Stupid….Stupid……Stupid me

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

This story takes place in the year 2012. I was depressed and looking for something to fill in that “empty” space. I should’ve been smarter to realize that a woman wasn’t the answer.

One day I met a lady off a friend. We seemed to be really talking and I didn’t feel bored around her at all. We exchanged numbers after and I went home. When I got home my phone went off and seen I had a text. I seen the message “I had a really good time with you tonight :)” I should’ve listened to my gut knowing these next couple of months would be a living hell for me.

She would invite me out and we would just have a good time. I felt I didn’t have to impress her, I felt I could be myself. Every weekend we were starting to hang out. Eventually after a while I was getting hugs from her left and right. However after 3 months, she told me she was going to move to Alberta. She said she needed to find a job and I was just down after. The day she left she gave me a very big hug and a kiss on the cheek. We almost had a moment but she then said I ll keep in touch.

For two weeks I didn’t hear from her. I was kind of in a cross roads whether to forget about her and move on, or hold on. Then on one Saturday morning I got five texts from her saying she missed me. We had a good talk, and asked her how Alberta was. She said it was alright and was still looking for a job. After a couple weeks I found out she f~~~ed some guy and started doing crystal meth. The conversations eventually turned into “me me me me me” All she would complain about is her situation and her new guy friend. Eventually he started becoming very abusive (her words) and she said she needed to get out of there. I felt bad for her (I guess you could say I was in love with her) and paid her way out. $250 gone. When she finally came back I got a long hug and she said thank you to me. I was happy to have her back and things seemed to go back to normal. I even confessed my love to her, but all she said was I’m flattered. I even asked her out, but the only answer I got was “we’ll see”.

We started hanging out again and she would tell me her stories about how this guy would verbally and physically abuse her. He did hit her as I seen a bruise on her face and back. Things changed once again though once an ex came back into the picture from the past. She allowed him to have sex with her. She even told me this and this is where I started feeling fishy vibes. She even admitted to me she was using him as a rebound. I made a joke saying “You could of used me” but then she got all p~~~y and said I shouldn’t be saying that stuff to her. It was then I realized I was in the friend zone.

The last 2 months I had to put up with her sex stories of her and this ex. I don’t know why she even told me this. She was really explicit about it and told me what they did. She seemed really confused. I noticed my desire her for was dying and all I could see was a little confused child running around in circles. One night they broke up and she was texting me saying that he was started to get angry and threw s~~~ in the house. I gave her some advice and told her she could stay with me (bad move, I know) or she would stay at her parents. She chose to stay at her parents (thank god). After 3 weeks I didn’t hear from her. Whenever I texted her I was mostly ignored and wouldn’t get a response. We were friends on facebook and I went on just for bulls~~~. I then noticed her relationship status was changed to “in a relationship”. I didn’t know what to feel. It was a mixture of a crushed heart, not caring, sadness?, and anger. It was during this realization I had to get rid of my feelings for her once and for all.

3 Months after of not talking to her (it was hell) I finally started coming to my senses and was getting back to normal. Then one night I got a text from her asking me how it was going. I told her I was fine and things are getting better. I didn’t say why. I kept the texting to a minimum and responded with mostly one worded answers. I wanted to test myself to see if I was getting over her. And I was. She then said I could text her anytime, all I said was cool. We broke off communication after that. Sometimes she will text me when she needs money or somebody to talk to, but I mostly just ignored her. I was finally cured of being love sick. What a waste of time.

No matter how good the woman looks outside, deep down there is a big bad bitch waiting to show itself. And who has to deal with that? Not this guy (me) The poor schmuk who’s going to fall for it. I learnt a lot during this lesson and have learned that they will seem nice, friendly and all that, but the reality is just some whiny selfish lady who will manipulate just to get her way. I wasted all my time and energy and for what? Her way, I got nothing out of it. I didn’t even get sex (not that I was desperate for it) or any thank you’s. The only reward I got was pain. But on a positive note I learnt all women are manipulate in some form or another. Even if they appear innocent. Never trusted a woman fully since.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

And that ladies is where all the good men have gone.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 18]

A woman’s nature is like water seeking hollow grounds to rest.

When she is down and under she lets gravity take her to the levels beneath ground.

When she is feeling active she aims higher.

You were sadly the hollow ground beneath the earth.

A woman friendzoning a man is a man one too many in her current situation of men.

[Anonymous 54]

A women knows in the first 2 minutes of meeting you if she wants to have sex with you.If shes trashy she’ll do it with you right a way. If she is trying to be vurtuous she’ll wait about two weeks. Past that ,it just aint gonna happen. Women will only be your “friend” to use you.Careful with your heart my friend. Save your love for someone truly deserving. Someone with four legs.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Holy s~~~ man. Sounds like you know better now. STAY away from women till your c~~~ detector gets ALOT better. I’m not putting you down, every dude here has been where you were with this girl, but from your story, you should have been “feeling something fishy” waaaay before you did. Your playing with black mambas without gloves dude. Keep reading brother

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

She did you a favor by keeping you in the friend zone. Imagine the child support checks, legal feels and 18 years of feeling like someone punched you in the gut, everytime you tried to take your kid out of a crack den and some asshole judge says no and forces you to support her meth habit.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Don’t feel stupid most all of us got to MGTOW the same way. The red pill is a jagged one.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

A women knows in the first 2 minutes of meeting you if she wants to have sex with you.

