Staying Positive

[BushidoParticipant 637]

One of the hardest parts of being a MGTOW is staying positive – we were all forged in a fire, some of us like the proverbial frog in a pot of boiling water or dashed against the blistering coals until there was little left. MGTOW was the next step for many of us after suffering the stages of anger and depression – it would be logical to think that the negativity of such thoughts would be tied via progression into MGTOW; I admittedly fall prey to loneliness from time to time myself when I consider how easy a life of ignorance truly is…

Whenever I fall low, I put my energy into my work. Few things are as rewarding as sculpting success and building a magnificent reputation as a Man who can get s~~~ done. It allows you to become a master of your craft and a leader of your own right – if you so choose.

Even with my many commendations and expertise in my field, my life in the military forces me to watch friends disappear every time I go home. Save for a few family members who eagerly watch my progress, I have nobody to turn to – friends and confidants back home are nothing more than scraps of faded memories, now. I sometimes wonder if I should even see home again – who will I lose next? Even with my most recent promotion as a non-commissioned officer, I struggle – no longer do I have confidants or true friends and brothers of my own – and I wonder if there is truly anything worth living for. Even though I am one of the best in my field where I am, I still wonder if what I do is enough – to me.

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

Logic guides your actions, emotion guides your morals. Only you may decide how you use them.

[Anonymous 43]

my capacity for absorbing bulls~~~ is almost infinite.

I have learned material things are temporary.

[WallyParticipant]

Excellent post, it really hit home. The other day I had a meeting with some pharmaceutical reps regarding a new drug that treats the disease I have a support group for and they discribedthis patient who was bed ridden and was confined to a wheelchair but after taking this drug the patient could use a walker to get around, make their own meals live their life I guess my point is everything is relative, I was at risk for this disease but was spared by genetics.

I look at it in terms of the lottery if you offered me a trillion dollars but told me I would have this disease I would refuse the money no question. Life is to be savored and treasured.

You are one of the best in your field, embrace it if you enjoy it, otherwise find something that you do, yes life is worth living for.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[MountainMike68Participant 137]

Stay strong brother. Your work can be an excellent source of pride of accomplishment but it cant be the only thing in your life. As a man you are blessed with something females have never grasped… compartmentalization. Speaking from experience, on duty I give everything I have but once liberty is granted and the uniform comes off I dont give it a second though. What are you passionate about? You have a promising future ahead of yourself. Invest in it.

What value does a woman offer a man that he cannot get cheaper and easier on his own?

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Love the post. 100% agree. Since breaking up with ex recently and going MGTOW I’ve started feeling lonely at times but then started to pick back up PASSIONS I’d let go while blue pilling (golf, gym, etc), plus called guy friends I’d stopped hanging with – tomorrow a bunch of us are meeting up my place , playing video games and ordering takeout…they even said “Sweet! You gave me reason to get f~~~ away from wife!”

[Anonymous 6]

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

Bushido wrote:

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

Imagine that civilization has collapsed and other than basic survival, you have to use one of you talents or interests to make a living. This is what you should focus your initial energy on.

You can play music to entertain, write stories, repair cars, mend fences and roofs, build furniture, teach languages, grow food for barter, gunsmith, hunt, fish, paint, and anything else.

You find what you enjoy and throw yourself into it. We can’t force you how to live your life, but we can encourage it. Good luck brother!

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Bushido wrote:

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

What really works for me is being able to see the big picture, just like we MGTOW brothers can see. Having this rare gift is a true blessing. Most men cannot see reality for what it is, no matter how much they contribute to society. There is nothing more powerful than reality. Being able to shift our mindset from our animalistic side to a more spiritual side, is truly powerful.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Man, congrats on your promotion. Civilian life will never compare to the military so make the best of it and take it all in while you can. After I got out I needed the brotherhood and luckily my line of work provides that , although not as strong as the military brotherhood I’m lucky to work with a lot of veterans who understand and keep the brotherhood. When you go mgtow your brothers become your biggest asset. Cultivate them wherever you go. If you’re into guns find other guys that like to shoot, that worked for me and goes for a lot of hobbies.

