So that's how it is

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

So after never officially breaking up and seeing her once in only 6 months and a few texts here and there, she texts this morning and tells me she is seeing another guy, it hit me like a ton of bricks. We were together for almost 9 years and this is how she finally ends things? This is the only real relationship I have been in and have never gone through anything like this. Just need someone to vent to.

[chirParticipant]

Don’t think for a minute she didn’t send you that text out of affection or friendship. She just stuck a knife in your guts and twisted it. In her hamster mind she was thinking “This is gonna f~~~ with his mind.” and a smirk passed over her face. Straight up manipulation.

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[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Thanks Chir, easier said than done at this moment. I thought she was different but I guess everyone here is right, they really are all like that.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Not to mentioned I got the “he’s the complete opposite from you” and how I’m a lazy worthless piece of s~~~, for no apparent reason.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

I know it’s hard now, but six months from now you will look back and realize that you dodged a major bullet. Anyone that callous isn’t good enough for you.

Order the good wine

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Thanks Taxguy, mixed emotions right now, all the blame has always been put on me even though I’m the only one that ever tried. Do ALL women avoid responsibility and blame on their behalf, or is it my particular situation?

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Workhard wrote:

Thanks Taxguy, mixed emotions right now, all the blame has always been put on me even though I’m the only one that ever tried. Do ALL women avoid responsibility and blame on their behalf, or is it my particular situation?

I don’t know. Enough of them act this way to make it very hard to cut the wheat from the chafe. When you say you were the only one that really tried, here is my take.

If you want something you have to give it. If you want someone to love you, you have to love them. If you want someone to respect you, you have to respect them. If you want someone’s attention, you have to give them yours. It doesn’t guarantee you’ll get it back but if you don’t give you will never get.

So, if you gave her your love, respect and attention and didn’t get it back, then you didn’t really lose anything. And since she left, she won’t go crazy on you like she might if you were the one that broke it off.

Emotionally you are stunned. But if you can look at it logically, what did you really lose? Someone who didn’t love you and didn’t respect you. Once the emotion subsides you will realize logically that you are in a much better place.

I hope that helps.

Order the good wine

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

Workhard wrote:

So after never officially breaking up and seeing her once in only 6 months and a few texts here and there, she texts this morning and tells me she is seeing another guy, it hit me like a ton of bricks. We were together for almost 9 years and this is how she finally ends things? This is the only real relationship I have been in and have never gone through anything like this. Just need someone to vent to.

Hey man I feel your pain. We all do. If you dont have kids count your blessings and find a way to move forward. If you do get a great lawyer and good luck. Come here and read if you need encouragement. Take it from an asshole that has no plans on being married. I have had many women say they love me and try to do anything for me to convince me to marry them and when I wont they always find a well to do blue piller with a fat wallet that’s stupid enough to do absolutely whatever she wants. Every time. It’s like they say in that dr. dre album… you never see them falling in love with some dude with a bus pass. I heard alot of phrases like “I deserve to have someone take care of me” “I deserve nice things/house/car etc. So many different situations so many of them ending the same way. Keep reading the forums and you might just realize your in alot better shape than you give yourself credit for. Be strong, respect yourself.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

When this has happened to me, it hurt like hell…
But looking at it as “Better him dealing with her s~~~ than me” has helped.

FYI: From my experience:
In a few months/years, she will circle back around with a “How are you/I miss you” text.
Delete it…and do not respond….EVER…

[Anonymous 18]

This is exactly the final coat of pain(t) you need to shine through. It will be hard and you will have conflicting feelings.

But in the end – and down the road – you will respect yourself more by maintaining ZERO contact. She is dead to you. Do whatever you need to – move on.

But they always come back – because women know when a guy truly cares and loves for them – but it’s in their nature to never settle without being emotionally abused and burned by Mr Tingles-My-Vag-Chad.

Either that or she found a beta chump for provisioning. She will come around to smear her period blood on your curtains – give it time.

But again radio silence from this point on. 9-years is long time but she took a stinky dump on the memories brother. Chuck them out – one day at a time.

[Anonymous 25]

Just go zero contact on her

They hate that the most

See the positive, you escaped a life of slavery. you have your freedom. pussy is easy to get

[TaxGuyParticipant]

XSDBS wrote:

When this has happened to me, it hurt like hell…
But looking at it as “Better him dealing with her s~~~ than me” has helped.

