Starting to feel lonely

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

So im starting to feel better again.

Sold my house yesterday and got a chunk of money no debt and even the new Audi is all payed for – all mine!
Got a chance for new job in the Swedish Airforce, been working there part-time but may go over to fulltime since my other job is closing the factory, big blow for the community – 400 people losing their job for more profit. Moving it to a low income country.

There will be more setbacks of course but for now im watching porn, work-out an man-decorate the apartment i have rented.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

Let me Add my 5 cents:

I was raised with 3 women at home, no men (my grandmother, my mother my sister and me).

I have heavy traits of women behavior due to this, and one of them is heavy depression and loneliness.

I had 2 GFs in my life, but at a distance, and both that I loved above everything else in my life. That was the worst part as for when they left me, my life took a 2.5 year depression break.

 

For me, loneliness is fixed in a 4 way system:

-Porn. This helps to keep your head clear or sexual interest in women who are simply the right way for your reptilian reproductive brain. Lets you see things in context and in their full expression.

The reason women hate porn is because it lets men think more clearly and get away from those who are not worth it. (thats assuming any are).

It also lets you focus on other things like job, hobbies, interests a lot easier.

-Long term project. You want something that you can manage to get done, but that will be very hard and will take a long time. Personally, Im a gamer and I just came back to my favorite competitive game (one that i left for my last ex… so it has been a thorn). It helps a lot to have a challenge.

-Exercise. This is a total must. It helps is so many ways that I dont even want to start listing them. (Personally I started over a year ago).

-Keep your Ego in check. Your Ego is one of the worst enemies you will ever have. Most people will use it against you, especially women.

That girl that you dumped, its your EGO telling you stupid stuff like “remember when [followed by something you liked with her]” or “You might not find someone like here again” (In this case you should tell yourself, thank god for that). YOu Ego is also the thing that keeps telling you stupid things like “If you are the only one without a GF you are a loser” etc.

Society has conditioned us too much since we were kids. Time to undo the brainwash.

 

[Jon the Ex-SquidParticipant 298]

I like that you’re being open about things Limpan and seeking advise. Keep that up. It will serve you well.

I’ll offer some things, some of which may have already been said but I’d like to reinforce it.

1: Masturbate. Its a straight up chemical/hormonal issue. Never go to the grocery store when you’re hungry. Jerk off before you go out for social engagements.

2: If you have a buddy you can trust who’s single, have him be your tailgunner. Not wingman. You’re trying to avoid getting into a fresh mess with women. He needs to shoot down anything that comes after you and back you up if you start going after a chick. Just tell him its not a great time for you, you’re not in your right mind, and to please step in if you get too hung up on some woman.

3: Avoid alcohol. Its a depressant and it limits your judgement. Nurse a beer or two if you go out to be social, but avoid the shots. “My stomach’s been bothering me lately” is a great excuse to avoid doing a round.

4: Hobbies. Self-improvement. Lots of great advise about this. Its correct.

5: Get out of small towns. Move. Leave. Small towns are incestuous little pools of snarky gossip. If at all possible, move away or else you’re going to go through this every time you run into this chick, or one of her friends, or a mutual friend, or that place where you first kissed, etc.

6: Go adopt a dog from a rescue or pound. Men have an urge to ‘save someone’, so save a dog. They are loyal to death, easy to take care of, and like to snuggle up at night. Man’s best friend.

Best of luck my friend. Stay strong.

[not2late4livingParticipant 2]

Correct. Love of women for men is a very potent stimulant to the point you actually experience the “withdrawal” symptoms when it no longer is there . Like most drugs, the effects make you feel good and that’s why you take them, but the “side” effects are what you don’t want. Just hang-in there, complete your rehab and you will be fine enjoying things on your own without all the stress women create in our lives.

“Burned in the fire, I no longer have the desire for love.”

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Going down again….depressing thoughts come back all the time. Shes dating others already ofc. The thought of her f~~~ing other dudes drives me crazy even though i dumped her.
Sometimes i miss the s~~~ out of this girl, i love her still…just want to switch off these feelings but i have to process them.

Suicide comes to mind but im not a quiter so i quickly push away opting out that way. Started skateboarding again, feels great. Going hunting with my father next week totally off the grid in northern Sweden.

Alone with my kids at the moment, they are great but the ghosts in my head prevents me from being the dad i want to be, They love me and want to be satisfied with that, Why do i need more? They should be everything!

