The first time it happened

[StealthParticipant 5339]

The first time my wife hit me in the face out of anger, I should have left the marriage.

It was during the first few weeks, at our first apartment, just after getting married.

But leaving was not an option, or so I thought. It was til death do us part. That’s the code which I was programmed to follow, and which I voluntarily signed up for. My value as a man depended on sticking to my promises.

Hitting her back was a valid option. It was a first consideration, a reflexive fever that pulsed through my veins.

Not hitting her back was also an option, the one I chose. But was I weak for not defending myself?

She ended up frightened at her loss of self-control, as the realization that she was a physical abuser just like her mother sank in, and she recoiled at her own behavior. Her behavior differed from the person she wanted to be, but it revealed the person she was.

At the time, it was an isolated incident–my attitude was let’s just move on and forget about it.

But her behavior grew worse. She was not physically violent again until the end–but by that time I was getting divorce raped of many extra working years of my life, and she outright told me she wanted me dead or living in despair. I was a hardworking simple man who was always loyal to her and wanted the best for us. As a final flourishment, she announced to family and friends her grounds for divorce were that I had been abusive to her.

Looking back, that first time was a big red flag and signaled what was to come. I should have left that very minute.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Stealth wrote:

The first time my wife hit me in the face out of anger, I should have left the marriage.

You should have filed a report with the police first. Start your divorce paper trail early.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Its the past stealth and your experience made you stronger…It is also a lesson for the others here and to lurkers to never tolerate bulls~~~ from women…
I too had several red flags from my x including the emotional manipulation that made me feel guilty for doing something that I enjoy…Most of the things that I enjoyed or wanted became a sin and I had to be sorry for that…F~~~ing A…
I was too blue pilled that in moments when I stood my ground I was then apologizing because she would threaten to leave me and give me the silent treatment for weeks while she went on vacations…
It was not a good time in my life where my mind was my enemy because I was led to believe that I was worthless..
The emotional and psychological damage took its toll on me with depression….I am rising up from the dark cloak of depression and learning to laugh again…I remembered who I was before the s~~~ vortex and I know that I am capable…This site helped me to realize that it is okay to respect myself..That it is okay to be happy for myself…That it is not a sin to be a MAN….

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[HermitParticipant 1121]

I understand why you held back. I was brought up the same way. My attitude has changed, and based on what you have said, your attitude has changed too. We can’t change what has already happened. But we can make damned certain it never happens again.

I don't hate women. I just feel better when they're not around.

[Anonymous 42]

My wife never slapped me, never abused me, never had me arrested or any of the horrible things wives do to their husbands!

My secret?

I am not, nor shall I ever be MARRIED, SEPARATED, DIVORCED, and ABUSED!

Wonder why there’s a man shortage? I don’t!

[Anonymous 43]

f~~~ you tower

“i never got married nya nya nya nyanananana”

asshole.

😉

[Anonymous 43]

killing me tower. I love ya, but just now, not so much

my c~~~ stabbed me, smacked me, beat on me when I was sleeping, divorce raped me, tracked me, tried to run me over, car chased me, almost stabbed me again, had me followed, and poisoned the kids. hasn’t shot at me yet.

everything but fukn kill me. What a c~~~.

you woulda thought I was the most evil son of a bitch alive…right?

lol

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

killing me tower. I love ya, but just now, not so much

my c~~~ stabbed me, smacked me, divorce raped me, tracked me, tried to run me over, car chased me, almost stabbed me again, had me followed, and poisoned the kids. hasn’t shot at me yet.

everything but fukn kill me. What a bitch.

May 7…When that bitch of yours realize that you are doing well in life and is happy…she will send out feelers and be nice and cutesy with you…LOL…They are too stuck up and dont know what they want…It will come May, so be prepared not to be angry but indifferent to the bitch…Live life May…I await the time of your total freedom…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[HitmanParticipant]

Stealth wrote:

She ended up frightened at her loss of self-control, as the realization that she was a physical abuser

been through practically identical situation.
it’s such a mind-f~~~.

