Study: Men view exes more fondly than women

[TaxGuyParticipant]

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/men-view-their-ex-partners-more-fondly-than-women-view-theirs-study-finds/ar-AAJXgnl?li=BBnb4R7

Interesting study. Apparently after a relationship has ended, men speak more highly of their exes than women do. Those are the facts. Then we have to interpret the meaning. Here is what we came up with:

1. The breakup was more likely to be the man’s fault.
2. The man misses the emotional support he received from the woman, whereas she didn’t receive any support from the man.
3. Women have the hive to help them move on, men distract themselves or run out and get a new girlfriend quickly.

A few thoughts.

1. Maybe men love deeper than women do. Maybe, just maybe, the woman never truly loved the man and just saw him as opportunity to extract resources from him.
2. Maybe woman are constantly hit on and start thinking the grass is greener with someone else and before they monkey-branch to the next guy they emotionally detach from the first guy prior to leaving.
3. Maybe the hive get into her ear at the first sign of problems and starts s~~~ talking the guy and telling her how awful he is and she starts believing it.

I find it interesting that even when the evidence is right there, the answer still can’t be that men are in general more committed than women. That they care and love more than women. No, that can’t be it. It must be some flaw in men, because women are perfect, and certainly more in tune with relationships than men.

But if women are truly the better sex and more in tune with these issues, then it begs the question: What were you doing with that loser in the first place? He’s the same piece of s~~~ on the way out the door that he was when the relationship started. And if he isn’t, what was brought into his life during the exact time of the relationship to turn him from being a good guy into a piece of s~~~?

Order the good wine

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

I don’t speak of my exes at all.
(Except here for academic lessons)
Why would I?
Why would you?

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

No need to speak fondly or otherwise of an “ex”.

They are an “ex” for a reason.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3753]

Luckily for me, I have no exes.

Muhahahahahah !

[MonkParticipant 16975]

TaxGuy wrote:

1. The breakup was more likely to be the man’s fault.

Given that wimmin initiate the vast majority of breakups, it would be better to say that he THINKS that it’s all his fault. Such is the power of the Blue Pill – even after he’s been shafted, he still doesn’t get it.

2. The man misses the emotional support he received from the woman, whereas she didn’t receive any support from the man.

Pretty much as per (1). He never got any support from her, but has convinced himself that he did.

3. Women have the hive to help them move on, men distract themselves or run out and get a new girlfriend quickly.

Wimmin have the hive to absolve them of all blame and to reaffirm their victimhood. Men have nothing. He is still a Blue Piller so needs vindication in vagina.

[Branched offParticipant 10920]

Men see things in perspective. Breakups happen for reasons but they also happen to just about everyone and not everyone’s exes are all entire mega bitches. We only call a woman a bitch when she is behaving worse than most other women. They can’t all be worse than average all the time, so it stands to reason that the majority of a man’s exes are pretty normal women. He liked them enough to get with them and he was probably not wrong about their good qualities in most cases.

Women only see what they feel. They split with him because something was wrong. He was bad because something was wrong. What a bastard!

I have yet to meet a woman over 40 who has had a failed relationship who did not have at least one horrible cruel bastard of an ex, most have several by that age. What happened to their famed intuition? Why did they choose so badly? Simple, -they did not choose badly in most cases. They just regretted their failure. Women cannot see the objective truth. This is why all this me too stuff and date rape the morning after is so dangerous. They are not fit witnesses.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Branched off wrote:

They just regretted their failure

“They” didn’t fail, “They” don’t accept THEIR RESONSIBILTY in ANYTHING never mind when it’s ALWAYS THE MAN’S FAULT….

When a Woman “Loves” you, she make you the focus of why everything is right in HER LIFE.

When a Woman figures out how much work their is to maintain a successful long-term relationship, she gets tired/bored, and suddenly the same Man becomes the focus of why everything is wrong in HER LIFE.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

Everyday I care less about my ex. Good or Bad. I never text her. Last time we talked was April for a child event. I’m so glad she left. So I would say, I’m making progress in my thought life.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3753]

Spleefer wrote:

Everyday I care less about my ex. Good or Bad. I never text her. Last time we talked was April for a child event. I’m so glad she left. So I would say, I’m making progress in my thought life.

That’s good news ! Keep at it, Spleefer.

[Vajra VarahaParticipant 1283]

All my ex’s live in Texas, well actually just north of that. LMAO

What a pair of Playboy t~~~ that one had…….

[GrumpyParticipant]

Sheesh..
They must have missed the other millions of men who don’t “view” their ex’s “fondly”.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

About your points:

1. No, love does not exist. It is not an opinion, it is a fact. Love is a concept created to control human behavior the same way that religion is.

The reason men remember exes more fondly comes mostly due to work put into it:
Men work a lot harder for a relationship, because they actually have to do something to be in it.
When you ask women about what is hard about a relationship with a guy, it is never actions that are hard, it is emotions and feelings.

A man can literally be “unable” to have a particular female because of how much she expects of him.
Now, it is also true that a female can be “unable” to find a guy due to being extremely ugly.

Both percentages are about the same: Only a few men can satisfy the most demanding females (not necessarily the best), Only a few females cant get any man.
That is the disparity in requirements.
The fact that a man can put so much work into a specific female and making her happy makes us value her more, because humans value what takes work to archive (Hard video games, hard sports, you name it).

Since females DONT need to work hard for males (especially those with good looks), they almost never have any respect for them unless they keep surprising them positively. That is why so many females dont remember exes as males do.*

2. Not exactly….. they do this with everything. With clothes, with home furniture, with new dishes… They look for change as a form of improvement. It is not perfectly clear why this happens, but there are severe hints that it has to do with trying to find the best possible scenario for the offspring to have a competitive advantage in the world. This however affects all their behavior so it is amazing when you live in a cave where a bear might come and eat you, sucks ass when you decide to divorce a husband and raise kids alone cus no one wants you.

3. Everyone can believe their own BS, that is not female-only.

*I however, knowing this value concept from about age 10, always made my girls work for me. My expectations were set at around 70% of what I would give (not money, work put into it). All my exes contacted me years after the break up and tried to make up, in some cases multiple times along the years, thinking I was somehow a great guy (I wasent, I just gave them the opportunity to earn something).
As you can guess, I never took them upon that offer.
Not because of trust issues (like you can trust anyone….), if I took them back in, they would never learn anything. Im pretty sure I made a few guys out there really happy.
Cant change the world, but I can change a few people’s lives.

[TronParticipant 285]

I really do not care much for studies. I look to see if they are scientific, peer reviewed, studies. Anyone can initiate a study. This is how bias creeps in. I would not put too much stock in this study. Your questions are very valid though.

Tron

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