Just having a s~~~ time at the moment but i really want to thank you guys here at MGTOW.COM – need you now more then ever!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[MotivParticipant 441]

Ive been where you are with my first marriage, I left her then went down hill when I watched her going on the up.. You need to not let the feelings take hold for to long bud, soon as you feel them coming back you need some type of pass time you can start doing as soon as you start to think about s~~~, It needs to be something that you can do straight away, I used gaming at the time as I could just loose myself in and this would make it some what easier to forget the hurt.
The more you think about it all the more your paining yourself.
Good luck bro.

Cool story babe now go make me a sandwich

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Yep gonna watch a movie with the kids and after that play some BF4, Just make this day move on!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

New day! Thank god, last 2 days have been depressing, figured ill use this thread from time to time just to write all these emotions down.

Woke up and felt instantly that i was in a better mood, I asked myself:
– Do you want to go back to a realtionship with that woman? After what she did to you? Isnt this better?

The answers to t hese questions are easy and came to me instantly, Im better off this way. I just have to get used to the emotional rollercoaster im on at the moment. Handle this s~~~ like a man

Self improvement for the win!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

LonerBoner wrote:

Sometimes i miss the s~~~ out of this girl, i love her still…just want to switch off these feelings but i have to process them.

Yeah brother, those feelings will pass. I had a breakup with a woman i assumed i would spend my life with (Thank Christ i’ve never been married) and ended up going through emotional agony for about 6 weeks. While it was happening, i felt like i wasnt going to survive it. But i did, and you will. The reason it was so overwhelming to me is that usually, i don’t feel bad after breakups for more than two days at most. But that time it was a real pain in the ass, much like the f~~~ing cow that i dated.

You are better and stronger than you realize. We men are Lions, and lions weep not for sheep.

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4353]

What you are feeling and going thru is about the same thing A crack or heroin addict feels when going thru withdrawls..About the same thing is going on in your brain as is happening to drug addicts in rehabs all over the world.
.This is a major reason people stay addicted .Because they don’t want to go thru withdrawals.I know what its like.I have been clean and sober for several years now.MGTOW helped a lot.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Yep it is an addiction, and im an addict.

But today was a great f~~~ing day! Me and my youngest son (11 years old) went to his riding lession and then out to my parents for a great family dinner, after that we took the boat and just cruised.
When we came home we met up with my oldest son (15 years old) and just chilled in the apartment, finally i went alone to the concrete skate park just around the corner and I ripped on my skateboard, great feeling, not a negative thought.

Soon im gonna read a book with youngest and then ill just watch some TV or play some computer games.
Today was a f~~~ing good day! I know bad days will come but i also know more of this will come in the near future.

Peace out.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8368]

I know the feeling. I used to date this woman about 14 years ago. Sometimes I find myself thinking about her and the good times we had in the back seat of my car. A few days ago, I used Google street view to look at the house she used to live in. I miss the physical sensation, not the relationship drama.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Some more time has passed, the weather in Sweden is getting colder, back from my hunting trip and have this week off before starting my new employment in the Swedish Airforce. No basic training needed, done that earlier during my part time enlistment.

Looking forward to hanging out with my group of young men ( i will be the old dude). A calm feeling has come to me more and more tha last weeks. I dont need a woman, i dont need the drama. Earlier it was thoughts and my feelings protested…im getting synched! Its feels great!
After this state of mind came to me (during the hunting trip) women all over of all ages are attracted to me, they see me somehow, cant explain it really. Its like when i dont give a s~~~ they chase me, read about this and i guess thats how it works.

Now im preparing for the tasks coming ahead, new work, good parenting and to continue to improve myself! I have come a long way but its a long way still to walk alone and im looking forward to it!

Just an update from Sweden, cheers mates!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8368]

I do rental real estate.  I am working towards a real estate trust for them.  Acquire tools and skills to repair rental property.  Just a few houses will keep you very busy.

Good advice. This is my plan for the future!

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Hi again guys.

Started my new job in swedish defense this Monday. Worked around the clock to Wednesdayy morning, sleeping and eating at work. Then im done working for the week, its great.
Met my group, solid dudes that i basically live with during work.

Its good times right now but im still missing that bitch that i dumped, f~~~ how long is it gonna be? She really hooked in deep.
Its getting better anyway so im staying strong.

See you!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Not feeling lonely anymore, last update in this thread.

My new job helped alot, great week again. Got all my combat gear, advanced stuff since we are working with real s~~~.
The other soldiers are good people.
They have already started to share some red pill stories with me from their own lifes.

Next week we have simulated combat all week around the clock in the terrain, good stuff! Going to be a tough week. Looking forward to it.

Signing out from the lonely mode!
/Corporal Limpan

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[prmai49Participant 52]

Take up Jiu Jitsu. By joining a Jiu Jitsu academy you’ll have plenty of time to devote to learning a new skill and you’ll be surrounded by a solid group of individuals that you’ll grow and bond with.

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