So my X emails me today….

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

So, I have ankylosing spondylitis, which is me hunching more and more forward because my spine is pulling me forward, constantly have between 3 and 5 pinched nerves, including my sciatic nerve, so bad I have lost sensation in my feet, and my poly-arthritis is so bad I literally have no cartilage left in any joint in my body. I am in so much pain morphine barely takes the edge off enough so I can get up and shuffle step across the floor. I finally got my disability after waiting a year and a half, not that does much, I lose 50% of it before I get my direct deposit to child support to my whore, bitch, cheating, filthy, non- human x-wife.

I ended my engagement last month and the relationship of 6 years. My x still has all her s~~~ here, and we have two german shepherd’s together, so she can still come out to my place and stab with dagger s~~~ comments every weekend…..

She sends me an email today….This is the 50th or 60th time she has asked me this btw, “There is still an opening for the head of the IT department, and they keep asking me if I know anyone, I told them all about you, and they want to interview you right away, please take this job Travis, it would help us get back on track together, I know you keep telling me your in pain all day, every day, and can hardly walk anymore, but when you take this job, the insurance will kick in and we can get you in to a better doctor, and maybe some better medication, what do you say, will you try????”

HOLY SHEEP S~~~ Batman!

I don’t even know what to say to this woman anymore, I am at a loss for word’s…

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Emails from an EX are always fun. They never type what they really want to say.

An ex of mine emailed me last summer.
“So what are your plans? Are you going to be home any time soon?”.
TRANSLATION: “I really want to see you”.

I replied: “Well actually THIS is home. But I did just return back (from her city) 2 weeks ago, and did some fishing”.
TRANSLATION: “No”.

They look like harmless words but both of us know what the other was saying. I know this because she didn’t reply to my telling her I was just there (I wasn’t). But it was a great way to say “even if I did come *home* I wouldn’t be the least bit interested in seeing you anyway”. If she is going to be indirect, slippery,and take a backhanded approach, I will too.

it would help us get back on track together.

If you can afford not to take the job don’t. Using it to get “us” back together? First she would have to indicate that the possibility exists.

You’re the type to have a sense of humor about it, but if it were me and I broke off the engagement:
“Is that a proposal? Where’s the ring. It had better be nice. Minimum 5 carats and UP”.
….and then add..
“An employer would make it REALLY attractive…. by offering a salary, vacation time and benefits.”

Awesomesauce.
(Hey look! I used it in a sentence for the first time. Owe you a beer)

If you do need (and want) the job – AND ONLY THE JOB – append it with: “Unless you offer those perks personally, the only person I will discuss a professional position with is a hiring manager directly and nobody else”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

I cannot really afford not to take it, but my mom has really stepped up and helped me out a lot, making it so I don’t need anything else at all, so I am not at all even considering it….She can kiss my rear side, I already got my ring back and sold it!!! I sold it to an online diamond reseller and made about 75% of retail back on it, so I was thrilled to no end…That is just how serious I am though, the ring is gone, so is she. I will NEVER, and I repeat NEVER be in any form of relationship the rest of my life. My choice. My freedom. I am 41 in  October, and I have never been on a more true or perfect path than the one I walk now. I hold my head high, and breathe sighs of relief the yelling, screaming, shaming, and all her s~~~ is done. It has never been so quiet here, and I have never been more at peace.

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[leobez84Participant 124]

From one IT lead to another, that’s probably the wisest thing you could do. You already know how stressful our job is by our very nature so adding the x-effect into just adds to that stress. The problem with IT folks that actually do the work and give a damn about their job is that we immerse ourselves in our job too much and think of happiness as secondary. Like you I was able to get out of that cycle due to an injury (torn ACL/MCL/PCL/LCL and meniscus) and I honestly don’t want to go back to it even though I do enjoy the work itself. Just do what makes you happy is what I say.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

I am 41 in  October, and I have never been on a more true or perfect path than the one I walk now. I hold my head high, and breathe sighs of relief the yelling, screaming, shaming, and all her s~~~ is done. It has never been so quiet here, and I have never been more at peace.

I remember that day (and realization) myself. No bulls~~~. It just came over me and I said nearly identical words.

I cannot really afford not to take it, but my mom has really stepped up and helped me out a lot, making it so I don’t need anything else at all, so I am not at all even considering it…

Well that’s great news. I was concerned she was trying to f~~~ you into a corner and you had no out. So man, if you don’t need it, don’t take it. Having her around AT WORK where she can get you hired (and get you fired!!) with a few well chosen words???….It wouldn’t sit well at all. So I’m glad you don’t even need think about it.

Now to get back to your original question. How to reply……. or if to even bother.
How satisfying would it be to send nothing. Not even a thanks but no thanks. Just “nothing”.

Women – even exes you’re not f~~~ing/dating/living with anymore – still will want power and control in your life. To have no view into your life or hold on you will drive them CRAZY. Their own need for control causes them to go totally nuts. I use that to my advantage.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I agree with Keymaster.  I have a feeling her ulterior motive is to increase your salary which would then make you a target for increased child support.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Ditto the wise advice rendered in the previous posts.

