Hey bro, you remind me of my perils when I decided to take the deep plunge regarding my second marriage. I could sit here and parrot you on everything I went through, but seeing you already have that covered, there is really no need.
That being said, I would like to translate what I read based on my own experience, in regards to yours…
Finances, her attitude, s~~~ testing, her desire for kids, my feeling she hates her job and kids are her plan B, all of it
This is really plan A, make no mistake. Her agenda is to get it implemented asap at any & all costs. It is just a matter of time. Having you rope tied & providing resources by way of CS and/or alimony is the jackpot she is wanting to secure and cash in on.
Next 2 weeks were very good, sex on tap like a faucet was opened, even got a great BJ for the first time in like 2 months. She wasn’t s~~~ testing me, and was actually starting to follow through on promises and listening to me. Suckered me right back in.
She markets herself and the sex she gave for 2 weeks to be more than adequate in getting you to give her what she wants. The whole 2 weeks was a s~~~ test. Again, I am basing it on my round 2.
What I am saying is this. I basically went through this same gambit and my 2nd xw used this tactic. The lure of sex on tap, and I thought that I had won and got my way, and the sex on tap as well as me being in charge of the relationship from then on was no longer an issue.
I was up til the moment I signed the marriage license.
I told her she sounded p~~~ed off, she claimed the next day she was “only kidding”.
This, this and more of this!!!
Forget red flags here, NO, really… Nuclear launch detected, detonation & obliteration imminent. I see she has pulled out the sucker punch with the “only kidding” ploy.
Make no mistake, this IS the BIG ONE.
Make your partner feel s~~~ty then say you’re only kidding – hilarious right?
This is NOT the question here you should be FOCUSED on. It still puts your point of view through her eyes and stand point.
You would better serve yourself by looking at how she is manipulating you.
Do you believe that if and/or after she gets her way, that this tactic will be a dead issue? That she will never use it again to get the next thing she wants from you? Say, like a baby or two?
I wanted the peace and relationship so bad, I fell for the sucker punch, and finally got married for the second time….hoping that the girl I had once seen & “fell in love” with, would resurface.
God f~~~ing forbid I don’t put you first every f~~~ing day
This became my mantra, and I wasted 8 yrs of my life going through untolds amounts of hell & bulls~~~.
If you don’t make her first on everything she wants every day, the BS will escalate & continue, and (at least for me) you will never hear the end of it.
She would always act like she forgot stuff I would say, but it never ceased to amaze me, on how she could recall times I did not put her first, even if it was 7-8 yr old news.
I am really not kidding at all on all this stuff, but what’s really the kicker is this. That sex on tap thing, that she is using as leverage now, will make the desert look like an ocean after she gets her agenda set in motion.
I went months not getting sex, let alone intimacy or having my xw make love to me.
We strive for that companionship, and affection. When I wasn’t in a relationship, I wanted to be in a relationship.
I gave her all she wanted, and caved….and still didn’t have the companionship, affection, and relationship….or even SEX.
Phantom 4 years, 5 months ago.
