I started a business in 2012 with only an idea and no capital. Each idea was financed with profits from the previous ideas sales. I had a business with NO debt, and only an upside.
Being married, I was required to balance the needs of family life and my newly founded business. I took it upon myself to grow my business with long hours of work outside of my day job, a well-paying job as a college professor. I managed to make over 90k gross my second year in business on top of my day job.
Being a married man, this meant that I spent more time on my day job and my business than my family and wife, which caused problems. Marital problems ensued, and business profits dropped. I’d created a brand, and a reputation that would have likely become a viable means of sole income, but with a wife, it all went to waste.
Her demands and cold hearted selfishness caused major discord in our marriage so much so that I decided to wind down the business. She never complained about the extra things my hard work afforded us, only begrudged the time needed to earn the money. I went from 20k yr1, 90+k yr2, 40+k yr3, 30+k yr4, to 0k yr 5. Take a wild guess which year I spent the most time on the business…
WHY did I wind down the business you may ask?
Here’s why, over the last several years, our marriage has decayed to the point that I want no business of value should she decide to pull the plug on our marriage. Success has a downside when you are married. I’ve decided to limit my downside in the event of a divorce that would require me to be subjected to the slavery of an imputed income.
I’ll try to keep the business floating along for a few years with one or two minor sales to keep the books alive, but that’s it. It’s better to have no money when your marriage is in shambles than to have a lucrative business that you started yourself with NOT ONE dollar debt, and everything earned capital rolled over back into the business. Every dollar taken out is a dollar profit, not a salary based on debt.
This is how having a wife ruins good business, she demands all your time, but still wants the benefits of your success. Do not fall victim to this trap, it will kill your soul.
It’s sad to see potential customers constantly emailing me wanting my product, but I refuse to build it. If I build, I profit now, but I slit my own throat in the future if the woman I married decides to pull the plug.
I’m fully immersed in MGTOW at this point, and am doing all I can to keep an even keel at home for the time being as my boys are too young for a divorce to happen. I fully intend to wait her out either until she dies, or the boys are 18 years old. Luckily for me, both her parents died in their early 50’s so I might get off with a 10 yr sentence if genetics and her lifestyle decide to come calling.
I’m looking at this point to minimize the financial downside of marriage, and have come to consider the wife as a paid live in nanny of sorts, she cares for the kids while I work and I provide her with basic minimal necessities. She will not do my laundry, she cooks poorly (every decent meal we eat is prepared by me, she cooks from the freezer or a box), and considers making a 9yo prepare his own lunch a “teachable moment”. I’m not against kids learning to fend for themselves, but it’s just lazy not to make your kid lunch for school when he’s in Grade 5.
Welcome to marriage 2.0 after 10yrs with an entitled SEI (Strong, Empowered, Independent) woman who’s a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom). This is your typical woman who also had a 4yo boy when we met; he now chose to live with his biological dad when he turned 14 rather than live with his mother who I now have 2 boys with, a 9yo and a 3yo… (PS, independent only means you’re independent if you have a man’s child support/alimony ex husband #1 or soon to be ex husband #2 or welfare and child tax benefit income to live on,) Here’s a thought, if you’re so great, then GOOD LUCK EARNING YOUR OWN LIVING and being truly independent like every man has to be to make his own way in life.
It would only be fair to end this message by saying; everything you’ve heard about marriage is true. The sex gets worse, and then ends (once or twice a month if you’re lucky). The friendly interaction is traded for putting out relationship fires on the man’s part, (she’s yelling at you or the kids, and if you defend the kids you’re an asshole because you’re undermining her as a mother). The sword of Damocles is always hanging over your head, you’re f~~~ed if you do, and you’re f~~~ed if you don’t. Can’t afford to leave, can’t hardly bear to stay, but once the finances and kids get involved, it’s no party anymore gentlemen.
I’ll leave you with this thought; never marry, never cohabitate, never procreate. And for the love of god, stay away from single moms.
Signed
From The Ashes We Men Shall Rise
Nero 3 years, 5 months ago.
