The "Cancel You Out Meeting" (Online Dating)

[Anonymous 12]

I read somewhere that women especially on online dating sites will look for reasons to cancel men out. The proof is on their profiles most times they usually have a long list of do’s and don’ts and some of those things are quite stupid and shallow.

Looking back on my online dating experiences I can see that many times women met up with me not so much hoping things would work out but more so they could cancel me out and move on to the next sucker. This would happen even after spending quite some time writing long and intimate messages to each other. To me that time is an investment and even though I met a few women from them that I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship it doesn’t mean friendship is out of the question. For women though it is that all or nothing pursuit.

It starts with that sense I get even via email, she wants to meet, it feels kind of rushed, certain words slip out in her emails, words that give me the impression of “Lets get it over and done with”.  Upon meeting I can tell straight away, no quick hug or peck on the cheek tends to suggest she has already made up her mind even though she knows what I look like and we have shared a fair about ourselves it is hardly a blind date. So handshake it is, if that, then we sit and have a coffee, doesn’t matter if the chat goes well or not, she has already made up her mind. This is just a formality now, I used to ask if she wanted to meet up again, now I don’t, spare me the speeches of how nice I am BUT….!

Anyone else find this with first meet ups?

 

 

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Do not bother with online dating. Ask out women out in real life because it’s easier to know if they are interested or not.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[RoyDalParticipant]

I haven’t tried online dating, but I have been canceled out in real life dating. I think I ended up better off than whoever “won” her.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

Anonymous wrote:

The proof is on their profiles most times they usually have a long list of do’s and don’ts and some of those things are quite stupid and shallow.

I pity the fools who haven’t understood yet that a date is nothing but a job interview.

Anonymous wrote:

Upon meeting I can tell straight away, no quick hug or peck on the cheek tends to suggest she has already made up her mind even though she knows what I look like and we have shared a fair about ourselves it is hardly a blind date

She may not like you, but that doesn’t she won’t try to get something out of you.

I’m done with dating, be it irl or online. I never tried online anyway.
If they’re worthless skanks in real life, I don’t see why they wouldn’t be worthless skanks behind a computer screen.
Actually, all the attention they get from thirsty males probably makes it even worse when it comes to online dating….

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Anonymous 12]

Mango Ingaway wrote:

I pity the fools who haven’t understood yet that a date is nothing but a job interview.

Oh I get it, it’s just after chatting to them a while I figure some rapport has been built up already.

Mango Ingaway wrote:

Actually, all the attention they get from thirsty males probably makes it even worse when it comes to online dating

I agree with that 100% women sign onto a dating site and before they even type the first letter of their profile they are getting hit on.

 

 

 

 

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

Anonymous wrote:

Oh I get it, it’s just after chatting to them a while I figure some rapport has been built up already.

Haha no prob I wasn’t talking about you, man, if you’re here that means you already know enough about male/female relations~~~s :p

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[avillaxParticipant 280]

‘Feminism’ is about equality, except of course, when they have to do things that are unpleasant such as be the ones hitting on men instead of the other way around. I’ve been cancelled out many times both on the phone as well as online.

The latest event was this bitch that added me to facebook because she saw my profile on a conversation exchange site, she had a boyfriend and I guess she was looking for foreigners to f~~~ and not get caught, she wanted to meet on Monday, then I contacted her in the morning just to see if the plan was still on and she said “her electrician was going to visit her apartment tonight so had to cancel out” which is probably BS. I already gave up on dating women but a f~~~ request by a hot woman is hard to pass by as I still have sex needs, so I took some Arginine pills to boost my libido and s~~~, and then got cancelled out as easy as nothing.

Just 1 more guy on the c~~~ carousel, why waste time?

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

What would women do without online dating sites? Men should get off the sites, and we shall see what happens!

We should no longer make it easy for them.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Mango Ingaway wrote:

I1 pity the fools who haven’t understood yet that a date is nothing but a job interview.

Which is why it’s so important to let a woman know she’s not a job. She’s not even a hobby. Walk away and she will come running after you.

[Anonymous 9]

Let them rot man…

 

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Looking back on my online dating experiences I can see that many times women met up with me not so much hoping things would work out but more so they could cancel me out and move on to the next sucker.

Excellent observation.

Men use positive methods of QUALIFYING prospective partners.
In other words, we look for reasons to say YES, and list off the POSITIVES.

Women use methods of DISQUALIFYING.
They look for reasons to say NO, and list off NEGATIVES.

…, and they look for them as quickly as possible.

