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[Anonymous 43]

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Ask Amy: Shocking STD disclosure places partner at risk

By Amy Dickinson

October 1 at 12:00 AM 

Dear Amy: I recently found out that my partner of two years has herpes and has transmitted it to me.

I moved into her house about four months ago. While moving some things around in her garage, I inadvertently came across a doctor’s report showing that she had it. When I confronted her with the information, she said she had gotten it 10 years ago from her ex-husband.

She did not tell me (and I did not ask) when our relationship began.

I have incurable leukemia, and an infection from a herpes outbreak could kill me. Even when she was told that infections can be medically devastating for me, she still did not tell me about her herpes.

She says she just did not put “two and two” together.

My issue is that since she did not do the right thing by me with the herpes and leukemia situation, I don’t feel that I can trust her to do the right thing in any situation. Can this trust be rebuilt?

Trustless Man

Trustless Man: It seems that your live-in partner had no intention of revealing her herpes status unless/until you became ill.

Her two-and-two analogy is pretty hard to believe. She has an STD, and every sexual partner should be told about it, regardless of that partner’s health vulnerability.

If you wanted to continue in this relationship, then she would have to come up with a plausible explanation for withholding this from you. “I forgot” is not plausible; “I felt shame and thought you wouldn’t love me if you knew” is somewhat plausible.

After that, you would have to come up with a way to forgive her. If you weren’t able to forgive her for this, you wouldn’t ever be able to trust her.

My reaction is that this rises to an extreme level, and is not only unkind and neglectful, but bordering on criminal — like leaving a loaded weapon on the bureau and then being shocked and surprised when someone gets hurt.

So no, I don’t think she can be trusted. And I’m very sorry this has happened to you.

For trust to be rebuilt she needs to be a full partner, admitting her wrongdoing, asking for forgiveness and offering to answer any and all questions you have. She should also accompany you to a doctor’s appointment so you could both receive reliable medical counseling. A relationship counselor could help you both navigate this very tricky issue.

Yes awalt

[DwightDavidParticipant 859]

Lies of omission. Just one of their many tricks. Truly disgusting and selfish.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

Can this trust be rebuilt?

Spit out the blue pills! WTF! REALLY?

Anonymous wrote:

My reaction is that this rises to an extreme level, and is not only unkind and neglectful, but bordering on criminal — like leaving a loaded weapon on the bureau and then being shocked and surprised when someone gets hurt.

More like a loaded bear trap hidden in your bed! DEFENENTLY F~~~ING CRIMINAL! CHARGE THE BITCH FOR ASSAULT AND BATTERY ON YOUR PERSON!

If it were me I’d be taking her deep sea fishing for sharks and she can be the chum!

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

These c~~~s seem to get kick out of spreading STDs to men.

Worthless Psychopathic Parasites.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

She says she just did not put “two and two” together.

Actually as bizarre to a guy as it may seem I CAN

believe a woman is this dumb!

Just giggle honey and open wide.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Why would you even want to rebuild that trust?

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[HitmanParticipant]

A good lawyer could sue her ass off.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Dude shouldn’t be talking to an advice column agony aunt.

Dude should be talking to a lawyer.

Don’t just mistrust the bitch. Don’t just break up with her. Sue her for every f~~~ing thing she has.

[BoarParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

Dude shouldn’t be talking to an advice column agony aunt.

Your one-liners always crack me up.

And I totally agree. There is nothing there to be rebuilt, except for the man’s perception of whimyn. Time to take off the blinders.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

I think this happens to more men then anyone can believe.

In my years as a local business owner I had many gold digger waitresses hitting on me. Instead of “using my privilege” I just made fun of them, gave them names and ignored their advances.

Thank god.

After a while, I could even see the herpes in the faces of 2 of these ladies…

And they wouldn’t tell anyone either.

I would have gotten it, and it is nasty, especially when you need “total health” for your job.

And then I thought of the “dark number”, meaning those cases that didn’t show their STD yet.

OMG. Don’t think about the percentage, don’t think about other things like AIDS…

I am just so damn glad to have refused to hook up with them…

It really is playing “Russian Roulette” sleeping with women nowadays.

Just not worth the risk and the effort.

Now that I read your stories, I no longer feel exotic when I don’t want sex anymore. Thinking about it makes my stomach ache.

Seeing the promiscuity of most women, just by simple statistical calculation, it is easy to tell how many of them are likely to carry some kind of STD.

A big “red flag”. This should be a “TopGun” thread.

To me, with my “heavy metal and pesticide poisoning” and MCS, an STD could be a death sentence.

So my heart goes out to all women: Enjoy your cats!

No, I’m not “a fool that can’t get laid”… I just don’t want your Chad’s germs and viruses!

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[GargamelSpectator 29101]

bigboy83 wrote:

These c~~~s seem to get kick out of spreading STDs to men.

Worthless Psychopathic Parasites.

Right, that’s why they should stay with their “Chads” where they got the germs and viruses from in the first place.

Hamster logic:

Oh, I forgot!

I didn’t think that I would mess up your life with that…

But, why DIDN’T YOU ASK ME????

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

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