The Divorce/Going your own way Residential Checklist

[JediTimParticipant 50]

While I’m still in the process of selling my marital home per divorce, I’m already spending time daydreaming about my own apartment (with a room for my small children).

I have never lived on my own ever! What sorts of personal touches have you added to your own MGTOW havens that have helped when you either struck out on your own when you were single or divorcing? No detail too small or big!

I’ve already planned how I would like to decorate my kids room, frosted beer mugs in the freezer, giant print of Hokusai’s Great Wave over the couch.

Inspire me with tales of your MGTOW havens, or even general divorce checklist items that were helpful for you during the process.

[jambearParticipant 282]

Learn how to cook. Eating out is expensive, plus cooking with your kids is a great bonding experience and teaches them a valuable skill and good eating habits.

Have a well stocked kitchen with kid friendly utensils and plenty of variety.

[CCC75Participant 13]

46 inch flat screen L.E.D.

Get a gym membership (planet fitness- eqinox etc)

Ipad – Imac

New clothes-new sneakers-new black dress shoes-3 crisp white dress shirts -nice jeans for dates

Get a new phone and change your number. Get a new email too. Also, if i was you before I get my apt I would do some travelling if possible. South America and Europe- 

 

[Tbowden1Participant 195]

@jeditim .. Do what YOU want to do my man! You no longer need the approval of another person to do what you want. I have a coffee table that is literally a foot off of the ground. Everyone I have ever met hates it because they think it is too low and they run their shins into it every time they come over. Is that my problem? Absolutely not… I love it!

Get exactly what you want and put it exactly where you want it. If you want to put a stripper pole in the living room, do it! Don’t take our advice for what touches we use (although advice can be useful), start by setting s~~~ up exactly how you want it, you don’t need us to tell you what you want in the living room.

[Tbowden1Participant 195]

P.S…. get the biggest god damn TV you can afford… women hate that, but make sure it is set on ESPN 24 hours a day, 365 days a year!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I don’t mind saying, I’m a design guru, and I invite you to behold the first and last chair a MGTOW could ever need or want:

The Eames Lounge Chair and Ottoman. (In walnut or rosewood) and black calf skin leather.
A timesless classic from 1956 which looks TERRIFIC in any room or home. Even on it’s own.

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It’s pricey but it’s HOT. It’s a cloud for your mind. THE quintessential Man’s chair.
It’s a must. (by Herman Miller) No. I don’t work on commission. But I have one myself.

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Arne Jacobsen lamp c.1960. Bruce Wayne has 5 of them in “the Dark Knight”. 2 end table and 3 floor version. Available in black or white.

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Saarinen end table c.1956. About $900. White marble (black is more expensive and rare)

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If you have cash to blow…. 4 or 6 chairs like this (“tulip”) around a Saarinen dining table (large version of above) and you will the envy of anyone who visits. NO question.

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The Nelson Bubble lamps (floor or ceiling) are lightweight and super cool. My favorite is the flat UFO shaped disc version.

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The MAD MEN sofa by Futurama only $1700. Finished at the back too (with walnut all around) you can even put it in the middle of the room. The same thing sells at Jonathan Adler for $8000.

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An LG LED TV.

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The Eames “Surfboard” coffee table. $650

This is s~~~ you just can’t go wrong with. As they become worn and used, they maintain their “character” and you can sell hem for close to the same money you paid. No bulls~~~. All of these pieces are definitely an “investment”. Even in a mediocre apartment, the s~~~ looks fantastic.

Best of luck with your move. I hope you create a paradise for yourself.
If anyone says “MGTOW Live in their mother’s basement”, you will point and laugh your motherf~~~ing head off.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I would add stock up on things you and the kids can do together.

My fondest childhood memories are playing cards and board games with the rest of my family, and family outings, picnics, zoo, car trips. I absolutely do not remember TV we watched or video games.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

S~~~… I forgot he mentioned he has kids. Sorry Tim. Wasn’t thinking. The residential checklist I mentioned is not conducive to children. Agree with RoyDal. Good times with the kids, roasted Marshmallows and going on road trips. That’s invaluable. No price tag can be placed on that. I respectfully withdraw my suggestions.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

I’m planning on a major gaming set-up.
Big-ass f~~~in desk. 3 monitors for my pc(I have 2 already). That chair n footrest that KeyMaster showed. Bar fridge right next to it filled with Carlton Draught and Ice Break. On top will be an espresso machine. I really want that full-size clone trooper thats in Barney Stinsons apartment in HIMYM.
No f~~~in TV since I dont watch that s~~~. Benchpress and weights in the 2nd bedroom.
God help any woman who enters in, they will know that this is a MANS abode. MINE. Not theirs.

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[JediTimParticipant 50]

@Tbowden – that’s the bitch (pun intended) of it. When finally faced with total freedom, it’s a little daunting. Although I do like the TV idea (oddly, hadn’t thought of that) and nurturing my DVD collection.

@ Keymaster – I love your ideas, but they wouldn’t mesh well with my 1- and 4-year old. But your ideas prompted me to do a little browsing and finally figure out the type of furniture I prefer as opposed to the nonsense she picked out!

To all – thanks for the encouragement and support regarding the kids. It’s an odd spot to be in (divorcing-dad-MGTOW), but the more I read, the more I realize I’m not alone and other MGTOW have started at similar points.

As always, I am humble grateful.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

The Eames Lounge Chair and Ottoman

This. I was going to say “get yourself a comfortable chair” for what is a king and a castle without a throne? The Eames Lounger is definitely not cheap but it is the single most comfortable chair ever made. You can not sit in this chair and not feel good about yourself.

