I have been reading the mgtow forums for over a year (from the old site)… and firstly, I just want to say Thank you to everyone here. I only found the site when googling ‘no sex from wife’. But the last two years have been such a waking up experience for me that its unbelievable.
I obviously read ‘The Manipulated Man’ (recommended by someone on the forum) and that just did it for me and it seemed that everything in my life pretty much followed that path. Since I am introducing myself, I’ll give you guys a summary of the relevant part of my life.
I had a long term girlfriend at university (at that point, I used to play in a band, got good grades and went mountaineering every year – and yes I enjoyed drugs too). After five years of us being together, we had a big fight and during the make-up session, she goes ‘you either commit to me and marry me or this is over’. I was 21, I was in love and we used to f~~~ and suck each other every time we were together. SO I said yes, finished university, got a job at a bank in London and got married (F~~~).
Fast forward twelve years, I have two kids (who I obviously love beyond belief), some savings, and I have sex maybe once a month or sometimes less. Last blow job was f~~~ knows when. OK. So sex is important to me, I like to f~~~ and I like blow jobs. And if you had asked me back then if we would ever stop making out – I would have said no way. But this is the order in which things changed – She worked for a year after we got married (she has a very good college degree) , then she quit – I cant remember the reason but I’m pretty sure I would have ‘understood’. Then a year later she said lets have kids – I still remember saying yeah sure (all I was thinking was awesome – we get to f~~~ more!), three years later we have one more kid, and she says we need help to look after the kids – so I got her full time help (remember she still doesn’t work). Now, I’m sure you are thinking – what an idiot – you deserve this – maybe I do, but all those years I always just thought about making her happy and nothing else. Its only when the sex started to dry up that I thought back to these major events and realised what was happening. At that point, if any of you said anything – I would have disagreed – probably even get offended. Now I realise that I am just a worker , a worker who is supposed to provide for a woman so she can live an easy life.
Anyway, so I’m here now, I love my kids too much to ever think of breaking the marriage (remember hostages? Esther Villar? – well yes, so she does have hostages and I’m negotiating). I now spend most of my free time away, watching movies, smoking joints and playing video games. I have completely stopped asking for sex.
What I want to do here is warn the young guys, I want to warn myself when I was 21. Please listen to me – there is nothing wrong in having a girlfriend (have four for f~~~s sake) – but a woman’s point of view and reality if so different from yours that you have no f~~~ing idea. If she sees you doing well at college, she’ll think “that’s good, he can get a good job and my kids can go to private school and I can buy a range rover and designer handbags”. DONT do this to yourself, almost every married man I speak to (especially the ones making lots of money) get almost no sex at home – ever. It is so consistent and widespread it’s unbelievable. You can have an awesome life without being married and I can tell you that I’m your regular mangina husband, and I’m telling you – you aint missing much (in case you think you will miss out on life). Just dont do it man, please I beg you, learn from my mistakes – Dont become a worker for some chick who doesn’t give a f~~~ who you are as long as you provide.
Thanks again guys and every day that passes – I actually feel like I’m becoming younger and turning back into the carefree crazy motherf~~~er I used to be when I was young.
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