The "I don't get enough of your time" woman

[kizellParticipant 368]

I’m 32 and happily divorced and a new member.   I’ve been with a decent amount of women and six relationships.  The women I have been with vary greatly in personality, values, work ethic,  etc.  But they all have had one very common attribute.   They all seemed to think they were automatically no.1 in terms of “time spent. ”  every one of them seemed to think they owned a patent on how I spent my work and free time.

I firmly believe that this, above all the other problems women have, is what drives men away the fastest.

Personally,  I believe this specific trait among women is why none of them are really any different.

So this my question.   Does anyone know how this specifically began?  Where in our human lineage did women automatically assume that relationship meant being number 1?

[Sky-☣️Participant 19474]

When they want your ‘time’ – it is another attempt at maintaining control and then trying to make a guy feel guilty when he does not give her enough of a finite resource (time) that he has.

Just more twisted and sick clitoral based mind games.

[RusskyParticipant 13536]

It’s their most favorite catch22 paradigm. In any given case they can complain that you either:
– spend too much at work and don’t pay her enough attention
– lazy and not making enough money to support her

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[experiencedParticipant]

then they can move to Queensland: she’s even grabbing with both hands at once

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[sidecarParticipant 35874]

kizell wrote:

But they all have had one very common attribute. They all seemed to think they were automatically no.1 in terms of “time spent. ” every one of them seemed to think they owned a patent on how I spent my work and free time.

Meanwhile you have no right to question how they spend their ample free time. If she wants a night out with “the girls” she gets it.

Does anyone know how this specifically began? Where in our human lineage did women automatically assume that relationship meant being number 1?

It started the moment women figured out they could get away with it.

[Sky-☣️Participant 19474]

A flight attendant that flew on Reserve status 12 hours a week, and lived at my house without paying any rent – wanted all of my free time after I worked 60 hours a week.

 

Like WTF Version 7.0 on that.

 

 

[Puffin StuffParticipant 25021]

They want you to work and give them everything they can imagine. Then they want to stop working. Then they get bored. Then they want you to entertain them as they have everything else that exists.

Women today want Geisha Men.

A Geisha man is just like a Geisha girl. He needs to keep up with politics (of the right kind of course), read poetry, take her out to dinners, play music for her. Take her on trips.

Women need to be entertained. That and money are all they think about. When she’s looking off, thinking, that’s what she’s thinking about, who can entertain me and what can I have next.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Last time a woman demanded more of my time than what I was willing to share with her, I threw my watch out the door right before I escorted her out of my house. Sometimes, being a funny asshole has its benefits.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[EnlightenedMGTOWParticipant 291]

I’m available at a rate of $50/hr ladies.

Marriage is the disease, divorce is the cure. MGTOW is the vaccine.

[The Moth Attracted to the FlameParticipant 2982]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

They want you to work and give them everything they can imagine. Then they want to stop working. Then they get bored. Then they want you to entertain them as they have everything else that exists. Women today want Geisha Men. A Geisha man is just like a Geisha girl. He needs to keep up with politics (of the right kind of course), read poetry, take her out to dinners, play music for her. Take her on trips. Women need to be entertained. That and money are all they think about. When she’s looking off, thinking, that’s what she’s thinking about, who can entertain me and what can I have next.

Couldn’t agree more.

[BONEParticipant 448]

I simply don’t get it, they want all of your time to be focused on them then at the same time (time time time) they want you to work your ASS off for them and provide, well damn bitch isn’t that an double edged sword you’re dealing with, like getthef~~~outtahere.com with that s~~~.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Some women (and heck some guys) need to be far more social than others.  Some women, I am pretty sure, would want to be with a guy non-stop.  And with this, I am sure that a number of them need the attention to validate their self-worth and so on.  If I ever had to deal with such a woman, she better dang well get into the things I am into. I know I could use extra help with my game designs.  But, going my own way doesn’t mean I end up giving up what I know needs to be done, for the sake of just spending time with someone.

Well, that is my take.  I am so glad it isn’t something I have to deal with personally.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[RennieParticipant]

Years ago, I was fortunate to escape from such a girl, who I barely knew at the time and was nagging about video games being more important than her.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Rennie wrote:

Years ago, I was fortunate to escape from such a girl, who I barely knew at the time and was nagging about video games being more important than her.

I may be a bit weird, but also it might be why I stay single, any woman involved with me, I would expect interested in most of what I am, and I wouldn’t mind she doing videogames or whatever.  This is because she is interested, not some sort of bargaining thing.  If she wants to be the end in herself, she wouldn’t be happy with me.  I guess this is very MGTOW of me, which is why I will stay single.  I don’t compromise and make deals and deal with partner points.  I look to collaborate and get what works best.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Women = time

Time = money

money = root of all evil

Pursuit of women = time, which = money, which = root of all evil.

In the end, women = root of all evil.

Fuck this planet.

[chirParticipant]

They want the focus of your entire life to be them.   When it comes to relationships its all about them.   But that’s only until they “feel” that you are too clingy.   Of course when you say “ok” and give them space you are immediately doomed because they then use the “lack of attention” to find another guy who will.

 

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[Anonymous 0]

its because women see their looks as a commodity, by not spending your time on her, you are reducing its value-“women age like milk”

when a women tells you that, she is literally saying,

i want to ride the c~~~ carousel before my looks go, unless you have more to offer.

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

If I had to guess, I’d say it’s a number of things. Keeping an eye on you (or your resources, is more accurately) is a part of it. Women hate even the thought of being cheated on because it means another woman has “taken away” one of their “toys” and it also means they can berate you every time you dare to spend money on yourself instead of her. They’re not used to having to do things on their own to obtain means, so they don’t understand why you have to work for yours. Additionally, they don’t understand what it means to WORK when you have a/multiple dependent(s). I mentioned it in another thread, but women don’t do anything when they’re at work and they don’t focus on men picking up their slack so they think all workers work at their level (which is why they can’t imagine staying late or missing lunches).

They also have a very different idea of what constitutes “free time”. For example, they might see their boyfriend/husband working on his car and think, “Why does he pay more attention to that car of his than me?” while the man is thinking, “Got to change the oil on this soon or this heap is f~~~ed.” There’s also the fact that women are, essentially, children and as children, they expect the world to revolve around them and their wants. Women have a complete inability to keep themselves entertained. Notice how anytime they go out, they bring girlfriends/boyfriends with them? Also the same mechanism behind why it’s always up to us to make conversation, be interesting, and plan dates/activities.

 

Just my guesses, though. I’m sure there’s more.

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