Stealth wrote:

she announced to family and friends her grounds for divorce were that I had been abusive to her.

they project their issues on to the husband.

NerdTunneler wrote:

it is not a sin to be a MAN….

c~~~s will try to make you feel like that.

Hermit wrote:

make damned certain it never happens again.

you must not repeat the insanity..
fool me once…
..

Anonymous wrote:

Wonder why there’s a man shortage?

too many crazy bitches ruined it for the rest of the 0.00000001 % of women who wouldn’t behave like that….

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Anonymous wrote:

f~~~ you tower

“i never got married nya nya nya nyanananana”

asshole.

The difference between us is that female violence hit me as a child and when I became “marriageable” I was already at a state in which most divorce raped brothers are at.

My horror with females ended at age 23. That’s the age when my peers started jumping in… Leaving the harmonic family and entering marriage hell… And being proud of it…

And today we most likely say “told you so”… Because the married folks would continuously and relentlessly poke fun at our single life and sometimes make our life – especially on the job – a living hell because of that.

Swallowing bulls~~~, insults and shaming – especially in the presence of others – from blue pill “believers” for decades makes that “told you so” or “I don’t have that problem” a big relief…

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Stealth wrote:

The first time my wife hit me in the face out of anger, I should have left the marriage.

It was during the first few weeks, at our first apartment, just after getting married.

Going through the horror with females while growing up left me with a detective kit of red flags I saw on women when they tried to get close to me.

And some of them “played unicorn” so well that I thought: “Give it a try”… And they would behave the way they are… I would not call them out on anything negative they did, not giving them a chance to stealth and fool me. They had “to be themselves” so I would see what I am getting.

And all of them became nasty and disrespectful. Doing things over and over again that would not only p~~~ me off but be an insult to every human on this earth.

I have written countless posts about things women do to make you small and “teach you to better put up with her s~~~ or lose her”.

And so my personal countdown always began with a balance of her plus points and then I watched the negative points. And soon – as all women are hamster-minded – the balance was zero. And that made me indifferent towards her. And women always leave when they can’t control you and you only react with indifference to her threats.

“Where is our relationship going?”

Nowhere… I am not good enough for you!

You show me all the time. There are countless better men out there…!

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[Anonymous 43]

after May 7, 2020, I don’t need to give her contact information, tax forms, proof of life insurance, income statements or checks. I’m out

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

after May 7, 2020, I don’t need to give her contact information, tax forms, proof of life insurance, income statements or checks. I’m out

She will try May…Oh she will try to get you back and it will be sweet sweet moment for you to finally be vindicated and rid of the c~~~ and her power over you…Stay strong brother and keep growing…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[HitmanParticipant]

brother gargamel speaks truth.
really outstanding..as usual.
the entire matter can be summed up very easily.
.if you been there,
do not go back for more.
ONCE is enough.
the crazy is just on hold while you wait.
.
just say NO.

give them NOTHING.

ONE CHANCE PER WOMAN PER LIFETIME.
K.M.
.
hey..
i like willie wonka..
deal with it.

[xanthineParticipant 4903]

Man I’ve never been married and never will…but if some bitch hit me in the face, I’d hit her right back. And if she ruined my life…I’d ruin hers.

[AttonParticipant]

You didn’t violate no first use but you sure did put yourself at great risk.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

It’s amazing how the real woman comes out after the wedding.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Stealth,… you just described my marriage to a “T” !

The first time my wife hit me in the face out of anger, I should have left the marriage.

When we were dating my ex used to get into these nasty physical fights with her father. He never hit her, just fended her off, and I don’t know how he didn’t. I should have known then, but I was blue-pill , and “in-love.” <<<< Fuggg that Sh*t !

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Anonymous wrote:

after May 7, 2020, I don’t need to give her contact information, tax forms, proof of life insurance, income statements or checks. I’m out

I can tell by your posts,….. you are sooooo going to like the other side of May 7, 2020.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

On May 7, 2020, I swear I am going to celebrate your emancipation sir!

It will be a GREAT day!

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