Depending on how the divorce went down, there might be some really good or really bad things, usually really bad. But there is one light at the end oof the tunnel for those of you out there going through it, or who might still be a little distraught over it. First off, I have never been married, and I don’t ever plan on being, but my mom and dad were for 25 years and had 8 kids together. She left him when he got laid off from work, and he got locked up because he couldn’t pay child support for 8 kids especially with not job. On a side note, my mom also convinced my step dad to quit his job and get another one and then left him too! what a conniving f~~~ing c~~~, but anyway.
My mom tried her best to keep us all under her spell. She tried to limit the contact we had with any of my dad’s side of the family, and we even moved to another state where she met her new husband, they had been dating a while before hand. However, most of the kids were either too young or too old to be swayed. The older ones knew all about the bad things my mom had done, and what a bad person she was, and so when we moved, she kicked the older ones out to the curb. So, me and three of my siblings moved to another state and this kept us apart from my dad and my other siblings, as well as his whole side of the family. My mom had completely won it seemed. Alimony out the ass, and apparently with some of the kids hating their father. She always talked about what a dead beat he was, and how worthless he was. Now might be a good time to mention that my dad used to work 70 hour work weeks to provide for 8 f~~~ing kids and my mom who stayed home. Yeah, pretty f~~~ing worthless, right?
Anyway, she got all the money in the world, and began going out and spending it like a teenager, having parties, and all that. Keep in mind that she was nearly 50 years old at the time. Maybe a mid life crisis type thing or maybe she wanted to feel youthful one last time in life who knows….
But over the next couple of years, i snuck across to friends houses and i got back in tough with my family, and i learned some very bad things about my mom, how she was into hard drugs, and was quite a skank who had cheated on my dad. I of course was too young to remember it at the time, but it all came to light. My dad was still in prison, but would soon get out, and when I became 16, I went through the process to have myself legally emancipated from my mother and to move back in with family back home. I had somewhat of a relationship with my dad before he died of a heart attack a few years later, probably on a count of working yourself into an early grave. I’m glad for what little time I did get to see him.
The point being, she might be laughing now, and while it might suck, your kids, if they have any brain at all will want to come see their dad. Yeah, she has custody of your kids, and you’re paying your ass off, but in a decade, when none of her kids want to see or speak to her, then who has the last laugh? MEN, fathers. This has almost always been the case with my friends when their moms dont have to give shared custody, they say they aren’t even allowed to see their dads, and low and behold, they end up leaving their moms and go live with dad.
This is just my experience, sorry for being so lengthy, but I’d like to hear some older guys on the subject, anyone who’s gone through a divorce? Have your kids come back or did they believe your wife’s bulls~~~?
ThermonuclearAutomaticWeapon 4 years, 4 months ago.
