Taking a break from dating women

[cardinal2007Participant 8]

I think it is time I take a break from dating women. I am craving a more equal relationship, instead of being tasked to make the decisions, to pay for the meals, the drinks, the coffee, the movies, but it seems as I’ve been desiring that more and more, that I’ve been met with more and more disappointing dates. Women would seem like they want that on paper, but when it comes to the dates they don’t offer to split the bill or go for the check, same thing with choosing restaurants or anything really, it seems women around here, even if they have a good career, want me to take the lead, pay for everything.

Has anyone here voluntarily decided to take a break from dating women to do other stuff? I am finding I don’t enjoy dating women like I used to because of the imbalance

[The Moth Attracted to the FlameParticipant 2982]

Oh yea, it’s f~~~ing complicated now to date and be a happy man at the same time right now. Good on you for realizing this and halting on your dating. Doing the same thing here.

[I_Walk_AloneParticipant 580]

Make that break a lifelong one. I’ve been single since splitting from my ex in late 2012. I’ve been using POF/OKC/Tinder since early 2013 and I’ve had a grand total of ZERO dates in that time. The whole ‘dating scene’ has completely opened my eyes as to what women think…….and it’s enough to put you off for life.

I’m 41, in good shape (I hit the gym 5 days a week and I have the body of a guy in his 20s), own my house, good job, car, savings etc. and I have had nothing but women straight up hating on me for being 5ft 8 (you have to be at LEAST 5ft 10 in Online dating world to be even worth talking to) despite the womens’ many failings themselves. Post wall, massively overweight, multiple kids to multiple dads, mountains of debt to accompany their mountains of flab and THEY’RE the ones sizing you up as a potential provider like a new arrival at a concentration camp being processed for labor/death.

The expectations of these debt-riddled, sagging hambeasts is off the charts. You are literally expected to be Superman just to save them from having to be Clark Kent. Why would anybody of healthy libido, mind and body want to take on a lookalike of Honey Boo-Boo’s mother, with a brood of kids and repayment demands piling up in the mail?

To date, I’ve had messages from the following on POF:

Morbidly obese women who still expect a guy in shape who has a good job, even if they’re on welfare themselves.

Well into their 50s but they expect a guy 10+ years younger than them.

Women who are generally a mess but expect a guy who has his s~~~ together.

You wouldn’t pay Ferrari prices for a beat-up Fiat Multipla, so why bother dating?

Being single – and your own man – is a blessing in this toxic age.

 

[RoyDalParticipant]

cardinal2007 wrote:

Has anyone here voluntarily decided to take a break from dating women to do other stuff? I

My break has lasted many years, and I do not miss a minute of the old days. Enjoy your freedom, and do not give it up.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Bl4ckSh33pParticipant 274]

Dating in this day and age is retarded. You’re making a wise choice choosing not date for awhile.

I hate to break it to you, but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard Morty then it slowly fades leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are going to do it. Break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science. -Rick Sanchez

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I took a break from dating to go back to school for another 2 years.  I graduated a year and a half ago, and my dating break is still going strong lol.  While forcing myself to take a break from dating because I was just way too f~~~ing busy with work and school, I realized how much stress and drama was removed from my life.

I’m sure I’ll end up dating again eventually but for the foreseeable future its not too high up on my priority list.  Its been relegated to one of those things that if I stumble on a cool chick in my normal activities I’m not going to block her out, but I’m not putting effort into online dating or trolling bars or anything.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

You better off then having one of those c~~~s, give you a lecture about her privileges.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

So stop dating. It’s just a ritual on the path to marriage, anyways, and why the f~~~ would you want to go there?

One of the most important things you can say to a woman is: “This isn’t a date.”

[RuprectParticipant 56]

cardinal2007 wrote:

Has anyone here voluntarily decided to take a break from dating women to do other stuff? I am finding I don’t enjoy dating women like I used to because of the imbalance

Deleted a couple dating site accounts within the last week.  Time to go my own way and dump the pathetic validation addiction.

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

My break from dating has gone on for more then 3 years. I f~~~ing love it, After my divorce I dated then got burned and dated again. The found a red pill, swallowed that f~~~er and life was never the same.

 

The dating world is such bulls~~~ anyways, often times it’s like going to a goddamn Job Interview, and I loath Job interviews. I’m the type of dude to just ask a chic to f~~~ and that’s it. Pump and dump, i don’t care about her emotions, feelings, or ambitions.

 

 

 

 

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[Anonymous 11]

Deus Ex Machina wrote:

I’m the type of dude to just ask a chic to f~~~

I have a friend that is like you now he has a stalker. Be careful Deus….

I don’t mess around with online dating too many land whales and attention whores out there wasting my time. There is always so much drama around women. I recently had an ex and my sister tell me all women are crazy so we are not very far off the mark.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

Hi Guys,

I just joined this forum, and this is a topic that I can relate to. I’ve had disappointing experiences with dating women (And who hasn’t?) for many years, and one day I just decided to invest some money into some books (print/ebooks) about dating. After reading this material (and looking at a lot of videos on YouTube about dating—including Tom Leykis videos, ha ha), I realized that most of my problems were related to how I presented myself to these women, and what kind of behavior I was willing to tolerate from them just to have the opportunity to have sex with them. First of all, I didn’t have much self-respect, so I didn’t feel comfortable demanding respect from other people. Second, I failed to clearly state my intentions for the kind of relationship I wanted and set boundaries for that relationship—-and that’s mainly why the relationships progressed to the “let’s just be friends” stage. When I would go on dates, I’d spend half of my time worrying about saying or doing something stupid—-it’s hard to really ENJOY THE MOMENT when a person is in that state of mind. I’d often feel sorry for myself for not trying to kiss the woman or not figuring out a way to “score.” When I was a young man, I was shy and socially inept, but, still, I commend myself for trying my best with the limited knowledge I was working with. Overall, my dating experiences have been hit & miss—mostly strikes with a few home runs here & there.

