Starting to fight back

[boisdevieParticipant 257]

I’ve got to the stage when I just can’t accept the bulls~~~ that is online dating so I’ve been doing my best to try to fight back a bit.

Example 1.

Talking online to this woman. Seemed attractive. I said let’s meet up and she said OK I’ll get in touch in a couple of days. Couple of days pass and nothing so I email to ask what’s up – reply I’ll get back in touch real soon. Another couple of days and nothing. So I think she’s either f~~~ing around with me or she’s so badly organised that she can’t get her act in gear. Either way I’m not playing the game. I email her to say forget it and she goes ballistic – ‘you men are all the same’ ‘I need to eat sometime you know’. And so she proved what I’d thought all along – narcissistic c~~~ with a healthy sense of entitlement.

Example 2.

When women on POF mention that they’re ‘a few kilos over’ I ask them how many kilos exactly, mention that honesty is such a good qualit isn’t it? And tell them that I’m 1m70 and 68kg – i.e. excellent BMI. Not a single one has replied but I’m hoping it might just make them think.

Example 3.

Profiles with no photo. I email and  suggest that in my experience this means they are either:

1. Ugly

2. Fat

3. 1 + 2

And ask which one they are. No replies!

But sadly there are so many sad pathetic men out there willing to put up with this s~~~. The other evening I was playing badminton and a new couple turn up. He was slim, she was a land whale. Now good on her for turning up to play sport but I thought of the guy ‘you sad sad bastard to accept such a land whale. Where in your f~~~ing self respect man.  Surely porn and whacking off must be better than looking at that heap of fat with no clothes on a working out which fold is the c~~~?’

[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

That sounds like a foreign grad student I became acquainted with through an on-line dating site.  We arranged to meet for coffee but she cancelled it for what seemed like a legitimate reason.  Things can come up at last minute, so I accepted her reason.

 

The second attempt fizzled as well.  Apparently she had tickets to see some boy band that was in town at the same time.  I got suspicious as I heard nothing about it before.

 

OK, one last try, in keeping with my policy of “three strikes and you’re out”.  I arranged for us to meet at a fairly posh establishment on the university campus.  For that, one had to make reservations.  She agreed, but, when I tried to confirm that she was going to be there, I got nothing but silence.  I cancelled the reservations a day or two before and then informed her that I wouldn’t be wasting any of her time.  The response was a barrage of insult and abuse, something quite unbecoming someone with her education.

 

That was more than a dozen years ago and I never made an attempt at dating since then.

 

[MadmaliParticipant 36]

what I want to know is why the anger? Obviously you didn’t want to meet anyways. I think If I promised a girl a meeting but didn’t really want to go through with it and she one day after twp failed attempts to organize a meeting called me and said “Hey don’t worry about it” I’d be relieved and not angry.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

boisdevie wrote:

‘you men are all the same’

My response to that is always, “Oh really? Well from where I’m sitting the common factor in all your relationship failures is you.”

‘I need to eat sometime you know’.

“Wait. What? It’s been days. How much do you eat?!”

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

There used to be a time when “online dating” was an excellent way to actually get laid quickly with minimal effort.  It USED to work like a charm but that was years ago.

NOW, women on dating sites fall in to one of the following categories:

1. Attention whores seeking validation/ego boost.
2. Dinner whores looking for freebies.
3. Dumbass dysfunctional bitches who lack the ability to actually have a personal one on one relationship with anyone and can only live vicariously through their computer.
4. Deluded Disney princesses thinking that Prince Charming will be on Snatch.com looking for a princess to sweep off her feet and whisk her off to Europe on his private jet to get married post haste.
5. Angry wooly mammoths with aerial photos to hide their junky trunks
6. F~~s parading as wimmen (I guess they get their rocks off like this?)

On the whole, dating sites are such an abysmal waste of time for a man.  If you want some tang your best chances are just hooking up with someone you meet in the “real world”.   These bitches (or possibly f~~s) will do nothing but waste your time with endless e-mails, etc.  They never want to meet because they are either working their way through the list of potential suitors based upon perceived “hawtness”,  perception of what any particular man may be able to do for them, they just want validation they are still desirable, OR they have something they are hiding.  People who genuinely want relations with another human being won’t hide behind an unspoken agenda.  Actions ALWAYS reveal their true motives.  Never ever doubt that fact.

I recently perused POF thinking maybe I’ll find some t~~~ to pump and dump.  Geezus…I’m 47 and all these broads in my age range of 40+ are either divorced with kids or they are a f~~~ing spinster with cats/dogs or both.  Just reading a handful of profiles made me quickly abandon this idea.  They all STILL think they have a very high sexual marketplace value.  It shows by their self-described profiles.  The grandiose thinking just seems to be magnified the older they get (desperation of self-delusion?).  No man in his right mind will have ANYTHING to do with any of them.  Hell, even the simps and white knights know they can get a younger hotter version and therefore won’t have anything to do with these washed up MILFs.  F~~~ that s~~~!

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

Before on-line dating, there was voice mail.  I’ve had my fun and games with women on one service about 20 years ago.  Many who claimed to be “interested” in me were simply trolling and did it just to see if I’d respond.