When a man is considering a mate / girlfriend / wife / car or mobile phone – he compares and contrasts the POSITIVE features & specifications, and makes a purchase decision based on that. A woman takes every phone (man) and smashes it on the ground. She doesn’t actually KNOW which one is “better” or have a way of finding out. She doesn’t care about RAM, horsepower, storage, speed, or your core values… just which ever one doesn’t break and puts up with her s~~~ (tests)….. THAT’s the once she ends up with, and now she will begin to convince herself that he’s “the one”.

Women use “the American Idol” method of sifting through men.
It’s never the BEST singer who wins. It’s just… the last of the eliminated.

The BEST singers don’t even bother showing up to compete for that s~~~.
So she will never end up with / find / look for THE BEST man for her. She makes sure of this herself.

This is why women have NOTHING POSITIVE to say about ex boyfriends. They’re all assholes, jerks, losers and players. Every last one. No woman ever said, “I was a total c~~~ to him, there goes a great guy. He’s a winner who was not interested in me”. They are ALWAYS “losers” and “players”. Never WINNERS. She will never think of herself as a failure. She MUST convince herself “he’s not good enough for her”. She can’t live with herself knowing she f~~~ed up royally.

But a man….. when a relationship doesn’t work out, he blames HIMSELF.
“I should have done this …. I should have done that… I f~~~ed up.”.

… even when SHE f~~~ed up and screwed his best friend.

When he cheats, he’s an asshole who should pay.
When SHE cheats, he’s a bad boyfriend/husband who should pay — because he didn’t take care of her needs.

It’s all bulls~~~ and it’s bad for you. Don’t believe it for a second.
Dump that baggage at the door and you will be 100 pounds lighter – overnight.

Women actually go into dating situation (online or offline) and look for reasons to disqualify. You’re being interrogated, not looked at as a potential partner, but a potential EX. And she will try and determine “what’s wrong with you” before she tries to look for what’s RIGHT with you.

• “He’s never been married? What’s WRONG with him“.
• “His longest relationship was only two years? What’s WRONG with him“.
• “He’s on a dating website? (yeah honey so are YOU) What’s WRONG with him“.

This is also why female dating profiles read like she is disqualifying BEFORE SHE HAS EVEN MET THE F~~~ING GUY.

• “Don’t email me unless….”.
• “If you don’t like cats, then I can’t date you….”.
• “I can’t stand players…”.
• “I hate…. ”
• “I don’t want….”

PRIME EXAMPLE:
“Thank you for showing me what I DONT want, so that I can know what I DO want”.
/forums/topic/a-thank-you-letter-to-the-men-who-didnt-have-the-b~~~~-to-claim-me/

That is all kinds of f~~~ed up. When a woman like that “rejects” you, cancels, or disqualifies.. she just did you an ENORMOUS f~~~ing favor. Of that you can be 100% certain.

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A woman on a dating site thought she was clever and wanted to connect on the phone first. Said “I just want to make sure we don’t waste each other’s time-zes”. That’s how she said it too. “Time-Zez”. Like she is some f~~~ing genius who thinks she has it all figured out and can size you up for a lifetime over the f~~~ing phone in two minutes without spending a single minute with you.

I told her to knock the f~~~ing job interview style off RIGHT NOW. Acting like I was applying for a JOB… and she didn’t even mention any vacation, salary or benefits. She just wanted to know what I was willing do for her. My answer? F~~~ing NOTHING. Click. Bitch. Go ask someone else questions like “so what’s your idea of an ideal relationship”? I f~~~ing started LAUGHING at her. I don’t know if I want a relationship until I MET you – dummy – and I have had plenty of good times with you for months first and I know you REALLY, REALLY WELL. I told her only a woman wants a “relationship” with someone she hasn’t even MET or spent any time with yet.. and she is f~~~ing insane. I guarantee you she never forgot it. I made her so uncomfortable for using this approach, I am quite sure she broke down in tears after I hung up on her.

Just waiting for me to say something WRONG. So I gave her a goddam earful of it.

NEVER ONCE has a woman approached this looking for POSITIVES.
She is just WAITING for you to f~~~ up. Even when she’s a complete f~~~up herself.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 12]

@Keymaster- That is very true.

It is always the man’s fault when it comes to females. A prime example of this is “I was looking at him all night, hoping he would approach and talk to me and he never did!” – Well honey in this Post Feminist world perhaps you should have approached him, said hi and bought HIM a drink! But of course they won’t do this, it is too hard and they will lose their power position of being able to reject others and might be rejected themselves, of course if the man isn’t approaching then she is rejected anyway but she doesn’t see it that way in her little Femme mind.

I know from my perspective in the past that women have started off as being on a pedestal as having 100 points lets say, then as I start to talk to them they either retain those points or some will start to drop off, but my point is they started off as being winners not losers and if they end up losing points it was sometimes just because we clashed on certain things not always because there was something wrong with her.