Drive on SGT!

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Bushido wrote:

One of the hardest parts of being a MGTOW is staying positive – we were all forged in a fire, some of us like the proverbial frog in a pot of boiling water or dashed against the blistering coals until there was little left. MGTOW was the next step for many of us after suffering the stages of anger and depression – it would be logical to think that the negativity of such thoughts would be tied via progression into MGTOW; I admittedly fall prey to loneliness from time to time myself when I consider how easy a life of ignorance truly is…

Whenever I fall low, I put my energy into my work. Few things are as rewarding as sculpting success and building a magnificent reputation as a Man who can get s~~~ done. It allows you to become a master of your craft and a leader of your own right – if you so choose.

Even with my many commendations and expertise in my field, my life in the military forces me to watch friends disappear every time I go home. Save for a few family members who eagerly watch my progress, I have nobody to turn to – friends and confidants back home are nothing more than scraps of faded memories, now. I sometimes wonder if I should even see home again – who will I lose next? Even with my most recent promotion as a non-commissioned officer, I struggle – no longer do I have confidants or true friends and brothers of my own – and I wonder if there is truly anything worth living for. Even though I am one of the best in my field where I am, I still wonder if what I do is enough – to me.

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

One of the hardest things to accept, is that we are for the most part, alone in this world. Last time i flew, i looked at cities below, and realized how bizarre it is, that in a world of 7 billion people, we’re still lonely. But then i also remembered how dissapointed i was everytime i looked for companionship. Staying positive is a internal struggle, but i encourage my bros to keep pushing forward, because you being alive on this planet is what helps me keep pushing forward.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

I have a female boss at work, and she likes to put me down from time to time with her little mind games. NFG helps to some extent, but not fully, she’s the boss… So work is not that rewarding. Can’t wait to get away from this s~~~ty job.

What gets me going is knowing that I’m close to paying my debts and I’m mostly free, compared to other guys my age, who are either married, some with children, or in the process of getting there.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[AutoliteParticipant]

Bushido wrote:

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

I have no close ties living anywhere nearby but I don’t get lonely so that really isn’t a problem.

I have lowered my expectations in life quite a bit as I got older and I’m comfortable with that. I keep busy enough just doing the everyday things that we all need to do just to survive.

My goal in life is to just get through it with minimal pain. If you’re currently not freezing, starving or in constant agony then be happy. It’s what works for me anyway… 😀

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Bushido wrote:

Whenever I fall low, I put my energy into my work. Few things are as rewarding as sculpting success and building a magnificent reputation as a Man who can get s~~~ done. It allows you to become a master of your craft and a leader of your own right – if you so choose.

Thanks for sharing man.

Bushido wrote:

How do you carry on through the hard times, brothers? What keeps you going?

Here’s something I wrote to myself a while ago (in my first language):

Apply self discipline to anything you do and as long as your heart is still beating, never give up.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[AwakenedParticipant 35203]

I think that maybe YOU are Expecting too much from life in general. Dial it down a notch or two and try to find enjoyment an contentment from the simple things. ENJOY a favorite meal, BUY yourself a new “TOY”, Go for a RUN, LIFT WEIGHTS, Bike Ride or whatever You do, RELAX in a Hot Tub, ETC. ETC.

Start trying to RELAX and ENJOY the little things in LIFE a LIL BIT Every Day if you can !!

I’m enjoying a nice cup of coffee, exchanging some ideas and thoughts with you good brothers, and then I’m off for a hot tub, and that’s all before I actually start my day !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 18]

‘Staying positive’ is a misnomer designed to sell you happiness through material gains, women, or vices of overindulgence (booze, porn, gambling, etc).

The spiritual guru crap also comes into play in chasing this illusion.

A man’s world is not about being positive, it is about being content.

Once you accept the notion of being and staying positive then you also start feeling entitled to it. You chase what you want but can’t have. You get trapped back into the vortex of male disposability.

You can be happy and enjoy life taking meaning in simple and plain act of living life. You are alive, you are your own master. To an extent.

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