I am a middle-aged man now. I spend more time thinking about how I’m going to pay my bills than dating women. Dating is something I still want to do, but it’s not a priority right now. I am focused more on self-improvement (health, finances, knowledge). I think it’s important for me to feel good about myself—by myself—without seeking approval from the general public. Personally, I’ll feel good about myself if I can achieve a few goals that are on my bucket list:

1. I want to exercise, train myself to eat some healthy food (instead of my daily dose of junk food), and lose at least 30 pounds of fat.

2. I want to pay off $5000 worth of debt.

3. I want to get a better job or find a way to make some extra money on the side.

4. I want to finance a house. (I’ve always wanted my own house.)

5. I want a well-rounded education. I went to few community colleges and I stopped taking classes because I got sick of the whole experience. But now I am discovering all the different subjects I never exposed myself to. To me, the world is a much more interesting place when I read about these subjects and watch videos of college lectures. I remember a history professor once said that having a broad base of knowledge gave men a higher level of sexual appeal to women.  (Huh?) I didn’t quite understand the connection, but I do find that it is much easier for me to hold a conversation with women because I have more experiences/stories/anecdotes to share with them than I did when I was in my 20s—a time when I was obsessed with getting laid. I obtained the knowledge I have today by going out into the world, trying new things, interacting with people, making mistakes, and reading a lot of books. But there’s still so much more to learn! I’ve taken a few Biology classes, but I know nothing about Chemistry and Physics. I am also unfamiliar with advanced mathematics. Most of my college classes were a concentration of humanities and business courses.

 

If I can achieve these five goals, I’ll feel better about who I am, and my mojo will rise to a new level. Then I’ll feel more comfortable with meeting women, having a casual conversation, and getting phone numbers. I don’t want to present myself to them as a guy who has no money and a boring, meaningless life. Unfortunately, that’s how my life has been for many years…but I’m not going to let the past get me down. I made a plan to create a better life for myself, and if I can find a nice lady that wants to come along for the ride, that’s great. If some of the ladies don’t want to ride with me, I’m just going to accept it and move on. Several decades ago, I had a heart of glass and I’d cry over the young, attractive ladies that wouldn’t date me or didn’t want to be my girlfriend. Now that my heart has turned to stone, it’s going to be hard for women to break it. That’s why I have this nonchalant attitude about dating.  It’s okay if a woman doesn’t like me for whatever reason–it’s a free country. The point is: I’m not shedding a tear. I’m not begging for compromises and second chances because I’ve got more important things to worry about.

 

 

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

Your post made me laugh! The phrase,  “It’s funny ’cause it’s true” comes to mind. I’ve spent money on 6 month memberships of Adult FriendFinder and a few other sexy dating sites that promised me easy hookups with horny women. Jesus Christ! Most of these ladies are single moms with multiple tattoos (I’m just not into tattoos–especially if one’s entire body is covered by them.), piercings, mountains of blubber, and a profile full of demands from their potential mates (and scornful comments about their ex-boyfriends to boot). A lot of these women proudly admit to smoking weed (I don’t care if they do, but why would anyone tell the whole world they’re doing something that’s illegal?) and they’re also proud of being “sassy.” Being hard to get along with is not my idea of an endearing quality–but hey, that’s just me.  The funny thing is: even if I sent them text messages, I wouldn’t get a response because there’s a waiting list of 100 guys trying to score a date with them. The best luck I’ve had with these sites is: 1) Chatting with people who have fake profiles. 2) Getting a few texts from women and trying to negotiate a good day to go on a date….but this didn’t work out because of our different work schedules or she couldn’t find a babysitter. Some ladies would suddenly stop texting and then send a text the next day as if nothing happened. I should create my own dating website. I’ll call it, “I GET PAID AND YOU MIGHT GET LAID.” I’ll make millions of dollars and live in a mansion near the beach…and a harem of sexy women will be fanning me and serving me drinks by the pool.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

I’ve given up on dating a long time ago. I kick myself every damn day for spending time and money on self improvement and magazines that would make me appear more GQ. All I would get were women who appeared to be interested, but then when you asked them out, they would flake out. Then, upon hearing the horror stories from married friends and men who’ve been kicked out of their homes by their now ex-wives, and seeing on every magazine divorce, divorce, divorce, Kylie Jenner’s Birthday Bash, all this f~~~ing sensationalist bulls~~~, I say f~~~ this s~~~. I’m going my own way. And why the hell would any woman who makes more money than you expect you to spend money on her and not offer to split the bill. They have all the damn money. Why not be honorable and pitch in. That’s f~~~ing equality! I’m done with this stupid ass gynocentricism that plagues our country.

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