Women on the other hand I believe start off as seeing Men in the negative, he will start from a score of -100 and have to impress her, work his way up to being a zero and then of course work some more to achieve 5o if he is really really lucky.

So what type of man can start at -100 and work his way to 100? A good looking, fast talking, wealthy prick who is arrogant and c~~~y and appeal to her most juvenile and materialistic nature until she gives him all the sex he wants and then he abuses her. Then she walks away after spending way too much time with this dickhead and blames all men for being jerks even though that guy who was too shy to approach her at the bar the other night or that quiet guy she shot down because he wasn’t wearing the right brand of shirt were the ones who would have adored her.

 

I also relate to the job interview phone call woman you mentioned. I hate those, one I spoke to actually acted like it was an interview, she asked these questions that seemed like she had written down ready to go at a moments notice, she came across as cold and business like and then at the end she asks me “Is there anything you would like to know about me?” I just told her “Not really, I just talk to people and see where conversations lead, I don’t conduct job interviews”.

The other thing that cracks me up on dating profiles is “Looking for marriage and to have kids” really? Do I get to know you first or do we just get married and reproduce? It just seems like another failure to me,  a bit like saying “I want to be a millionaire” that is a great goal but how are you going to get there?

 

 

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Women on the other hand I believe start off as seeing Men in the negative, he will start from a score of -100 and have to impress her, work his way up to being a zero

That’s exactly what you have to let be your guide. Thinking in terms of integers.

For example….. I had a woman on a date – on a f~~~ing DATE – ask me: “how do I know you’re not a serial killer?”.

In her eyes I am already in the negative. She expects me to PROVE that I am not less than zero. But I have worked too hard in my life and accomplished more than she has, so a c~~~ like this will not get away with it. I am not going worm to PROVE that I am NOT a serial killer, you insane freak. So I deflect it back with a question: “How do you know I AM????”

Done.

Another example: A woman at a gas station asked me for a small “favor”. I could have EASILY said yes, but I already sniffed out that if I said “no” she would act all offended like I treated her badly. She was just the type too. So I just said “no”. No reason. No explanation. Just …. “No”. Well she unleashed hell and acted like I was a f~~~ing asshole who treated her badly because I wouldn’t do her a FAVOR. That’s how you know “no” was the only correct answer.

When something you do for her does not count as a +1…..
it means she expects you to do it , just to get to ZERO. Else you’re an asshole.

NEVER allow a woman to make you feel like you need *work* or *prove* yourself to her… just so that she will not think of you as a “serial killer”. MOST men – damn near ALL men – are not serial killers, you f~~~ing worthless c~~~. I’m not interested in jumping through hoops to PROVE that I’m not a serial killer to you… when I can just push you out of a moving car and make you WALK. That’s how you’ll know I’m hot a serial killer. When I let you WALK HOME – all by yourself.

When she thinks a should need to WORK and PROVE that he’s not “less than an acceptable member of society”, she can get a puppy for that.

By the way, I rubbed it in that bitche’s face until she was SICK of hearing it. We went to a coffee shop and when she ordered from the guy behind the counter, I learned in to her ear and asked “How do you know he’s not a serial killer”?? When she ordered from a waiter….”How do you know he’s not a serial killer”?? At the bank. At the DMV. I made her CRY until she BEGGED me to stop rubbing her nose in her own s~~~.

“how do I know you’re not a serial killer?”

“I AM a cereal killer. I can murder an entire bowl of cheerios in under two minutes”.

Let her try and disqualify that s~~~.
And after she laughs and f~~~s you, DUMP her.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

Anonymous wrote:

It is always the man’s fault when it comes to females. A prime example of this is “I was looking at him all night, hoping he would approach and talk to me and he never did!” – Well honey in this Post Feminist world perhaps you should have approached him, said hi and bought HIM a drink! But of course they won’t do this, it is too hard and they will lose their power position of being able to reject others and might be rejected themselves, of course if the man isn’t approaching then she is rejected anyway but she doesn’t see it that way in her little Femme mind.

This just makes me lose my s~~~. I can’t stand this. Women are totally like that. Totally take you for granted. You can’t love someone when you have a mindset like this.

I met this girl (who turned out to be crazy fat) who had just put up her profile. Now, while I was greatly disappointed with her, I’m going to be a gentleman with her. Her phone was going off from the messages she got from her profile (she didn’t put up her photo, and the photo she sent me was a highly angled photo. I should figured it out).

She looked at each one… and at each one she looked… to no avail. Something was wrong with each. Why did she answer mine? Because of how I approached her. I told her she ought to respond to them to dig into who they are and see if it’s something she can do (because she honestly hasn’t a chance unless she does some work on her part… f~~~ it, it doesn’t matter in her case, she hasn’t a chance). I doubt she ever did anything more than continuously reject.

