated itself…except that this time I was already becoming gynophobic and an introvert. I did manage to make a few friends at first, but I couldn’t get along, got super rude towards them and got ostracized. The last two years of high school would have killed me had it not been for a subtle text-only relationship with a girl of way low SMV. She disappeared after she got to know I couldn’t afford to go to college.

The point of me narrating my story is that not once did I get any kind of intervention that people usually get; not even one soul, including members of my own family, asked me what was wrong…. they just told me what to do and I followed their orders like a 5-month old puppy. I felt so alone and so weak for such a long time….

I never commanded respect from anybody before the MGTOW effect… yes, people were polite .. bu they never really ‘respected’ me like the respected other people.

I wasn’t living for myself….I was living for everbody else but me.

But for the past few months ever since I found out about this place, there has been a change.

The MGTOW Effect:

I have been constantly reading and reading and going through the pages and have picked up on a lot of things.

This place isn’t just one where you can rant about women; its more than that. This place is what teaches you what’s important for a man in his life; his own self-esteem and the ways by which he could preserve the same. It doesn’t tell me what I want to hear.. or what’s right … but it does teach me what I need. It has taught me to question everything that I once though was ‘right’ or ‘correct’.

For the first time in my life, I learned not to give a f~~~. To live for myself. The past few months ever since, I had the words of good men ringing in my ears “Forget about everything else… focus on yourself and your needs” and I did just that.

I worked out a lot, exercised a voice that had a lot of depth….started ‘raising my voice’ (the best thing I did) …. started disobeying orders that didn’t benefit me…learned to stand up for myself….

….and suddenly people have started respecting me more. A year earlier when I went out, people would treat me as if I were invisibe. Now I get greets and acknowedgements from many in my neighbourhood. My family has learnt that I am not the donkey I once was; they could no longer pile up THEIR burdens on MY back.

This newfound sense of freedom has physically manifested in myself; earlier I used to slouch… now I feel like I stand ten feet tall. Everybody around me is passing on comments ike “you’re becoming big” … “you’ve grown up”. I look at myself in the mirror and I see a strong, proud man with integrity and maturity.

I used to be insecure about women. Like I said, gynophobic. But that is disappearing slowly and steadily. I’ve even manslammed a few of them (unconsciously) and never felt any regret.

But I’ve not lost my good qualities either. I’ve been more empathetic, have volunteered for many community services (old age homes, cleaning the streets, HIV AIDs campaigns, raising funds for poor victims of cancer and kidney failure, etc.) out of my own free will….because that’s what I like to do…and not because I should do it or that not doing it is wrong.

I am a whole new man…all thanks to the valuable wisdom of his place. Just wanted to say I am very pleased to be among all of you. No matter how much people say how bad this place is, I will never forget how much ‘good’ i gave me. I will be sure to pay back 3x times when I make good of myself.

Have you felt the MGTOW effect in your life too? I would be pleased to hear.

Peace.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[Anonymous 24]

Great post Varun. I wish I had the resources that are delivered here from older wiser men when I was a kid, you are lucky to have it. Though I didn’t grow up like you did, I can relate. Keep living for you while being the good man that you clearly are.

I can’t say MGTOW has influenced me much, as I just got here last year in my 40’s and already nearly a decade past knowing most of what is said here…but it is good to know how many others there are out there as well, it feels a little less lonely.

[IAmManParticipant 228]

Good for you. Keep questioning everything.

[Maraudrz1Participant 2250]

Growing up I was always isolated from other people pretty much. I did have my family but my parents never spent much time with me or any of my siblings except the youngest ones. When I finally went out into society I was completely naive about so many things and women were a complete mystery. I was terrified to ask women out on dates or even socialize with them at all. I didn’t get the confidence I needed until I was in my mid-forties to get married. I did get laid off and on previous to that so sex was not completely unknown. It wasn’t until I came to this site and lurked for awhile that I learned just what it was I was seeing in women and was puzzled and was completely glad I had pretty much stayed away from women. I didn’t lurk very long until I decided to become a paying member and I don’t regret it at all. Anyway, I say welcome brother and may we all continue to contribute and learn as we visit this site. I, also, say thanks to KM for establishing this site and for his efforts in maintaining it. I urge you to become a paying member to support KM.

Women's brains and vagina have one thing in common. There is nothing in there until a man puts something in there.

[TuneoutParticipant]

It’s truly sad how superficial people are and how they judge others on appearance and first impressions.

I ‘ve heard it said that it takes the average idiot 3 seconds to decide what kind of person you are and a interviewer usually decides to hire or not in 30.

