Spending Money: How Much Self-Control Do You Have?

[~BSParticipant 3266]

FunInTheSun wrote:

Personally, I’ve had a history of being out-of-control when it comes to spending money. But I have been making some progress, lately. My goal is to limit my spending to $6 during my work days. I try to spend about $2 on lunch. There are cheap frozen meals at discount stores (Dollar Tree), that you can buy for $1. And bottled water is often $1. For dinner, I eat soup and some bread.

If I have an off day, I’ll see a matinee movie for entertainment ($6), get something to eat ($4) take a walk in the park (free), or go to the library (free).

I’m tired of wasting money, and I’d like to have a savings account with something in it instead of $0.

How about you? Do you have a hard time avoiding the temptation to spend money during the day? Or are you a disciplined spender?

Those are good goals, but buying water is a waste of money. I bring my own thermos to work every day.

Frozen meals are really unhealthy. you should learn to cook, you can achieve $2 meals that are better for you.

can’t you rent movies at the library instead of going to the theater? IDK, I always seen movie theathers as more of a dating activity than something i’d do by myself.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

~BS wrote:

can’t you rent movies at the library instead of going to the theater? IDK, I always seen movie theathers as more of a dating activity than something i’d do by myself.

Think about it, all of the biggest rip offs in life are relating to dating or meeting women. Nightclubs, bars, eating out, cinema and holidays are the ones that spring to mind, it is all driven by trying to impress women or trying to pickup women.

Not only that but you get the privilege of paying for both of you, so you get to pay twice for something you didn’t want to do in the first place anyway.

New cars, expensive clothes aftershave etc. is all sold with the idea that if you own these things you will be more attractive to the opposite sex. Don’t waste money on this crap as you do not need any of it.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

ut it, all of the biggest rip offs in life are relating to dating or meeting women. Nightclubs, bars, eating out, cinema and holidays are the ones that spring to mind, it is all driven by trying to impress women or trying to pickup women.

Not only that but you get the privilege of paying for both of you, so you get to pay twice for something you didn’t want to do in the first place anyway.

New cars, expensive clothes aftershave etc. is all sold with the idea that if you own these things you will be more attractive to the opposite sex. Don’t waste money on this crap as you do not need any of it.

lol they are. There’s a huge difference in spending from when you’re single and when you’re dating. Women love burning money on “experiences” like fine dining as well as on material things.

At least when you drop $200 on that drone you’ve always wanted, you can play with it for the next day, week, month, year. That fancy sushi dinner you just ate? The next day, guess what? It all s~~~s the same.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Think about it, all of the biggest rip offs in life are relating to dating or meeting women. Nightclubs, bars, eating out, cinema and holidays are the ones that spring to mind, it is all driven by trying to impress women or trying to pickup women.

It sure is. Buddy of mine wanted me to take his niece out to a night club last weekend but luckily I was working haha. He’s been trying to set me up with her for a couple months and I’ve been masterfully dodging. WTF do I want to go pay like 11 bucks a pop for s~~~ beers for after probably getting hit for a cover charge because its the weekend? Even if I wanted a date, its not going to be to a s~~~ty overpriced club that blasts bad music loud enough to the point you can’t even have a conversation. In the end what do I get for it anyhow? If all goes well a hug and a thanks for a good time(thanks for spending a lot of money on me tonight) as she makes a stop at Chad’s house on the way home for some dick, or worst case scenario she wants to f~~~/date me, in which case I’d have to find a creative way to get her to f~~~ off making her think its her idea so my buddy doesn’t get mad over it lol.

Its the same with all that s~~~…go to the local bar for tacos and a pitcher on an off night when the specials are cheap and your a cheap skate, get f~~~ed paying top dollar to go out to a movie Friday or Saturday night because you’d be a cheap skate if wanted to go a few hours earlier and pay half price for a matinee, go out to some over priced restaurant when you are totally content stopping at the local Mexican joint or grabbing a pizza any other night where you don’t have to try to please princess, or worst of all…pay for some c~~~s vacation. I’ve known way too many guys that pay for some c~~~ to go on a nice trip with them just to have her go cold on day one and dump them shortly after getting back. F~~~ that.