Yeah, there are the guys who try to entice, getting her thoughts rolling, the guys who just say, “hi,” and so on. It’s not good enough that he clicked on her account enough to try to initiate something. That was too lame.

I will give her points for having something on her profile that was interesting enough to mention. She wasn’t a boring person, but had some substance to her. Still, fat… you know how it is. Sometimes can’t change, and some things can.

I’m also glad she was the type to take good care of herself. She bought all her own things with the money she made. She has a career plan and has jobs lined up already. She just is going to school. She’s an artist and she’s doing graphic design. Good for her. Every woman should get a good job and earn her own keep.

Too bad she handwaved her fattiness by saying she “accepts” herself. Like that’s going to make me go, “Oh, now that you tell me that, I think I’ll get it up specifically for you. What was I thinking needing a cute, slender girl, like every other woman who’s not past her prime in all third world countries.”

So, in my line of work, I enjoy the pleasure of meeting all sorts of foreign women. I tell you the truth, so many of them are straight up polite. You don’t know how it feels to talk to a woman without fear or concern. Everything is face value, everything. I even have to make sure I don’t cross the line even though they kind of invite me. One girl, a curvy (but slender), hot Indian woman wanted to block me playfully trying to get past. To her, there was nothing sexual, but I don’t need to be developing feelings for her. She’s married. She’s just playful and fun too.

Things like that just leave me f~~~ing grieved. Why can’t western women be like that? Holy cow. Everything is a f~~~ing battle with them. They get men just begging for them at all times, and then they say, “Where are all the good men gone?”

[Anonymous 12]

@Keymaster-I like to respond to the Serial Killer question with “How do I know YOU’RE not a serial killer!” women seem to think that men are indestructible or something. She could quite easily kill or hurt me, lure me to her house where I am bashed and raped by a bunch of her friends. I am just as vulnerable as she is.

F~~~ them and their hoops of fire they expect us to jump through.

@Pascal-Yeah it is true. Western Women have turned everything into a battle and they aren’t happy unless the man gives in. But even when he does they still aren’t happy because he isn’t a big macho man anymore and that is what they all want even when they say they don’t!

I had a similar experience, was talking to a woman online, she was older than me but seemed really interesting and we were getting along great. We end up meeting and I notice she looks older than her photo online does. She confesses pretty much straight away and tells me the photo is about 10 years old.

Ok, great, but I keep going.

Where I lose it with her is later on in the meeting where she says that she doesn’t like people lying to her, she asks me if I have lied to her about anything! She puts up a 10 year old photo and asks me if I have lied to her!

Also if you posted a photo it doesn’t work on my end.

 

 

 

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

I like to respond to the Serial Killer question with “How do I know YOU’RE not a serial killer!”

I like to respond to the serial killer question with: “Good luck with your future endeavors, whatever they might be,” and walking away from the table, because at that point I’m finished with her. She blew it. If I’m feeling generous I’ll call over the first waiter I see and ask for the check (even if the food has not been served) and pay my share and only my share.

Life is too short to put up with that kind of crap from any woman, especially when you first meet her, because it’s only going to go downhill from there.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

Keymaster wrote:

Another example: A woman at a gas station asked me for a small “favor”. I could have EASILY said yes, but I already sniffed out that if I said “no” she would act all offended like I treated her badly. She was just the type too. So I just said “no”. No reason. No explanation. Just …. “No”. Well she unleashed hell and acted like I was a f~~~ing asshole who treated her badly because I wouldn’t do her a FAVOR. That’s how you know “no” was the only correct answer. When something you do for her does not count as a +1….. it means she expects you to do it , just to get to ZERO. Else you’re an asshole. NEVER allow a woman to make you feel like you need *work* or *prove* yourself to her… just so that she will not think of you as a “serial killer”.

This is so true. I went down to Vancouver for leave and realized I forgot extra soap, so I went to London Drugs (a Canadian chain drugstore type place) and was standing in a pretty decent size lineup waiting to pay. About 45 seconds into waiting, after someone else had taken their spot waiting behind me, I felt a tugging at my shirt. I turn around and some woman is pulling at my shirt. I look at her with a “are you f~~~ing serious” face, and she says, and I quote word for word, “Hey tall guy (I’m around 6’4″), I need you to reach something for me.” I just look more disgusted and say “No.” Like I’m going to forfeit my place in the quickly filling up line to be your personal ladder. She looked at me as I looked away like I had committed some grievous slight against her. Best part was about 5 minutes later as I was still waiting in line, I saw her walk out of the store empty handed. Nobody else had volunteered (including the store staff, clearly) to get this magical item for her. She looked upset. She made eye contact with me. I smiled at her.

She didn’t like that.

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