Sperm Donating #101

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks for your soothing words. The thing about personality disorders is that it is very difficult to get an official diagnosis. Even the shrink who had seen her several times during two time periods 4 years apart could not officially diagnose her because in his words he ‘hadn’t seen her enough’. A person afflicted with a personality disorder has to have on-going observations for quite a while before a doctor can confidently diagnose. These afflicted people tend not to seek out shrinks anyway and if they do, they don’t stay long. They don’t feel they need to. This means that the best people to identify personality disordered people are their own family and friends.
I told the court everything I knew about her disorder including that the shrink had disclosed this to me. I feel the shrink told me this because 1. the relationship was over and 2. there were 2 small children involved.
The people in the family court did not care about the many examples I gave of her behaviour that was indicative of her disorder, and they didn’t care that a shrink had suggested she has it.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

I’m sorry to hear all the trouble you’ve been through. I can relate a bit, as I have also been in the claws of a woman with a personality disorder, probably borderline, I think she was also bipolar. I’m not sure, since she didn’t want to see a shrink because, in her own words in a moment of sincerity: “I am afraid what they might do to me” [if they find out I’m a monster].

Those were dark times for me, and at some point I have also had suicidal thoughts. I think this was the final straw. It awakened anger inside me, which lead to the realization that I deserve to live and I deserve better. Shortly thereafter, I was turning my life around planning my escape from her. Looking back, I don’t know how the hell I managed that, given that I had zero help from friends and family, on top of the control and manipulation of the pretty monster, and no knowledge of the red pill at the time (plenty of blue pill brainwashing though).

Not wanting to hijack your intro, I will just wrap up with two points.

Firstly, you are much stronger than you think. Whenever you feel weak, find the resources inside you to keep fighting. Never lose hope. When things are FUBAR, they can only get better, as you have said.

Secondly, thanks for sharing your story. Somewhere, there might be a suffering man stumbling upon it, and a life will be saved.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Anonymous 0]

Cheers to you. IMHO many women who are labelled bi-polar are labelled as such because 1. It is an easy way out for a quick diagnosis. 2. Society easily accepts bi-polar as a mental health condition; it doesn’t have the stigma that a personality disorder has. If anyone is reading this thinking that maybe their ‘lady’ has a behaviour problem but they are not sure what, I urge you to thoroughly research Cluster B personality disorders. There are check lists available. Often these women are irresistible. They are very dangerous to a mans mental health. My saving grace was that I found it easy to cut the emotional ties with my spath. Many men find that part very difficult as they have the manipulation skills of a grand master. They are good at gas-lighting and really f~~~ing up ones head.

[darreljamesonParticipant 57]

I once dated a woman with schizo-something schizoactive? schizoaffective disorder… Well I looked it up at the time and it basically covers everything that one could possible imagine. Basically, they want to classify you without pinning down anything in particular. She never accused me of anything that didn’t happen. In fact, she never accused me of anything at all. She was not anything like what I would call schizophrenia.

This girl was possibly the only one that showed any empathy or concern for me or how her mood swings might effect me. She had day long mood swings though and was the perfect example of “she loves me, she loves me not. She loves me, she loves me not.” I could not deal with constantly changing between affectionate and outgoing then withdrawn and wanting to be totally alone. I believe she was bipolar manic depressive or Bipolar Disorder. She felt guilty about pushing and pulling me so much as she could tell it was hurtful to me, and that I consistently loved her. Maybe I was willing to put up with anything because she was smoking hot, could discuss things, even some of my issues that were coming to light; she truly seemed to understand, even feel the way I felt about things.

She said she couldn’t stand it to put me through that anymore (her mood swings and indecisiveness), that she felt terrible about her condition causing me such worry, and that she was done with relationships until she could straighten herself out. She looked like she was going to fall apart when she told me that she couldn’t see me anymore. Honestly, she is one of two women that I am glad that I dated. Also, she never asked me for anything, not money, not to buy her s~~~, not to take her to expensive entertainment. She worked and paid he own way. Truly unique among women, and I wish her the best. This is the big difference…she did not want me to give her anything or do her any favors, unfortunately she was as unstable as they come and not able to maintain feelings for someone instead of switching off/on every other day. In 10 years, I have not been with another woman that didn’t try to use her body or victimhood to manipulate me, but she could not decide if she loved me for more than a day at a time. It is impossible to have a relationship with such a bipolar person.

Your woman problem is far worse. Gold digging skanks looking for free rides are far worse because they can never really love a man for even one day as they are far too in love with his wallet.

Before you say NAWALT, condemn those women publicly; it's like a signal flare to the good men you can't find. But. first...stop being THAT girl.

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m beginning to think most women are a bit crazy in one way or another. Either that or I’ve been really unlucky. The ‘lady’ in your story at least recognised that she had a problem and it bothered her, so she hopefully will eventually find the right treatment for herself. It would have been a very high maintenance relationship if you’d stayed, even though she wasn’t displaying many of the other common female parasitic traits.

[Sagaciously SingleParticipant 214]

Welcome Parasite Free and thank you for sharing your story with us all.

You’re among friends here so feel free to vent anytime!

I’m not even a month on from having my vasectomy (read my posts for the brief story there!) and I have zero regrets whatsoever. I should’ve done it years ago!!!

Take it easy mate.

"And this you can know - fear the time when Manself will not suffer and die for a concept, for this one quality is the foundation of Manself, and this one quality is man, distinctive in the universe". - John Steinbeck.

[Anonymous 0]

Its been a few months now since I discovered MGTOW and posted my introduction. I’ve happily let it be buried in the MGTOW vault. Lately I’ve been feeling a whole lot better. I’ve just re-read the kind words that members offered me. I just want to say to those people that your presence helped sooth a shattered man. Thankyou. And thankyou to the Man/Men that make this place what it is-that being a place of healing for men.

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