~BS wrote:

At least when you drop $200 on that drone you’ve always wanted, you can play with it for the next day, week, month, year. That fancy sushi dinner you just ate? The next day, guess what? It all s~~~s the same.

Absolutely. I’ve never understood going out for expensive meals…I’d rather just go out for a cheap meal and spend the rest of the money on something I’m going to be able to enjoy for more than the time it takes me to eat it. It always made my head spin when some c~~~ would complain about her man buying a 50 dollar video game he’s probably going to play for a couple months at a minimum, yet if they go out for a 100 dollar dinner weekend after weekend its totally ok. All said and done that dinner cost them both 50 bucks for an hour of enjoyment while the video game will end up costing <1 dollar an hour per hour of enjoyment by the time you play it out.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Beer wrote:

Buddy of mine wanted me to take his niece out to a night club last weekend but luckily I was working haha. He’s been trying to set me up with her for a couple months and I’ve been masterfully dodging

Just say “NO”. Keep it simple. If he insists to ask Why? Tell him that it is nothing personal, you’re just not interested in dating ANYONE at the present time. When and if that changes you’ll tell him. Otherwise please STOP trying to set me up. If he continues, tell him that you don’t really want to waste your time, but since he’s a buddy, and he WANTS you to do it for some reason, you’ll do it for him as long as HE pays for the both of you. It’s only fair, you’re investing your time to do something for him that you have told him you’re not interested in doing. He probably won’t ask you again, or ever attempt to set you up with anyone else ever again. If he offers to pay, get the money up front, and go out on his dime. I don’t think you’ll have to worry about that happening.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Awakened wrote:

Just say “NO”. Keep it simple. If he insists to ask Why? Tell him that it is nothing personal, you’re just not interested in dating ANYONE at the present time. When and if that changes you’ll tell him. Otherwise please STOP trying to set me up. If he continues, tell him that you don’t really want to waste your time, but since he’s a buddy, and he WANTS you to do it for some reason, you’ll do it for him as long as HE pays for the both of you. It’s only fair, you’re investing your time to do something for him that you have told him you’re not interested in doing. He probably won’t ask you again, or ever attempt to set you up with anyone else ever again. If he offers to pay, get the money up front, and go out on his dime. I don’t think you’ll have to worry about that happening.

Already told him no, it just doesn’t seem to register. I mean…I’m sure it registers, but he’s trying to do his niece a favor. Asking him to pay would just backfire because he’s loaded and wouldn’t care lol.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Beer wrote:

Awakened wrote:

Just say “NO”. Keep it simple. If he insists to ask Why? Tell him that it is nothing personal, you’re just not interested in dating ANYONE at the present time. When and if that changes you’ll tell him. Otherwise please STOP trying to set me up. If he continues, tell him that you don’t really want to waste your time, but since he’s a buddy, and he WANTS you to do it for some reason, you’ll do it for him as long as HE pays for the both of you. It’s only fair, you’re investing your time to do something for him that you have told him you’re not interested in doing. He probably won’t ask you again, or ever attempt to set you up with anyone else ever again. If he offers to pay, get the money up front, and go out on his dime. I don’t think you’ll have to worry about that happening.

Already told him no, it just doesn’t seem to register. I mean…I’m sure it registers, but he’s trying to do his niece a favor. Asking him to pay would just backfire because he’s loaded and wouldn’t care lol.

Maybe its time that you re-evaluate your friendship with this person. If you really don’t want to go then just tell him in no uncertain terms to either back off or get lost. A friendship shouldn’t stress you out, and you should not have to do things just to make a friend “happy”. That sounds more like a marriage then a friendship. If he doesn’t like it, maybe you both need to find some new friends.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[~BSParticipant 3266]

I’d talk to him about it and find out his motives. Is he really doing it for you, but is a stubborn thinker? Or is his harpy wife pushing for it? Or is he miserable in his relationship and wants company?

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[BeerParticipant 11832]

~BS wrote:

I’d talk to him about it and find out his motives. Is he really doing it for you, but is a stubborn thinker? Or is his harpy wife pushing for it? Or is he miserable in his relationship and wants company?

