The Family Thing

[Mr BParticipant 22]

My dad is good man. He has five kids. I am the first.
My mum can change her mood anytime to get whatever she wants. All her mechanisms is something I know very well.

My dad says all his kids MUST study professional courses. But for me, I like computer. I spent most of my time learning techy stuff. I read a lot of IT books relating to CompTIA, Cisco etc. I have just started programming with python. One thousand pages is never boring.

Here we have Colleges, Polytechnics and Universities.
My first application to uni to study medicine was not successful, so I ended in college to study Chemistry/Integrated science and I passed very well.

My plan was to switch to Computer science after college, but my dad came up with another of his agenda, that I should study Pharmacy, because anything outside a professional course is useless. Out of fear, I applied for the Pharmacy, and I was admitted.

First and second year was cool. Third year now became hell for me. Memorize, memorize and memorize non stop. Lab work is crazy and there is no end. C~~~ lecturers everywhere. I am so bored. I struggle a lot in this course. I am wearing out.

Two of my other brothers were geared to study medicine and architecture. The one studying medicine looks drained like me. He is in his 4th yr. The other one taking architecture seems to enjoy his course.

I know parents want something better for their kids. I feel it should never be like this. I value happiness above anything. Trading it for ego or fame is not worth it. This is exactly what my parents are doing. Something he can brag to his friends. My father likes to be praised and admired by others. The thought of this alone makes me sick.

This brainwashing started since birth. Go to school, earn BIG money, marry a bug, work work work then die.

My parents don’t know that my agenda is very different right now as a very red pilled man. I don’t care what they think. A little money is just enough to sustain me.

My only hope right now is to finish if I can, then go do something else.

[MonkParticipant 17038]

You don’t mention your age or cultural background, but I can guess. This is a very common situation.

You are in your third year – how long to go? If this is your final year, I would see it through. Then you will be in a position to do as you please.

I daresay that even when you finish, the pressure from your family will continue – they will want a prestigious marriage and so on.

Be prepared to have to cut loose completely.

[Anonymous 42]

Throw away your education and you’re throwing away your life. Toil by forced hardships is the other side of the coin you’re not looking at! Have a great career but don’t throw your life away on it, make what you need and spend it on yourself! Less hours and more money than forced labor through hardships, once you’re down in the pit, the mud walls don’t let you climb back out again.

Think it through…

[X11Spectator 4520]

Finish the course and at least do a year or two doing the job.

See how you feel then, don’t get a mortgage or girlfriend or in debt.

Pay your loans off and then do whatever you enjoy.

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Virtually all Nigerian parents had children for the wrong reasons if you ask me.

The other day, my mother was talking to my elder brother about my uncle’s youngest daughter (by his second wife) who just got admission to the university to study law. The three children that the man had with his first wife are doing businesses and not being ‘professionals’. My mother said “…now he can be proud to call himself a lawyer’s father”. That line alone says a lot— it has never been about raising a child to become the best of what he/she wants to be. It has always been about bending the child to become what they want him/her to be.

You are correct. Children are just another status symbol for them—something to brag about: “I am a doctor’s father”, “I am a lawyer’s mother” e.t.c.

Any dream or idea of the child’s that doesn’t fall in line with their plans or agenda is either ridiculed or discouraged. As far as they are concerned, they didn’t bring a living being to this world for them to have their own dreams and fulfill them. For them, the children exist to fulfill the parents’ dreams.

I wasted spent 5 years in the university to study something that I was neither passionate about nor interested in just because my father would not financially support anything else.

Mr B wrote:

My parents don’t know that my agenda is very different right now as a very red pilled man.

I am maintaining stealth. My family does not know my views…. You know how the people are. If they know that you’ve decided to go against the common narrative, they will bombard you in different ways. That’s the last thing I need when I’m still in the phase of building a life for MYSELF.

I will still advice you to:

Finish the course, bro. Get your degree and then do what YOU want.

I confirmed my eligibility for Youth Service just a couple of weeks ago. Hopefully, I set myself up properly during Service and then make a living out of what I want to do.

A degree is still important. It will give you longer leg in the current economic situation.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I had a PhD in chemistry and going to med school as my choices of career in college. I had an uncle who took me under his wing. He was a professor of pediatrics at Albert Einstein College of Medicine and had both an MD and a PhD.

He told me to go to med school and finish and do a residency (additional years) and then. With the professional credentials to tell an academic place to go f~~~ themselves I could do research unobstructed.

It was the best advice I ever got. Not only did I do research, I made a lot more money and retired early.

I did not enjoy looking at microscope slides to diagnose cancer. I loved diagnosing cancer because to find hope to live you have to know exactly, even genetically, what cancer the patient has.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

MEdical science is busllhit and teh biggets scam of all is the cancer indutsry. Tehy ahve known for years that chemo cuases new cancer and existing cancer to rapidly spread. ts a money making machine I say again medical school is memorised bulls~~~

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Chemo sure does cause cancer. So do X-rays.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 38]

Would you be able to switch onto Computer Science at this stage?

I want to say stick out the course but it sounds like you’re really passionate about Comp Sci and if you can switch, you might as well.

Your pops will just have to accept it.

[Anonymous 12]

Stick it out and become independent from your parents.
Once you can stand on your own legs, walk away, and walk towards the subjects that spawn an interest in you.

Do not waste life in a field you hate.
Do not waste life on people that put you in chains.

Walk away.

[Mr BParticipant 22]

I will push through to avoid wasting resources.
My next degree will be what I want.
Mgtow made me to have all the time.

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

A lot to be said for independent from family. More about your personal health and well being. Family vs School vs Personal well being. Not an easy choice.

What I did was join the military(Navy). I needed to get away, also needed money. It is not for everyone. One thing I would 100% change is I would have instead joined the Air Force.

The plus on finishing the current course. You always have something to fall back on. If you change lines of work and study later.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[Mr BParticipant 22]

I agree with everything said here. Thank you all for the advise.

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