For those of us who are not among the cognoscenti, AK is no minor thing and the ‘medications’ she whistfully suggests are nonexistent: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ankylosing_spondylitis (I am ignoring pain relievers on purpose here. I would not take that crap myself.)

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Yeah, I totally went off the 75 Mg a day percocet, and the myriad of other dangerous, addictive drugs they were shoveling down my gullet…I now have a regimen of 1 day 1- poppy seed tea, next day 2 tea’s and I stick to it like religion, is it still dangerous, hell yes, and addictive, but it is as all natural as a pain reliever as I can come by, and it does help, a lot…

IT jobs, s~~~ I could write a book here on this subject. It would make you cry, laugh, clinch your fists in anger, and all that in just one story, one job…lol….

I was in that field for over 20 years, and still was amazed daily at the inhumanity, total disregard for other humans, and most of all, THE F~~~ING LEVEL OF INBRED RETARDATION the majority of our country functions at….Un-freaking believable. Really. If I ever hear another asshole tell me, ” Can you just get over here and fix it for me!?!?!” ever again my head will burst into flames and magma will ooze from my eyes and ears!

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Imagine just for a moment here ok….

You but a space shuttle. With NO F~~~ING IDEA what any of the parts look like or what they do. The space shuttle arrives at your door in the 100 trillion f~~~ing pieces a space shuttle takes to make.

What do you do? HMMMM

I will just call NASA and make a tech support agent tell me how to put it together and get it to fly.

I mean I spent a LOT OF MONEY ON THIS DAMNED thing they should be responsible for telling me how to f~~~ing use it…

LMFAO….

That is what every f~~~ing call felt like for 20 + years, I swear to god.

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[leobez84Participant 124]

S~~~ it’s sad that I’m about 8 years your junior and can certainly relate to that scenario. Just be glad you’re out of that grinder. I always felt so bad for those helpdesk guys and I honestly respect the fact that some made it a career although they do get pigeonholed into it. I remember numerous times where my management position suddenly converted into various worker bee positions (I remember being the PM, SA, NA, and cable guy in at least 2 projects) due to lack of competent staff (some helpdesks I worked with had real high turnover rates). It also blows when you have beta male superiors that will hire some paper qualified c~~~s to fill some bulls~~~ equality quota knowing their practical skills suck. It’s like we get Grand Slammed by the other team all the time since:

1) We have one of the most thankless professions. Much like farmers everyone needs us and they love to abuse us but will always thank their secretaries and accountants before they thank the guys that make the equipment they use work. I’ve seen it happen too many times at executive level going aways.
2) The pay does not reflect the workload especially in the private sector
3) The skilled ones seem to account for maybe 25% of the entire IT populace and end up doing 99% of the work.
4) The feminists are actually getting their way with their bulls~~~ since companies like Microsoft want to throw lots of advertising revenue to recruit more unskilled c~~~s that usually don’t even like the damn job to begin with.

DAMNIT! I just turned this into an IT rant… I should stop now before I go on for days about this lol.

[DurdenParticipant 1051]

I say take the job and if you have to be near her keep her at arms length do so. If your unable to balance a this job and keeping her at arms length I say don’t.

Of course I am not in IT so I would not understand the stresses of such a job and therefore am not qualified to give advice on such a matter. Although I looked into it. I would personally recommend going the independent root or teaming up with someone. With enough passion and a good idea you can do pretty well in IT or so I have been told.

 

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything

[experiencedParticipant]

As KM said, do not respond to her email.

And as RH said, she’s trying to set you up to screw you financially.

I would do what those guys say. Read your post quite a while ago and had no answer.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Robert Hallam wrote:

I agree with Keymaster.  I have a feeling her ulterior motive is to increase your salary which would then make you a target for increased child support.

I don’t usually “OMG” but I really did just now. As manipulative (without limits) as women can proudly be… THAT thought never even entered my f~~~ing mind. But it should have. I must be slipping and need another red pill. In the case of Jeremiah and his deteriorating health, that would be lower than I could even PREPARE myself to imagine. But I wouldn’t put it past her.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Good grief doesn’t this woman have any shame?  If she really cared about you OP she wouldn’t be collecting child support.  Disability doesn’t give you that much, if she really cared about your health she wouldn’t be collecting child support.

 

I think it’s common for women to yell at their loved ones.  When I used rent a room in a house I could hear this one woman yelling at her daughter during the night.  I was down stairs in the basement and she was right above me.  Both of my sister yells at their hubby’s and even my FWB yelled at me for stupid s~~~.  After my FWB I decided I was done with women.  Too much drama with women.  My step sisters, step mother, and one of my aunt.  Women are just a f~~~’in headache and knows nothing about respect or love.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[experiencedParticipant]

Please be careful;

http://poppyseedtea.com/

also watch out for getting an ileus from the tea. An ileus is baaaaaaaaaaaaad news.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Yes it can certainly be dangerous, especially if your looking to get high off the stuff. I would not ever, ever recommend that btw. It is not worth messing around with. No I keep my dosages very small, and the blockages I was not aware of, but constipation for sure, which is why I rotate the days like I do, it keeps all things “flowing” if ya know what I mean, lol…

I do not believe I have ever met a women that “feels” shame…

 

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