FYI: From my experience:
In a few months/years, she will circle back around with a “How are you/I miss you” text.
Delete it…and do not respond….EVER…

Yup, I totally forgot about that part. SHE WILL COME BACK. If you haven’t read this on the site before, your response is: One Chance, Per Person, Per Lifetime.

She was willing to throw away 9 years of memories once. If you allow her back into your life, she WILL do it again. Who needs that? And it isn’t mean, it’s just avoiding a s~~~-ton of drama that will end with her leaving again.

It’s just a variation of the saying “fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.” If you let her back into your life and she hurts you a second time it’s YOUR FAULT for letting her back in. Don’t make that mistake.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 6]

Give it time, the feelings will fade and it can only get better, don’t waste any more of your energy on a relationship with these creatures. Your as free as a bird now and don’t need anyone to love you but yourself.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

My ex girlfriend did almost the same, but we used to see each other every weekend, we’ve been together for 4 years.

One day, she stops talking to me and disappeared. I discovered that I was single because of a picture that she posted on facebook in a party with her friends some weeks later.

And that’s it. That’s why mgtow works, you know that those kind of crazy bitches don’t give a f~~~ to you, everything is about status, and how much you can provide.

Ugly or beautiful, introvert or extrovert guys, all experience the same s~~~. She now can think that you are the love of her life, then she will start to question, if she can do better, and well, while she still young she will at any time throw you away to ride the c~~~ carousel.

Logically speaking, it’s game theory, she thinks that she can do the s~~~ that she wants, and never get hit the wall, and always will be a guy there for marriage. But consider her oversize egos, a lot of manginas worshiping vaginas, so, if you actually worth 10, and she 10. At her eyes, you will worth 2, just losing for the mailman that have 4 missing teethes, and her, 50, because of makeup and maginas attention.

Girls usually go to night clubs, there, an dark environment, a lot of makeup, bras that make their t~~~ look huge, high heels that make her ass look half descent and a lot of drunk guys to massage her ego, what you think that gonna happen ?

There is a quote “give men power, and you will know who he is”. Society give women a lot of power, and there is, what they really are.

[Anonymous 42]

If you want my advice free yourself and swallow the pain for the last time and don’t do it again, GYOW!

Your life, your time, your fruits, all for you!

You won’t have the pay vampire fees FOREVER!

Some men get drained until they’re nothing but dust!

This is what a divorce looks like:

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

GOOD RIDDANCE !! Now it’s time to invest in yourself, and maybe a new toy or two in celebration that you didn’t end up marrying her or knocking her up in the process. If you had done either one or both of these then you would have real problems. Lick your wounds, and then CELEBRATE !! Just imagine the damage that you could have done to yourself, but you escaped. Forget the details on who, what, why, F~~~ it all, you’re FREE !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[SolidParticipant 7520]

@awakened nice advice ! I’ve done that, the sensation of accomplishment is great.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

After 9 years she treats you like that. A decent person would bow out and say it’s not working, making no attempt to hurt you. She will be back because she has no respect for you or anyone else. She will ruin relationship after relationship until you’re all that’s left. She will need you as emotional tampon while she is looking for a Chad. Be thankful she can’t sue you for alimony or you would be paying her to ride the carousal. If you don’t start today making a game plan for your future and well being then you will get what every pond gets when it goes stagnant.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Thanks for the encouraging words guys, it’s a strange feeling almost akin to a family members death. I’m glad I didn’t have kids and was not married. She told me I have no ambition…I have more ambition than most people I know, why try to cut someone down after you’ve already told them you have someone else that has replaced them? How damn heartless. It’s over and so be it. She can him and vice versa, it shouldn’t take him too long to catch onto her s~~~. I caught on pretty quick but stuck through it for whatever reason, I guess I was too nice or too in love to actually leave. After all the blame she places on me and denies any responsibly I simply tell her that “there is a reason your 31 and still single.”

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Workhard wrote:

She told me I have no ambition

Typical female shaming talk. AWALT

Workhard wrote:

why try to cut someone down after you’ve already told them you have someone else that has replaced them?

Typical whore turning the knife. AWALT

Workhard wrote:

How damn heartless.

Women are NOT capable of love. AWALT

I bet you can’t wait for the next lil cup cake to pop into your life. (sarcasm)

The time is yours, and now it’s time to move on !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

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