Strip club – f~~~ right off

[ArctaeusParticipant 106]

Afternoon all.

So i’ve got my yearly trip to a strip club planned for this coming Friday. Saved up all year for a massive amount of alcohol, partying and strippers.

Might be going on a date on Sunday and she asked me what I was doing this weekend and I explained to her about a party and strip club i’m attending.

Then she starts saying things like “U know I thought u were sweet and innocent” and “I just don’t understand why u would tell me u were going to a strip club and we ain’t even been on a date yet ?” Surprisingly she had no answer when I explained that women go to ‘ladies nights’ all the time to see half naked/fully naked men and no one bats an eyelid.

F~~~. Right. Off. Serious red flag. Before I even go on a date with her, she’s starting to control what I do and where she doesn’t want me to go. At least I found out now before I went on a date with her.

[Right Coast CanadaParticipant 256]

She’ll insist on a night out at the male strippers with the girlz. Avoid the STD’s, don’t date.

[AwakenedParticipant 35206]

Arctaeus wrote:

she’s starting to control what I do and where she doesn’t want me to go

AWALT…..Sooner or Later

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Awakened and Canada have it right nailed down sir…I would totally give up on the dating scene if I were you…How old are you sir, if it is not to impolite to ask??? Just curious, as you peruse through the archives of other men’s stories here, I would assume that would turn your eye’s attention to the VERY many pitfalls in such actions…They can bring you nothing but harm, and despair…But then again, it sounds as though you have the red pill mind set already, so maybe your just out to have some company, but in these “all men are rapist’s” times I would take extreme CAUTION sir, the old adage the playing with fire can only get you burned certainly applies here, just be careful, IT only take a moment to have your entire life ruined forever…

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Anonymous 1]

This remember me of the years when I used to answer all their questions, I am so glad that those times are gone, and now I just do not give them my infos/plans.

Anyway, if a girl defines me sweet and innocent I would answer “when I was 10, yes.”.

[JVBParticipant]

The usual manipulation and shaming techniques. Well spotted, good call.

Peace is > piece.

[narwhalParticipant]

Arctaeus wrote:

Then she starts saying things like “U know I thought u were sweet and innocent” and “I just don’t understand why u would tell me u were going to a strip club and we ain’t even been on a date yet ” Surprisingly she had no answer when I explained that women go to ‘ladies nights’ all the time to see half naked/fully naked men and no one bats an eyelid.

Funny. She didn’t have a problem with you going, she just didn’t want to know about it. Now that she knows, she has to lie to her friends about it to maintain her reputation…or break the date.

Personally, never give her that kind of information. It isn’t her business. “Just doing something with friends” is enough.

Also, I wouldn’t be too bothered if a woman didn’t want me going to a strip club….if she gave me good reason not to go.

Ok. Then do it.

[HitmanParticipant]

forget her.
you do what the f~~~ you want.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Anonymous wrote:

This remember me of the years when I used to answer all their questions, I am so glad that those times are gone, and now I just do not give them my infos/plans.

Oh I tell them all my plans. And I make it VERY clear that if they don’t like it, there’s the door.

They never take the door.

The more you don’t give a f~~~(genuinely), the more it feeds their insecurities and drives them towards you. It’s just one of those weird ironies of life.

Many or even most women seem to lack a self awareness that men have. A lot of men do self destructive s~~~ because it feels good at the time, but at least we’re normally aware that it’s a bad idea and still choose it anyway.

Women on the other hand seem to frequently engage in stupid s~~~ but are totally oblivious to the fact while they are doing it.

“I don’t mind if he has a felony record and a face tattoo – I can change him.”

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[ArctaeusParticipant 106]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

How old are you sir, if it is not to impolite to ask???

32 years old.

Just wanted to vent my thoughts. Cheers all for the advice 🙂 Given my past experiences with women, dating is currently really not at the top of my agenda. I’m happy video gaming with the guys and focusing on fitness and myself 🙂

[Anonymous 0]

OR
She’s stripping on the side and is afraid you will find out.
I just plain don’t trust women.

[Anonymous 1]

Biggvs_Dickvs wrote:

Math wrote:

This remember me of the years when I used to answer all their questions, I am so glad that those times are gone, and now I just do not give them my infos/plans.

Oh I tell them all my plans. And I make it VERY clear that if they don’t like it, there’s the door.

They never take the door.

The more you don’t give a f~~~(genuinely), the more it feeds their insecurities and drives them towards you. It’s just one of those weird ironies of life.