This

Kaido wrote:

However after 3 months, she told me she was going to move to Alberta.

This

Kaido wrote:

It was then I realized I was in the friend zone.

Equals This

Women & ‘friendship’ don’t mix

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10907]

I am sorry that you had to endure that pain. Most of us here have been in that very same situation and it could’ve ended up costing you more than $250.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

Mr. Spock wrote:

I am sorry that you had to endure that pain. Most of us here have been in that very same situation and it could’ve ended up costing you more than $250.

Thank you Mr. Spock. Now that you mention that it could’ve been worst. But looking at this positively it made me stronger and made me realize the truth even more. I should’ve gone my own way a long time ago brother.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thank you for telling this. You’re describing the “Jenny” character in Forest Gump. It’s not unique – as you well know.

She trusts you, she comes to you, she tells you her stuff, she spends time with you, she confides in you, gives little hints of mild affection…. and then runs off and does meth and f~~~s someone else. A lot of men can relate to the Forest / Jenny dynamic.

Then you hear from her out of the blue when she wants something, she plays like you have a “history” and a “connection”, and then like the cat who got the cream, she’s gone again for months.

“The cat who got the cream”.
This type grows on trees.

As soon as she got what she wants from you, she retreats and disappears to the corner to begin licking herself. I have known a couple of Jennys – and like cats, they can be pretty cold. Like NO feeling at all or consideration for you.

Kaido wrote:

I even asked her out, but the only answer I got was “we’ll see”.

That response from women is cringeworthy.
Who’s “WE”? She and her ego???

It comes from her thinking you’re asking her for “permission” for something. She say’s “we’ll see” which is like lowering you to a 4 year old asking mommy if you can have something. It’s so condescending.

THE MESSAGE: She and an unnamed 3rd party will consult and decide if you are worthy.
F~~~kk. Thattt.

Just yesterday, I actually saw a TV show clip on my phone, where a husband wanted to work things out with his wife, and she said “we’ll see”. It makes my hairs stand up.

Kaido wrote:

The last 2 months I had to put up with her sex stories of her and this ex.

No you didn’t have to.

Kaido wrote:

I don’t know why she even told me this. She was really explicit about it and told me what they did.

She has no consideration for you. A “Jenny” only cares about herself. Extend her the same courtesy.

“I’m not your emotional tampon. Get a girlfriend for that.”.

(*click*)

And don’t speak to her. Women you’re not f~~~ing are totally insignificant. Im not even saying that to be cruel, I’m saying it because it’s necessary to have that attitude.

To women, there are 2 kinds of men in the world. The one she’s f~~~ing, and the one who PROVIDES her with s~~~ – including “being there” for emotional support. Make her get a gay best friend instead.

In order to received ANYTHING from you, women have to get naked. It’s a radical change in attitude for any man, but it gets rid of “Jennys” for good.

One chance, per chick, per lifetime. No exceptions.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TicParticipant 4329]

Don’t ever give up your time to try to mend the problems of a woman who you’re not even having sex with. Hell, even the ones you’re banging should be kept at an arm’s length. It’s not what we’re taught as men, but, I don’t see how else to prevent their emotional manipulation.

God bless peace and freedom.

[Anonymous 5]

They think they are in control . But they don’t realize the cunning of men who learn either through second hand story’s of other men or personal stories about women’s selfishness and greed .

[SimpleLifeParticipant 439]

$250 and wasted time sounds like a bargain priced lesson, compared to the wringer many here have been put through.

And to truly be stupid you would have to have learned nothing from it.

[narwhalParticipant]

I don’t think I’ve ever been that friendzoned guy, but to be honest, it’s probably out of pure luck then anything else. Back in HS, I was the guy on the other side of the equation, and that taught me the lesson. I started dating this girl who had a guy best friend. It didn’t take much to see that the dude didn’t like me and was ‘secretly’ pining for my GF. I say secretly, though it was blatantly obvious. When I brought this to her attention, she denied it…because the situation was working for her. I never hung around long enough to see, but I’d bet the FZ guy ended up with her when her other options ran out.

It sucks when there’s a guy trying to c~~~block you at every turn, and when she uses him to try and control your behavior. Such situations are s~~~ for either guy.

I’ve seen the same situation repeatedly over and over. Never go for a woman that’s already taken, and never go for a woman who’s FZ’ed a man.

…if you’re going to bother at all.

Ok. Then do it.

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

Don’t beat yourself up. Your learning and it didn’t cost you too much money so that is good. Consider that a small cost towards saving your life. What is not good is you let that s~~~ drag out too long. Here’s my advice. If you are going to bother messing with women go after one that actually has something going for her. Not just oh it wasn’t boring and talking to her is easy. Hell talking to people is easy if you do it enough thats not a special f~~~ing talent. My personal criteria for even getting past the NO gate are the following. Must have job, car, money, own place, attractive, fit, like dogs, realizes marriage is never going to happen and is still willing to drop panties. That thins the herd rather quickly. Even then it may still be NO. If I get even a tickle in spidey senses i’m out. Of course there is always the easy and safest way to deal with this and its is to just rub one out and forget about that broad. Your hand never friend zoned you, strung you along, or f~~~ed some other guy before you.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[Author]

Posts