System Addict's Road To Manhood: My Brother's GF

[007 (Reborn)Participant 1672]

Sup Guys,

I made a post her last week asking how to un-pussyfie myself. Your responses were astounding. I tried to applying the principles that you provided to my life. Work was great this week. I’m in middle management, so I have a lot of responsibly. By simply using the word ‘”No” with confidence, people were very responsive. Nobody f~~~ed with me and they showed a surprisingly new sense of respect for me. I didn’t expect to see such quick results.

I started listening to really aggressive music whenever possible. It really got my adrenaline and testosterone pumping. I went to Karaoke at a bar with my friend on Friday. I was the designated driver, so I was completely sober. I decided to step out of my comfort zone and actually do a song. I sang “F~~~ da Police” by NWA and got a standing ovation. It felt pretty cool.

Yesterday I went to visit my mother. She was having dinner with my brother and his girlfriend. Let’s call her Nikki. My mom invited me even though Nikki told her not to. She doesn’t like me very much. The feeling is mutual. Anyway, everything was cool at first. Nikki and my mother cooked dinner while. my brother and I watched the K-state game. Then my mom and Nikki set the table while my bro and I prepared the meat. I called dibs on the end table because it is my favorite spot. Nikki disregarded this and put all my dinnerware on the isolated side of the table so the 3 of them were facing me. I protested and asked her why she did this. Her response was “I made dinner so I decide where you sit!” This kinda p~~~ed me off so I said “I am my own person, you cannot control me.” Ian awkward silence ensued. My bro didn’t say anything and moved his dinnerware to my side. She gave him a dirty look and didn’t say s~~~. I smiled on the inside.

Nikki brought up the subject of marriage during dinner. She asked me if I wanted to get married. I said “No, marraige is a bad investment.” She twisted my words and said “So you can’t invest in other people? You must have commitment issues” I responded saying “You don’t need to get married to be committed to another person. If anything, marriage complicates your unity.” Her refuted with a personal attack “Well you are going to die alone.” I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to turn this into a fight. Maybe I should have, but I didn’t feel comfortable continuing the banter.

The biggest problem that I have with Nikki is that she not only tries to control me, she controls my brother. My brother was practically my dad growing up. He taught me a lot of valuable lessons. He wasn’t the most alpha guy, but he definitely had masculine characteristics. I f~~~ing love that guy. Now he gets really offended when people say or do things that he disagrees with. Nikki does this too. I can’t have meaningful discussions with either of them because they’ll get mad. So I’m usually pretty quiet around them. I can’t be myself. Whenever my bro starts to tell a story, she interrupts him and finishes the whole story because she loves to hear herself talk. I can tell that he doesn’t like it, but he never does anything about it. My brother is turning into Nikki’s dog and it p~~~es me off.

Before I left, my mom tried to make plans for Thanksgiving. I felt reluctant to do so. I feel so uncomfortable with Nikki around. I’m staring to think that is her plan. My only family is my mother and brother and what better way to tear us apart then to cause me distress. Maybe that’s not the case and I’m deluded and self-absorbed about the whole situation. But seen this happen before with my other brother. His wife isolated him from our entire family. He only spends time with his in-laws now. I see him once every 3-4 years. Whenever my family does see him, his wife is such a manipulative and emotional train-wreck that we don’t stay long, I really would hate to see that happen to the only brother I have left.

If you have any suggestions on what I should to, I’d appreciate it. If you think I’m wrong, please tell me. I think I handle criticism quite well.

Thanks guys,

-System Addict

Pursuing Happiness and Freedom.

[Anonymous 18]

Your mom and brother are your own blood.

This gf of your brother is a woman that your brother puts his penis inside and in return she gets to feel in control and exercise some power trips. Like a bratty child.

Be the best man you can be and ignore her insinuating ways. At some point your reluctance to argue and debate will start to either make her look like a bitch or she would up the anti and your family would see her as a mega bitch.

Your brother might still prefer to put his penis inside her but she will lose some bargaining rights and won’t be able to control where you sit on a table when dining with YOUR family.

Ever heard about the joke where patience and a manipulative woman walk in to a bar?

Neither have I. They hate each other.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

As your brother showed you in the past, it’s now your turn to show him how to regain his b~~~~.

It may or may not work. One can only try.

However, remember who and what you are …. mgtow. You are going your own way.

Finally, tell that bitch that we all die alone. Nobody come with you. Not unless you take her out first ?

[Yellow WizardParticipant 41]

The biggest, BIGGEST thing you can do is shore up your relationship with your brother. Now that he is a WHITE KNIGHT, you have to bite the bullet and make your relationship change. It’s hard, but maybe think of ways you can sneak off and do things without her. Call them guy things. Whatever. Take the higher ground, as painful as it is. Wait for HIM to realize what a c~~~ she really is. It takes time. It will be painful. BEING CONFRONTATIONAL MOSTLY BACKFIRES. Take the high ground and develop yourself, find things you two can do with him but without her. Realize that he will eventually see your way. And be the powerful little brother that helps him out of his inevitable crisis.

Your mom probably hates that c~~~ too, but just wants to keep the peace.

And as far as the aggro music goes, um, I just got done over a span of 5 years of heavy metal and I gotta tell ya, anger is fun but overrated. Nothing beats self improvement while listening to smooth jazz…….but it takes time to appreciate being done with red pills.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Next time she brings about marriage tell her about 45% of all marriage fail out of those 45% womein intatte 70% of the time. Then ask her if she would go sky diving if the parachute wouldn’t open 45% of the time. Logically she should answer no then you tell her that’s what marriage is too me it’s too much risk with little reward.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[RoyDalParticipant]

Your brother needs to wise up on his own. He will, or he won’t — but you have no control over it. It’s up to him.

I agree that Nikki is trying to drive a wedge between your brother and his family. I have seen this over and over. New wife or long-term relationship girlfriend eliminates her man’s old friends and family one by one. It is what they do. It’s built in as standard equipment.

It is gut wrenching to watch men let women do this to them. When I tried to intervene, the men in question just dug their heels in deeper — I did more harm than good. (Finally, I wised up about sticking my nose in other people’s tangled webs. It took a while to give up this trait, but it’s a good thing in the end.)

… And it’s quite literally like watching a housefly bash its own head against the glass. OVER and OVER and OVER again….. and you wish you could tell the fly “find an open window”!! But you can’t . — KeyMaster wrote this in a different thread a few hours ago.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[007 (Reborn)Participant 1672]

Thanks everyone. I will attempt to strengthen my relationship with my family and continue to not take s~~~ from Nikki. I appreciate your advice.

Pursuing Happiness and Freedom.

[Dr PhibesParticipant 155]

007 (Reborn) wrote:

I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to turn this into a fight. Maybe I should have, but I didn’t feel comfortable continuing the banter.

Wise move on your part. I make it a point to never argue with children.

As for helping your brother, the best thing you can do is be there for him. If (or when) this relationship dissolves, he’s going to need a support system and that means you.

And, although it’s tempting, try not to confront Nikki, because if you get under her skin, then she will likely demand that your brother choose between you and her, and your brother may grudgingly choose her. I’ve seen this scenario go down many times.

Whatever happens, I wish you and your family the best.

"The wisest follow their own direction." -- Euripides

[Anonymous 18]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

Then ask her if she would go sky diving if the parachute wouldn’t open 45% of the time. Logically she should answer no

Law-she-kill-he

Ummm you underestimate her my brother. She believe in no suppositions. She knows its his ass on the line with 0.45 probability of getting f~~~ed. So will happily answer yes, and EVEN hand over the parachute (same worn by her ex who passed away).

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