 

Madmali:

 

I, like other people, need to make plans for how I’m going to spend my time.  I’ve got things that need to get done and I have to plan ahead accordingly.  If I make an arrangement to meet someone, I expect her to either keep the appointment or inform me in a timely manner that it’s off.  My time is far to valuable to waste waiting for someone with the expectation that she’s going to show up and she doesn’t.

 

I once had tickets to a good show here in town and I invited someone to go with me.  She accepted the invitation and I had coffee with her a few days before.  She confirmed that we were going to meet some place and head over to the auditorium.  However, she was in the middle of moving, so there was no way I could contact her.  She would have had to call me.

 

The day of the show came and no answer.  I reluctantly went to the show, hoping that she might be there, but was nowhere to be seen.  I sat through the performance with an empty seat beside me which I paid for.  Later that evening, I sent her a blistering e-mail message giving her a thorough reprimand.

 

Two days later, she finally got around to calling me, apologized all over herself, and claimed that her telephone was “broken”.  “Pig’s ear,” I thought.

 

That was the last time I ever did anything so foolish.  I have better ways of frittering away my money, some of which I could properly use as tax losses.  This incident, however, was not one of them.

 

[I_Walk_AloneParticipant 580]

Best fightback? Simply walk away.

I signed upto POF in March 2013. I know my place in the market, I’m slightly below average height (I’m 5ft 8) but that’s as far as physical deficiencies go. I’m facially OK and due to working out 5 times a week and monitoring my calorie intake I have a physique that a guy in his 20s would be proud of, let alone his 40s. Usual job, house yadda yadda.

Within the first few months I soon fell into the trap of only having landwhales message me. Average women would either blank me or message me back telling me off for messaging them as I wasn’t tall or hawt enough. (Honestly, how arrogant is that?) Pretty soon I started to doubt my own sexual market value. “Early 40s, responsible, kind, with 6-pack abs, guns, buns and pecs and only Jabba The Hutt lookalikes will even converse via messages!? How ugly must I be??????” They’d either be:

1. Obese.

2. Mid-50s (I’m 41)

3. Obese AND in their mid-50s.

I honestly thought that it was me. I really did. Then I did some Googling and found that most men have the same problem and even the most overweight, ugly, socially and financially inept women on these sites think that they are Kate Upton. I mean, some of the women’s profiles on POF are dripping with narcissism, spite and almost hate speech in some case. Gee, I wonder why you’re single, ma’am.

Just walk away from it. The juice really isn’t worth the squeeze. If you really were the kind of man that these princesses felt that they are entitled to, you wouldn’t even be on there. Search through the junkyard, you’re going to find junk.

[I_Walk_AloneParticipant 580]

Soul Man wrote:

There used to be a time when “online dating” was an excellent way to actually get laid quickly with minimal effort. It USED to work like a charm but that was years ago. NOW, women on dating sites fall in to one of the following categories:

1. Attention whores seeking validation/ego boost.
2. Dinner whores looking for freebies.
3. Dumbass dysfunctional bitches who lack the ability to actually have a personal one on one relationship with anyone and can only live vicariously through their computer.
4. Deluded Disney princesses thinking that Prince Charming will be on Snatch.com looking for a princess to sweep off her feet and whisk her off to Europe on his private jet to get married post haste.
5. Angry wooly mammoths with aerial photos to hide their junky trunks
6. F~~s parading as wimmen (I guess they get their rocks off like this?)

On the whole, dating sites are such an abysmal waste of time for a man. If you want some tang your best chances are just hooking up with someone you meet in the “real world”. These bitches (or possibly f~~s) will do nothing but waste your time with endless e-mails, etc. They never want to meet because they are either working their way through the list of potential suitors based upon perceived “hawtness”, perception of what any particular man may be able to do for them, they just want validation they are still desirable, OR they have something they are hiding. People who genuinely want relations with another human being won’t hide behind an unspoken agenda. Actions ALWAYS reveal their true motives. Never ever doubt that fact. I recently perused POF thinking maybe I’ll find some t~~~ to pump and dump. Geezus…I’m 47 and all these broads in my age range of 40+ are either divorced with kids or they are a f~~~ing spinster with cats/dogs or both. Just reading a handful of profiles made me quickly abandon this idea. They all STILL think they have a very high sexual marketplace value. It shows by their self-described profiles. The grandiose thinking just seems to be magnified the older they get (desperation of self-delusion?). No man in his right mind will have ANYTHING to do with any of them. Hell, even the simps and white knights know they can get a younger hotter version and therefore won’t have anything to do with these washed up MILFs. F~~~ that s~~~!

 

This guy gets it!

[Anonymous 2]

Soul Man wrote:

There used to be a time when “online dating” was an excellent way to actually get laid quickly with minimal effort.  It USED to work like a charm but that was years ago.

People (esp. women) never believe me when I say this. It’s entirely true. When I was 23-24 there was a huge pool of nice women to fish in. Nowadays that pond has become a toxic puddle of entitlement.

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