Nah…he’s an older guy. He married a woman who was a doctor who made probably 3-4x what he did. They never had any kids and the guys worth millions now. The wife isn’t pushing him to do anything because she died about five years ago and he hasn’t had any really serious girlfriends since…just casual dating and women that he keeps around only as long as they are fun and pleasant to be around.

I don’t think its a matter of misery loves company or a wife pushing him into it…I think its looking back at his life marriage was more good than bad for him. What I don’t think he gets is how much women and gender roles have changed since he got married 40 years ago. I know its his niece so he’s obviously is looking at her in a positive light, but he married a well off doctor…he wants me to date his almost 30 year old stoner niece who aspires to open a yoga studio and isn’t really doing anything with her life right now(basically the carousel ride is nearing an end and its time to find a walking wallet). Hell maybe if his niece was a well off doctor I’d consider it lol…

His niece is pretty hot though…I’m sure he’ll hang it up soon as one of the c~~~s she’s probably hopping on right now gets trapped in the boyfriend zone. Until then its just not worth starting a bunch of drama because the guy occasionally sends me a picture of his niece, invites me over when she’s around, or says I should take her out…its easy enough just to say I have to work or already have other plans or something.

Awakened wrote:

Maybe its time that you re-evaluate your friendship with this person. If you really don’t want to go then just tell him in no uncertain terms to either back off or get lost. A friendship shouldn’t stress you out, and you should not have to do things just to make a friend “happy”. That sounds more like a marriage then a friendship. If he doesn’t like it, maybe you both need to find some new friends.

Eh its not really stressful, and if I tell the guy to get lost its one of my neighbors I shoot the s~~~ with and have a beer with on occasion. Its easier just to ride it out for another month or two, have her hook up with some other dude, maybe have him mention what I missed out on, and then its all over…much easier than telling him to pack it and have to keep bumping into a p~~~y neighbor lol.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Beer wrote:

It sure is. Buddy of mine wanted me to take his niece out to a night club last weekend but luckily I was working haha. He’s been trying to set me up with her for a couple months and I’ve been masterfully dodging. WTF do I want to go pay like 11 bucks a pop for s~~~ beers for after probably getting hit for a cover charge because its the weekend? Even if I wanted a date, its not going to be to a s~~~ty overpriced club that blasts bad music loud enough to the point you can’t even have a conversation. In the end what do I get for it anyhow? If all goes well a hug and a thanks for a good time(thanks for spending a lot of money on me tonight) as she makes a stop at Chad’s house on the way home for some dick, or worst case scenario she wants to f~~~/date me, in which case I’d have to find a creative way to get her to f~~~ off making her think its her idea so my buddy doesn’t get mad over it lol.

After I split from my ex wife I was still very blue pill and I had many dates like that. I paid for the whole night only to get an awkward peck on the cheek and a “thank you for a lovely night” or a “you can drop me off here” as I drive her home. The amount of times I was kicking myself as I drove home thinking that was a waste of time and money. At the start I was dating Friday and Saturday nights, it would cost me £600 a week and I usually got nothing for my efforts.

As I became red pill and no longer gave a s~~~ it was amazing how internet dating changed. Instead of talking about boring, mundane s~~~ I would talk about sex pretty quickly and this would more often than not get the right response. Dating changed from paying for an awkward dinner, to telling them what lingerie to answer the door wearing while I came over to f~~~ them.

Not only was it free, I would get what I wanted and they would be the ones that ended up doing all the chasing. I have had them excitedly go shopping for lingerie to wear for me, buy special food for me and pay for takeaways etc. Also with this approach my success was 100%, they would always give me dirty sex the first time I met them.

Dating is such a waste of money and she will be f~~~ing some chad for free anyway who has to put no effort in.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Dating is such a waste of money and she will be f~~~ing some chad for free anyway who has to put no effort in.

Yeah…I was a bit surprised in my mid 20s when I was running into girls that said things like “I’ve never been on a real date before.” They certainly weren’t virgins…they just wasted all their being a pump and dump for Chads…don’t count on me to be your first real date honey lol.

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