Many or even most women seem to lack a self awareness that men have. A lot of men do self destructive s~~~ because it feels good at the time, but at least we’re normally aware that it’s a bad idea and still choose it anyway.

Women on the other hand seem to frequently engage in stupid s~~~ but are totally oblivious to the fact while they are doing it.

“I don’t mind if he has a felony record and a face tattoo – I can change him.”

I guess that it depends on what type of man you are(open, reserved etc.), and on the type of relationship that you want to have with the person whos asking questions.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

I don’t like being used by anyone. Walking in to a strip joint is the den of expert users.

Last time I went to one a girl came over and talked to me for 5min; she ordered a drink and left. Then some big guy came over and wanted 10 bucks for the drink that I ordered for the lady. So I payed, poured the drink into the seat of the nice lounger I was sitting on, and left. That was some 20 years ago and I never been in one since.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Anonymous wrote:

OR
She’s stripping on the side and is afraid you will find out.
I just plain don’t trust women.

Wouldn’t that have been a shock for you if you had gone without telling her, and found out she was one of the strippers? Not for the regulars here.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Anonymous wrote:

She’s stripping on the side and is afraid you will find out.

Exactly my thoughts. Your best bet is to have nothing to do with women at all–ever. They are a noxious brew of toxic venom and bile that will erode your sole, and psyche and leave you broke, broken, and wishing your were dead. Worst part of it they know this and they LIKE that they do it—its empowering to them to crush us.

Sure they are beautiful…but so is a cobra, and the cobra is no where near as deadly or dangerous.

[narwhalParticipant]

There are two other benefits to keeping your business to yourself. One, it encourages her to keep her business to herself, thus reducing the amount of mindless chatter. Two, she will fill in the gap with her imagination. She will likely assume that you had a date with someone else. She can’t shame you for that, because she doesn’t know for sure. She will think more of you though, because in her imagination you’re a wanted stud.

Aside, I also don’t really want to know these kind of details about her. I don’t care who else she’s dating, or where she’s work. It doesn’t matter in the short term. Yes, it can give you a glimpse of her mental state, but that is something you can read from her behavior and/or pick up later on. Part of this is because I don’t want the fact that she’s dating 4 other guys, or has a side job at hooters, to change how I act around her.

Ok. Then do it.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

Arctaeus wrote:

Surprisingly she had no answer when I explained that women go to ‘ladies nights’ all the time to see half naked/fully naked men and no one bats an eyelid.

F~~~. Right. Off. Serious red flag. Before I even go on a date with her, she’s starting to control what I do and where she doesn’t want me to go. At least I found out now before I went on a date with her.

Lol, f~~~ing baller.

[FaxmodemParticipant 1415]

I have given up on the dating scene, for many years now. It just not worth it.
The mint you want to go out and do things like that with your friends they freak out like your cheating on them. But its no big deal when they do that. As they are p~~~ed off your not spending any money on them. Yet women cant finger out why were no longer wanting to ask them out.

Us men didn't start the battle of the sexes, but we're clearly going to win it via the simple tactic of just leaving the battlefield in contempt."

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Arctaeus wrote:

So i’ve got my yearly trip to a strip club planned for this coming Friday. Saved up all year for a massive amount of alcohol, partying and strippers.

There’s a really good book/pdf out there on “stripper game” if you’re interested. The gist of it is you make it clear you’re no a customer but have something else they might be interested in. I used to go to strip clubs a lot, not so much lately because of work/school plus I don’t have one right across the street from where I work anymore.

Anyway, number one thing is – no lap dances. You instantly become a customer at that point. If that’s what you want then fine, just remember from that point on you’ll only be a wallet. Personally, I don’t get turned on by fake grinding and teasing. It’s just frustrating. What I do enjoy is holding a beautiful girl in my arms. Most of them will let you do that, especially if you’re a regular.

One thing to remember though, the girls at clubs actually have to pay a fee up front to dance there. That’s their “house fee.” They don’t get paid hourly or anything by the club, only what they make in tips for lap dances, etc. I give strippers and hookers a lot of credit because at least their intentions and motivations are right there on the table. Therefore common courtesy dictates that you respect their time – they paid a lot more than you did to be there. So tip them for their time, but make it clear it’s not for faked sexual interest. That combined with a good cover story usually nets me 2-3 (genuine, verified) stripper phone numbers every time I go to a club.

Anonymous wrote:

I guess that it depends on what type of man you are(open, reserved etc.), and on the type of relationship that you want to have with the person who’s asking questions.

Why? Your friends will understand completely. Anyone who objects is clearly not your friend – it’s the perfect social sorting algorithm.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

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