No wonder our shallow society is so f~~~ed up,most never get a chance to really know some one.

I’ve always been a larger guy and dress like I’ve just got off a Harley or construction site so people leave me alone for the most part.

Which I don’t mind,especially when I was younger the chicks really dug that kind of look.
Today when doing business I tone it down a bit though so I don’t come across as too intimidating.

Giving back to your community is a good thing too,I like to get involved in food drives for the local food bank.

I’ve always been a lone wolf so I guess the MGTOW effect has been part of me all my life,even with chicks it was my way or the highway,till I just got tired of them too.

The site is good to have though and it doesn’t really surprise me it’s popularity.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

For me mgtow is another step in my progress toward a better self. There are always other areas to improve in and I always try to be aware of what they are.

For me, mgtow has given me some hope in humanity that I didn’t have before. I’m not just one guy who has noticed something isn’t right, there is a whole group of men that share that insight. But at the same time, we are still and perhaps always will be a minority. I am at peace with that fact. I can’t change human nature. Manginas will be manginas and women can not fully escape female nature…. especially when society encourages such behavior. All I can do is what I believe is right. Because of strength training, philosophy, and the mgtow effect, I will go this way unhindered by the pressures and temptations of this world. I live for myself.

Thank you for sharing, Varun.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Varun wrote:

I am a whole new man…all thanks to the valuable wisdom of his place.

Varun-
Thanks for sharing your story. Congratulations on your achievements made while on this path.

I had a similar background. My dad died at an early age and I grew up in a ghetto. My mom was never around.
School was tough. I became a nerd. Never really developed until I was around men.
I was the proverbial “nice guy” who became a doormat for the different ladies I encountered.
It wasn’t until my divorce that I realized the true nature of women.
I too have experienced a lot of personal growth on MGTOW. I wish this information had been available earlier. But hey, it’s not how you start. It’s how you finish. Thanks again

[aeragoanParticipant 1186]

india is s~~~ hole for manginas and feminazis…very fewer mgtowers like varun are there who preserve their self respect and dignity..

but there is a great advantage being as indian—if you become mgtow,most people think you as saint and monk..they dont call you gay at first instance

even indian prime minister is mgtow up to a level…lol

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Nice. I’m glad that the place has helped you as much as it has.

By the time I learned about MGTOW I was pretty much done with life anyways. I think I took the red pill back when I hit 30 or so even if I didn’t know it had a name. Ironically, I had gone through all 5 stages before I found this site. Even so, once I did read here for a while, my eyes were opened to far more of the world than I had previously thought.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[Anonymous 18]

Good share Varun. Appreciate you taking the time to write your thoughts.

For me the mgtow effect can be summarized as an disillusionment to everything around me. From authority to women to self-image. In essence on surface I have become more self-entitled and more crude – and being intentional – I am able to read people’s ulterior motives.

A recent example is a girl I went on a date and made it a point to disagree with anything she said. Regardless of what I believed in I just tried to disqualify her perspective/opinion on anything she said. Let’s just say it worked beyond more what most blue-pilled manginas would get after a few dates of playing nice and nodding their heads while salivating.

[Chris-Own-WayParticipant 25]

Keep on keeping on.

[VarunParticipant 2981]

aeragoan wrote:

but there is a great advantage being as indian—if you become mgtow,most people think you as saint and monk..they dont call you gay at first instance

even indian prime minister is mgtow up to a level…lol

Probably the only good advantage…. homosexuality is still a foreign concept over here.
The women are all emotionalists. I can’t believe the indirect privileges they get. They would steal all of the good things….. appreciation for a good work well done…. time, money … and not to mention, affection. I remember the general conversation that happened in my school always involved how ‘girls are doing better’ while little attention was paid to the achievements of boys.

In India, it is mandatory that a husband SHOULD love his wife, but not really mandatory for his wife to reciprocate. It seems as though their only job is to ‘receive’ all the good things and be happy for it. But even that is not enough….and with the recent advent of feminist ideologies, the place has become a hell-hole, especially in the urban areas.

Married men commit the most number of suicides and for some reason our elders still say “marriage is supposed to make you emotionally stable and give you all the happiness of life.”

I know there are no NAWALTs in the western lot, but at least there are a fraction of women there who actually acknowledge the truth about men, be it for their own personal gain or something else…..but all you could see in the modern educated Indian women is misandry; they could only see how ‘abusive’ men are and how ‘patriarchial’ everything is. The only time they would ever consider being ‘equal’ to men is when it comes to sports, etc. other than that, mothers teach their daughters that the majority of men are ‘bad’ and ‘will rape her’ if she practices anything but rudeness and domination towards them.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

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