Yes, I do have one… in classic walnut and black leather. I don’t spend as much time sitting in it as I would like, but when I do I feel like a million bucks.

If this particular chair is beyond your current budget, at least get yourself some form of comfy chair that you can sink into and relax in… it’s a vital part of a man’s home… right after a good kitchen setup and some cooking skills.

[RevMattParticipant 28]

1) A garage for your motorcycle and the car of your dreams.

2) A good stereo system with a turntable. Analog is better than digital and vinyl rules. A shelving system for your albums.

3) A second stereo for your bedroom

4) A basement with a workshop.

5) If you are a tv/video game guy by all means a large television, gaming console. I am an old dude who never got into Pac Man when I was in high school, so I don’t “get” the younger generation’s enthusiasm for all things gaming.

6) A pool table for your dining room. They make table tops so it can double as a dining room table if you want to throw a dinner party.

7) Some shelving so you can build a model railroad that will run the perimeter of one of the rooms in your place. Shelf layouts are better than 4 by 8’s because 1) they take up less room and 2) the only trains that go round and round in circles are the ones at the amusement park.

8) A slow cooker for stews and the best set of pots and pans you can afford. Learn to cook.

9) If you are a musician you will need a room where you can have a good amp, pa system, drum set, etc… What is the use of getting a divorce if the band can’t rehearse at your place?

10) Book shelves for your library. Books are important. Your intellect needs to be exercised just as much as your body. Buy lots of Hemingway, Cormac McCarthy, Tobias Wolff, Lee Harris (best political philosopher of our times) Socrates, etc… Your library needs to publicly express your rejection of the post-modern, feminist, meta-crap you were force fed in college and graduate school. Toni Morrison is ok but absolutely no memoirs written by women, manginas, or any of that bulls~~~. The Western Canon IS civilization.

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

My Muthaf~~~in’ List:

Maserati Ghibli

 

Bachelor Pad. 5-Bedrooms, 5 Baths.  Women Not Allowed

Home Gym

Jacuzzi. No Women Allowed.

Home Music Studio

Step Up My Dress Game…

A “F~~~ Apartment”.  Just for F~~~in’ Bitches…….Can’t Let Them know where you really Live…

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Here’s a “F~~~ You Ex-Wifey, Ex-Girlfriend” Bachelor Pad…

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

A “F~~~ Apartment”. Just for F~~~in’ Bitches…….Can’t Let Them know where you really Live…

Love this idea. I tried to talk a buddy of mine into this a while back… “Females will try to take you for everything you’re worth, but somehow they also love to date losers and give them (some other man’s) money… so we should buy a s~~~ car and rent a s~~~ apartment somewhere, furnish it with milk crates and cinder blocks and a futon and a fridge full of cheap beer and microwave food… put an old motorcycle or a bass guitar or something in it to suggest we’re a struggling dreamer… and that’s where we’ll bring hook ups. Whoever pulls first gets the ‘f~~~ pad’ for the night.”

I was all ready to sign a lease but then he went and got himself snagged by some gold digging whore because he drove her in his BMW back to the house he owns to try to impress her. Dumbs~~~.

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Doc…Totally Agree!

Unfortunately….Purple Pillers (i.e. Guys struggling between Blue and Red Pill-manship) can get a bit dumb baitin’ Pussy with High End Cars.   The Guy then becomes the Gold Digging Hoe’s Catch and life-long Dinner.

 

[In Which We ServeParticipant 111]

Personally I like the traditional man’s room look – officers’ mess/senior common room style  – chesterfield leather sofa, some old prints on the wall, well stocked drinks tray, pipe rack, lots of books, worn old persian carpet that you can spill red wine or cigarette ash on without caring.

[DakotaParticipant 341]

Just a word of caution if you are experiencing the siren call of the Eames Lounger as gushed over by this forum.

A buddy of mine wanted one real bad but couldn’t afford one, so he bought an indistinguishable knock-off (to impress somebody) and I kept it for him while he convinced his wife of its merits.  I had if for years.  Anyway, it was easily the worst chair I’ve ever had, and to this day, I throw-up in my mouth whenever I see its likeness.

The real ones must be something wonderful and, because of forums like this, the prices for them go up daily.  But I couldn’t care less.

Tip for the new flat:  A full-size arcade game from the 80s right in the living room; the kids would love it and think dad’s way cooler than mom AND you would be sticking your middle finger into the eye of every woman on the planet.  Best wishes!

[truthseekerParticipant 17]

You and I my friend are in quite the same position. I own my house and moved a woman 9 years older than myself into my house with her two children. Her oldest went to college, and her mother has moved in. We had 2 children together and I had one independent of her. It’s been half a decade and I am finally ready after countless arguments and “so called” breakups to leave. She’s had 2 jobs throughout our relationship totaling 4 months of work, while I’ve held up to 3 jobs at one point. I am even ready to leave my home that was passed down to me with a small mortgage. I want to be free. NOW! Is there any advice anyone can give me. Open to any and all suggestions on how to get the hell out.

For example, do you think I should just get an apartment, then tell her f~~~ off?

[truthseekerParticipant 17]

You and I my friend are in quite the same position. May I suggest approaching it as if it were a man cave, because essentially, it is. It’s yours. You own it, and no goddamn person on this earth can tell you what you CAN’T do with it. Sound systems, TV’s, Computers, Games, hell even toys the kids will definitely enjoy. Stock the fridge with grass-fed beef, natural foods from local markets, or even your own garden. You can have a weight room or not, because you can always use your own body weight as resistance to increase strength and appearance. This is my advice, and I speak it only as if I were talking to myself. I hope this helps. I am well on my journey to freedom at this very moment, and it’s a little anxiety ridden. I hope to see you all on one of my posts.

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